Rima Jaber, PLPC

05/12/2026

05/12/2026

Having this mindset changes everything❤️

05/12/2026

⚠️ Some children were praised for being “mature,” but the truth is, they were overwhelmed too young.

They became responsible before they were ready.

Responsible for the mood of the home.
Responsible for keeping the peace.
Responsible for not needing too much.
Responsible for being strong when they should have been protected.

And when a child has to become the adult too early, they often grow into someone who struggles to rest, ask for help, receive love, or believe they are allowed to be cared for too.

Beloved, you were not born to hold everything together.

You were a child.

You deserved softness.
You deserved guidance.
You deserved someone to notice that the “strong one” was tired too.

📖 I Didn’t Choose to Be Born explores childhood trauma, parentification, dysfunctional family roles, emotional neglect, the mother wound, the father wound, survival coping mechanisms, and healing strategies.

📖 Chasing Love That Hurts explores how these early wounds can follow you into adulthood as limerence, emotional fixation, anxious attachment, and attraction to emotionally unavailable people.

Both are linked in my bio 🤍

05/08/2026

You’ve been holding it together for so long that people have started to assume you always will. You keep showing up, pushing through, and carrying more than anyone realizes. Somewhere along the way, surviving became expected, even when you were struggling underneath it all.

But you should not have to break down before your pain is taken seriously. You are allowed to need support before you reach your limit.

04/14/2026

Some children grow up with parents who are physically present, but emotionally unavailable.

The parent is there…
but not fully there.

There may be food, shelter, and routine.
But little emotional attunement.
Little comfort.
Little reassurance.
Little sense of being truly seen, felt, or deeply connected to.

And when that happens, the child often adapts.

They may start trying harder to earn closeness.
To be good enough.
Helpful enough.
Easy enough.
Successful enough.
Anything that might finally bring the warmth, attention, or emotional connection they long for.

That pattern does not always stay in childhood.
It can quietly follow them into adulthood.

So later, they may feel strongly attached to people who are distant, inconsistent, emotionally hard to reach, or only available in small moments.

Not necessarily because those relationships are healthy.
But because the dynamic feels familiar.

The longing feels familiar.
The waiting feels familiar.
The hoping feels familiar.
Even the pain of not fully being chosen can feel familiar.

This is why chasing can sometimes feel like love.

Because for some people, love was never modeled as something steady, safe, and emotionally available.

It was something they had to reach for.

And the nervous system remembers that.

So when someone is emotionally unavailable in adulthood, it can activate the old desire to finally be enough to receive the love that once felt out of reach.

But real love does not require you to keep chasing it.

It does not make you prove your worth over and over.
It does not feed you in crumbs and call that connection.

Healing often begins when you realize:
you are not only reacting to the person in front of you.
You may also be reacting to an older pattern your body has known for a long time.

If this resonates with you, both of my books go deeper into these patterns.

I Didn’t Choose to Be Born explores how childhood wounds shape your emotional world, coping patterns, and sense of self.

Chasing Love That Hurts explores how those same wounds show up in attachment, emotional fixation, and painful relationship patterns in adulthood.

Both are available through the link in my bio

04/14/2026

Everything changes
when you become more intentional.

Not all at once…
but in the quiet decisions you make every day.

In the way you use your energy.
In the boundaries you begin to respect.
In what you choose to keep…
and in what you keep allowing,
even when you know it costs you.

In how you show up, even when no one sees.
In the steps you take toward what truly matters.

Your life doesn’t change overnight.
It shifts, slowly…
with every choice that starts to feel more honest.

DM | Daily Motivation by Alice

04/14/2026

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03/24/2026

Today, I sat down for a coffee
with the version of me
who carried everything
before I knew how to.

I wasn’t sure
if I was ready for that conversation…
but I sat down anyway.

She asked
if we’re finally free.

I paused.
And said… we’re on our way.
And somehow, that already feels like a lot.

She asked
if all the pain is gone.

I told her no.
But it doesn’t live in the same place anymore.

Then, more quietly,
she asked
if I’m proud of her.

And that’s when my voice changed.

I told her
she’s the best part of me.

Because it was her strength,
her courage,
her persistence…
that brought me here.

She didn’t need applause.
She just needed to know
it was worth it.

She cried.
And I… smiled.

Because this time,
I understood why.