Deidre Chanel, LCSWA

Deidre Chanel, LCSWA Licensed Clinical Social Worker Associate | Child & Family�Supporting emotional safety, connection, and healthy relationships for children and families.

05/12/2026

Not every “no” is a power grab. ↓
There’s a difference between a kid who’s choosing to defy you — and a kid whose brain has completely crashed. One needs a consequence. The other needs a lifeline. Give the wrong one? You’ll make it worse. Every. Single. Time.

05/11/2026

Boys have feelings and should be allowed to honestly express them. It doesn’t make them weak, it helps them become stronger. The goal is that they learn early to express their feelings and then teach them how to manage. If they never learn to express them, we as adults, never learn how to support them.The reason we don’t know how to support them is because they keep silent.

05/06/2026

Observation mode: ON. 🕵️‍♀️ Sometimes the most important work we do as adults isn’t ‘fixing’ a child’s behavior, but managing our own internal response to it. Co-regulation starts with the adult. When we stay grounded, we give them a blueprint for how to handle big feelings. It’s a learning process for us, too!

Lower Your Volume & Height: Get down to the child’s eye level (or lower) and speak in a calm, rhythmic whisper. It forces the child to quiet down to hear you and signals to their brain that there is no immediate “threat.” Remember to be assertive and direct but not harsh.

Disclaimer: This video is a creative reenactment using trending audio for educational purposes. This is not a recording of a real-life observation or a specific classroom setting.

04/30/2026

Children need the necessities just like plants

Seed- Dream or goal

Water- the things they’re going to do to help get to that goal or dream

Sunlight - other outside influences ( after school programs, Church, mentor, friends, counselor)

Soil- the space parents provide. Safe home environment, responsive adult interaction, mentally healed adults. Adult las the motive and pour positivity into their child.

04/28/2026

Your kid isn’t only giving you a hard time. They’re having one.

I know. It doesn’t FEEL that way when dinner’s burning and they’re losing their mind over the wrong color cup.
But every big behavior has an even bigger feeling hiding behind it. The screaming? Overwhelm. The defiance? Powerlessness. The shutdown? Fear.

They don’t have the words yet. So they use their bodies. Loudly. In public. Of course.

Next time it happens, try asking yourself: what are they feeling that they can’t say? That one shift changes everything.

Ever wonder WHY your child acts out — even when you've tried everything? 💜Here's what most parents don't know: challengi...
04/28/2026

Ever wonder WHY your child acts out — even when you've tried everything? 💜

Here's what most parents don't know: challenging behaviors almost always fall into one of four categories. We call it the E.A.T.S. framework:

🔴 E — Escape ("Get me out of here!")
🟣 A — Attention ("Notice me!")
🟢 T — Tangible ("I want that thing!")
🟣 S — Sensory ("My body can't handle this!")

Once you know WHY your child is acting out, everything changes. You stop reacting and start responding. You start meeting the need.

04/27/2026

Children need your time! When they are requesting quality time, listen to them. When you respond…

1. You’re teaching them how to advocate for their needs.
2. Strengthening Communication
3. Helping with regulation
4. Setting the foundation for a healthy parent child relationship.

As a therapist, one of the most common summer stress calls I get from parents? “My child completely fell apart waiting i...
04/25/2026

As a therapist, one of the most common summer stress calls I get from parents? “My child completely fell apart waiting in line and it ruined our whole day.”
Here’s what I tell them: your child didn’t fail. They just weren’t set up to succeed.
For kids with ADHD, waiting in a long, loud, unpredictable line is a genuine neurological challenge — not a behavior problem.
The fix? Practice before you go. Set up a “line” at home. Make it a game. Short sessions, lots of praise. Then slowly build up the time. By the time you get to the park, it’s already familiar.
Other things that actually help:
→ A visual timer so wait time feels real
→ A “waiting kit” (fidget, earbuds, mini game) just for line time
→ Giving them a small job to focus on
→ Asking the park about their disability access program — most have one
Save this before your next trip. 🎢

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