Lauren J. Hellkamp, LICSW

07/13/2021

The word “should” is by far my least favorite word. Time and time again, I hear people say they “should” feel this way or they “should” do this or that thing. Most of the time, these “should’s” lead us to one place - we should be better, and we are not measuring up in some way. “Should-ing” on yourself means to put excess pressure on yourself to do something or be something....

The word “should” is by far my least favorite word. Time and time again, I hear people say they “should” feel this way or they “should” do this or that thing. Most of the time, these “should’s” lea…

07/01/2021

Happy 2 years in my private practice!

06/07/2021

Now booking for outdoor sessions in the gazebo!

05/26/2021

People-pleasing is not about just being nice or helpful to others. People-pleasing is putting other people’s needs before your own, neglecting your own needs in order to satisfy others. Over time, people-pleasing is likely to lead you to feeling resentful of others, feel taken advantage of, and lead to increased stress because you are taking on more than you can handle in order to please others....

People-pleasing is not about just being nice or helpful to others. People-pleasing is putting other people’s needs before your own, neglecting your own needs in order to satisfy others. Over time, …

05/19/2021

You are not your thoughts. Thoughts are not facts. Thoughts are mental events that pop up in our minds, whether we like it or not, or whether we want them there or not. However, we have a tendency to treat our every thought as though it is the absolute truth. When a thought bothers us, we hold on tightly to it, attach it to ourselves and allow it to take all our power....

You are not your thoughts. Thoughts are not facts. Thoughts are mental events that pop up in our minds, whether we like it or not, or whether we want them there or not. However, we have a tendency …