Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

10/10/2026

Many men carry inherited messages about masculinity and sexuality that quietly undermine their peace with themselves—and interfere with their ability to show up with strength and clarity in their marriages.

In this powerful conversation with Rhonda Farr, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife challenges those inherited ideas and reframes strength—not as certainty or control—but as the courage to look honestly at yourself, tolerate feedback, and use discomfort as a catalyst for growth.

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10/10/2026

Marriage requires more of us than just getting married.

Marriage asks us to look honestly at ourselves and the impact we have on our partner.

Marriage asks us to really know our spouse—even the parts of them that challenge us.

Marriage asks us to love in the face of our differences.

Marriage isn’t about gazing into each other’s eyes, it’s about knowing each other’s souls.

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10/09/2026

So often in conversations there are two speakers and zero listeners.

If you want to improve your relationship, listen.

Listen for what is true and fair in the other’s perspective.

Listen for where they are right about you.

Listening requires much more than just being quiet. When you’re really listening, you’re seeking to understand—you’re willing to put your version of reality aside long enough to really understand the other person’s perspective.

If you want to improve your relationships, stop just being quiet and start really listening.

10/07/2026

The higher-desire position is a tricky one, because you can feel stuck and powerless to improve your situation.

The temptation is to manipulate, guilt, or pressure, and doing so may get your spouse to acquiesce…but ultimately will have a lot of negative consequences in the relationship.

We reached deep into the archives for this interview with The Marriage Laboratory. In it, Dr. Jennifer discusses the common pitfalls of the higher desire partner, the ways that couples get entrenched in a low and high desire dynamic, and offers some suggestions for creating a sexual relationship that is mutually desirable.

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10/07/2026

Marriage is a choice, not a prison.

Desire only thrives in freedom—when we feel true to ourselves, at ease in our own skin, and at peace with how we are showing up in our lives.

In this powerful episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife unpacks why women so often struggle with desire and and what they can do to cultivate a sexual relationship that feels alive and worth wanting.

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10/06/2026

Thriving marriages don’t just happen.

But that doesn’t mean they aren’t possible!

As Dr. Finlayson-Fife says...

“Thriving marriages are marriages where both spouses have learned to use their challenges, conflicts, and differences to grow—to refine their relationship into something stronger than it was before.”

The real work of relationships is working out our differences and Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Strengthening Your Relationship course is an instruction manual for doing precisely that.

Right now, you can SAVE $200 on the in-person workshop version of the course next month in Utah!

In the course, you’ll learn how to:

▪️ Communicate effectively in the face of conflict

▪️ Create more peace and intimacy in your relationship

▪️ Bring more honesty and integrity to your spouse

The course will help you see the part you play in the difficult dynamics in your marriage and offer a pathway for creating something stronger, happier, and more fulfilling for both of you.

10/05/2026

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10/04/2026

Ready to cultivate a sexual relationship that feels alive, connected, and worth losing a little sleep over?

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10/04/2026

09/30/2026

When we enter marriage with a shared faith, it’s easy to think our beliefs, values, and worldviews will always align and we have a strong sense of what our lives will look like together. So when our spouse’s faith shifts (or in the case of the non-believing spouse, doesn’t shift), it’s an understandably destabilizing and anxiety-evoking experience.

In our fear, it’s tempting to seek reinforcement from friends, try to pressure our spouse to think like we do, or just ignore the differences altogether. But avoiding a difficult reality doesn’t make the anxiety go away. In fact, it increases it.

In this mixed-faith relationship workshop, Dr. Finlayson-Fife will speak directly to those navigating the complexities of a mixed-faith marriage. She’ll name the pain points and pitfalls that tend to trap couples in this process and offer real tools and a hopeful path forward—one where a marriage doesn’t just survive a faith shift, but grows more honest, more intimate, and more resilient because of it.