Chuck LPC

11/30/2021

Our mood is often defined by how we define ourselves. How we express ourselves is heavily influenced by the frame of reference that we choose to have. If I focus on my weight, that becomes my identity, past failed relationships, or things I have set out to do and have yet to do.
What If my frame of reference is something different? For instance, what about this moment and these emotions? I let them settle and emerge into today, now. I then explore other things that have also been a part of my life. See how the emotions change?
It is essential to do this without judgment and a sense of detachment.
Afterward, we can judge. Then we can decide what we like best. Who knows, maybe change our frame of reference.
I'd love to read your comments.

05/19/2021

Self Acceptance is the key!

09/25/2018

Not that i am bias, but this is a great Video!

11/14/2017

The meditation facilitator asked, "Who or what are you resisting?" This was a good question for me now, I thought. He suggested that we ask it of ourselves exactly like that...Keep Reading at: http://www.sussextherapy.com/OnMeditationDenouement.en.html

11/09/2017

I discovered upon meditating, that when I am at the top of my breath and inhaled completely and it is time to let go, that is where there is some hesitation. At times, it's more than a hesitation. Sometimes I’m actually holding my breath - waiting, waiting to finish..Read More at: http://www.sussextherapy.com/LettingGoMeditationArticle.en.html

02/08/2017

Husbands: How to Make Your Wife Happy. Listen. Be curious. Be open. Let the connection happen. Read more at the link below:
http://www.sussextherapy.com/HusbandsHowtoMakeyourWifeHappy.en.html

Chuck Markham, LPC provides counseling and therapy services for individuals, couples and families in and around Vernon, NJ 07462.

01/30/2017

"How is it that one person in a couple who was always reasonably responsible becomes a complete Type A driven control freak, while the very open relaxed partner becomes so irresponsible..." Read more at the link below:
http://www.sussextherapy.com/HowCouplesbecomeaCaricatureofThemselves.en.html

Chuck Markham, LPC provides counseling and therapy services for individuals, couples and families in and around Vernon, NJ 07462.

01/22/2017

Pilgrimage:

a journey, especially a long one, made to some sacred place as an act of religious devotion dictionary.com

The “long journey” is our life. The sacred place is now. The act of religious devotion is to be at one with God. I go on a pilgrimage not by going on one, but when I realize I am on one, now. In other words, the sacred place of my pilgrimage is the place I am located now, when I realize I am on a pilgrimage and give it the intention of being sacred.
- Cw Markham

01/17/2017

Wanna be happy? Get moving!
http://www.spring.org.uk/2017/01/more-happy.php?omhide=true

Study of more than 10,000 people reveals how the grumpiest people can be more happy today.

01/16/2017

When I start the day with meditation, prayer, stretching and excercise- no matter what happens is better than it would have been.

01/16/2017

Instead of pointing out what the other person must do, what do we need to do ourselves?

http://www.yourtango.com/2016298021/eight-lessons-from-relationships-we-all-learn

#4: Withdrawal is death.