The Third Option International

The Third Option International The Third Option is an on-going skills based group program to build better marriages. Each of the fo Painful endurance or divorce?

Many of us manage our marriage as a series of choices between “His” desires and “Her “desires. We may choose either end of the balance line: either “Peace at any price” or “Letting it all hang out.” Why do we see only two options? Both options fail to bring us together, but instead tend to move us to extremes. Break through the clutter of past baggage and misunderstandings. Find the healthy middle

ground, a program called THIRD OPTION. Third Option is an on-going skills based group program that has been building healthy marriages since 1988. Each 14 session cycle covers a comprehensive set of tools useful for developing better understanding, sensitivity and trust while learning more effective speaking and listening skills. The Third Option means reconciliation. When couples are struggling they will say they have “tried everything” but what they usually mean is they have tried the same two extreme options over and over, never finding what works. (Example: they have stuffed their anger, or they have attacked with it. Neither will give them the marriages they want.) The Third Option combines skill-building workshops and sharing from mentor couples with a peer support group that is caring and accepting.

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Good marriages are made in the pursuit of one another over the pursuit of yourself. Constantly choose to love your spouse in the moments it would be easier not to.

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Your spouse is not your enemy.

Even when you’re frustrated.
Even when you disagree.

Same team. Always.

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via Christine Derengowski, Writer

05/27/2026

I think one of the biggest lies people believe in marriage is that the problem is always their spouse.

Sometimes the enemy doesn’t destroy a marriage with cheating or some huge explosion.
Sometimes he slowly destroys it by keeping you hyper-focused on every annoying habit, every bad moment, every unmet expectation… until you can no longer see the person you once prayed for.

And listen… I’m not saying ignore real issues.
I’m saying some people have a spouse who loves them, provides, stays loyal, shows up for the kids, comes home every night, tries their best… and still gets treated like they’re failing because of the 10% they lack instead of the 90% they consistently give.

That mindset will quietly poison a marriage.

The mirror will grow your marriage more than the magnifying glass ever will. 🤍

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