10/01/2025
Therapists in couples sessions often bend over backwards to keep things fair, even, and balanced between partners. But why? Probably because—let's be honest—most grad programs give therapists about as much training in couples work as a fortune cookie.
I, on the other hand, think it's crucial to lean toward one partner over the other when it's called for. Not permanently, of course—it’s not about picking a favorite. It's about being the judgement in the room, the stand-in prefrontal cortex, the one who points out when accountability is needed, or when a behavior just isn't serving the relationship—or the person stuck repeating it.
