09/07/2026
Create a Pause Between Feeling and Responding
When irritation rises, a brief pause can help you respond in a way that reflects who you truly want to be.
Before responding:
• Take one slow breath
• Relax your jaw and shoulders
• Lower your voice
• Ask for a moment if you need one
• Choose your response instead of reacting automatically
A pause is not avoidance. It gives you time to regain your sense of calm and make a thoughtful choice.
You can also reduce preventable sources of irritation by paying attention to hunger, exhaustion, clutter, rushing, overstimulation, and overcommitment.
Sometimes greater patience begins with recognizing that you need food, rest, quiet, help, or a little breathing room. I realized years ago that I don’t respond well to situations when I’m hungry. Sometimes I simply need to take a break and eat something. Otherwise, I truly become “hangry” and respond poorly to what’s happening around me.
And when you do react more sharply than you intended, remember the Three R’s:
• Recognize
• Repair
• Restart
Recognize what happened. Repair the connection by acknowledging it and apologizing. Then restart—choosing to respond differently in the next moment.
You don’t have to respond perfectly every time (and trust me, you won’t!). You can give yourself permission to pause, step away when necessary, and begin again with greater calm, patience, and wisdom.
Moving from stress to God’s peace—one practical step at a time.
Dr. Melissa Rich
Whole-Person Wellness that Honors God’s Design
https://drmelissarich.com