Andrea Kinnaugh, LMFT

Andrea Kinnaugh, LMFT Individual, couples, and relational therapist here for all your messy, humaness All sessions are telehealth at this time

Obsessed that your true self did not let other people's behavior define your character
08/19/2026

Obsessed that your true self did not let other people's behavior define your character

There was a solar eclipse today which is the perfect energy to explore the dark paradox of the villain era. There are tw...
08/13/2026

There was a solar eclipse today which is the perfect energy to explore the dark paradox of the villain era. There are two sides to this awakening - the stepping into our true, baddie selves and the reckoning of how we lost our connection to them.

The villain era typically describes no longer people pleasing and/or playing the role people have assigned to us - truly giving "No one puts Baby in the corner" vibes.

When we're no longer playing the role we've been assigned and instead being in the role that is us, there's no way this change won't impact your relationships:
Who will be cheering you on?
Who will try to put you back into the corner?
How do you make sure you're not the person holding someone in a role they don't want to be in?
When you think of the role you're breaking away from, does a specific relationship deserve some extra attention, forgiveness, or an ending?

Just a little something to ponder...
08/05/2026

Just a little something to ponder...

Hello, hello to August. I thought I would change things up and have the glimmers + playlist be at the beginning of the m...
08/01/2026

Hello, hello to August. I thought I would change things up and have the glimmers + playlist be at the beginning of the month. A fun little way to lean into the new month and all it's possibilities.

This month's glimmers are about beauty and ease. Like having a beautiful calendar to schedule out the days & food that looks and tastes gorgeous and makes the easiest meal. Low stress items like a stick of sunscreen that can go with you anywhere or cute sunglasses that look posh but really were a beach shop BOGO. And what's a kitchen without a lovely little trinket that adds both sparkle and a bit of protection.

So much of what's pushed are these complicated steps to get to beauty and pleasure when really what we need is to be reminded to be intentional. It can help us move away from excess and to remember there doesn't have to be abundance to experience abundance. Where you can, choose what allows for some fun & ease in your days.

As for the tunes, they're summery, dancy, and sweaty vibes mixed with some big feelings.

I hope August is kind to you and that you were able to leave what no longer serves you in July.

It's really convenient for those not considering you and your needs when you act or say that you don't care. Now, we ca...
07/23/2026

It's really convenient for those not considering you and your needs when you act or say that you don't care.

Now, we can't and shouldn't make space to care about what everyone thinks but the people we choose to care about ought to care about us too, right?

So maybe it's time to be more of an inconvenience and start caring with gusto! Give all the sh*ts, damns, and a sprinkle of f*cks! Share those wants with conviction and let them take up some space. If it's a caring relationship there should be plenty of room for both of you!

So here's your nudge to see indifference as boring. The more you care about showing up as gorgeous, authentic you the more you can assess how much you care about this relationship.

The draw towards celebrity makes sense. That world can be so shiny & bright that it ends up being blinding. In a recent ...
07/15/2026

The draw towards celebrity makes sense. That world can be so shiny & bright that it ends up being blinding. In a recent interview, Mick Jagger spoke about how easy it is / was to normalize the f*ckery of fame when you're only surrounded by fame. All the enablers, all the yeses, and never a no. A frictionless, fantasy world but none of that is real.

Us, everyday people can be just as easily caught up in the performance of relationships instead of the realness of them. For example, there are some that don't know the difference between exclaiming they're a BFF and actually showing up as a best friend. Or the difference between how performative s*x feels & sounds versus how genuinely good s*x feels & sounds.

In all the years I've worked with people, I've never heard someone ask for fakeness but I've heard time and time again the craving for something real. Do you know how to build real connection in your relationships? Are you bringing your real humanness to your relationships? Like Ms.MJB, are you looking for some real love?

Here for those gorgeous feelings but obsessed with the hotness of discernment & alignment
07/09/2026

Here for those gorgeous feelings but obsessed with the hotness of discernment & alignment

Happy end of June! Growing up in Jersey, school got out towards the end of this month. So regardless of how warm it is o...
06/30/2026

Happy end of June! Growing up in Jersey, school got out towards the end of this month. So regardless of how warm it is outside, it doesn't feel like summer until the last week of June. More recently I was at the beach with friends and we started to talk about what makes the summer, summer. Is it a cook out, blockbuster movies, music festivals, vacation trips, salty hair, the smell of sunscreen wafting in the air?

All the things I mentioned above are connected our senses - the taste, the smell, the sounds, the textures of summer. Anything connected to our senses, imprints on us that much more... which is why they become nostalgic. These acts may seem like nothing in the moment but not only do they stay with us, these were things you likely shared with the people you treasured the most, even if it was just that one summer.

This playlist gives c**k or mock tail hour vibes, driving with the windows down, with a pinch of the anticipation of seeing them again.

The glimmers
The lightest shorts with a cute print and even cuter fringe, performance art frightens me but it's bravery inspires me and these cards do both, watermelon for when the heat requires consuming only cold items, patchouli really let's you know the real ones and this one travels with me, cc + spf = magic, and sunscreen that allows for my freckles to show off without the burn.

I hope your summer is off to a good start!

Do you know about the touch lexicon? Besides being a great name for a band ( please let me know if you use it ), it is t...
06/18/2026

Do you know about the touch lexicon?

Besides being a great name for a band ( please let me know if you use it ), it is the noverbal vocabulary of tactile communication and physical interactions in your relationships.

Simply stated, It is understanding not only what touch means to you but, just like verbal communication, it is understanding how it is interpreted by others.

For example, we all have neutral or habitual touch such as a hug hello or a passing kiss. But do you when those same gestures turn from neutral to hot? Because, respectfully, a neutral touch at one moment does not become a desirable touch the next.

It needs understood nuance.

It could be hug... but the hand lingers on the small of the back or grips the back of the neck

It can be a kiss hello... but with a bite or with a touch on the stomach

It all comes down to clear communication. So how good are you at it?

Desire is a verb and therefore an action. We are responsible for creating a desirable life and co- creating desire fille...
06/11/2026

Desire is a verb and therefore an action. We are responsible for creating a desirable life and co- creating desire filled relationships.

Desire is fueled by the possibility of not getting what you want but in a relationship you succeeded in the getting... so now you have to become good at the having and wanting

So how are you bringing the want again & again to your relationship?

What actions are you taking to build desire in your own life?

How responsible do you both/all feel at being good at wanting each other and making sure each other knows it?

disclaimer: This post is for self-reflection. Don't make it weird and forward it to your person without knowing this is a both of you thing.

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