Social Butterfly Counseling

07/29/2026

Some good reminders from Mel Robbins.


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This is your reminder that other people's opinions are not your responsibility.

This is the heart of the Let Them Theory.

You can't control the version of you that lives inside someone else's mind.

Someone will think you're too much.
Someone will think you're not enough.
Someone will misunderstand your intentions no matter how clearly you explain them.

Let Them.

The moment you stop taking responsibility for what other people think, you get your energy back.

Let Them have their opinions.
Let Me focus on living my life.

Let Them create whatever story they want about who I am.
Let Me stay focused on being who I actually am.

Give yourself the freedom to focus on the only thing you can control:

The way you show up in your own life.

That's the power of Let Them and Let Me. 💚

07/24/2026

Pause. (Noun)
a temporary stop in action or speech.
synonyms: stop, cessation, break, halt, stoppage, standstill, interruption, check, lull, respite, stay, breathing space, discontinuation, discontinuance, hiatus, gap, lapse (of time), interlude, intermission, interval, entr'acte; adjournment, suspension, moratorium, interregnum; rest, time out, stopover, delay, holdup, wait; hesitation, beat, caesura; informalletup, breather
"there was a pause in the conversation"

Let’s pause more often. There are countless benefits from taking brief breaks. Some of the benefits include:

•Increasing focus
•Boosting awareness to make healthy choices
•Reducing stress
•Helping to maintain interest and energy level
•Decrease of risk of injury
•More effective communication
•Less conflict
•When combined with deep breathing can increase blood flow/oxygen

****And oh yeah.... you might even just feel good.

So let’s pause. And don’t forget to breathe.
We are here for you.
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07/14/2026

Less is more when it comes to screens.
Good reminder that screen time impacts all people in all age ranges.

Let’s disconnect to reconnect.

We are here for you.


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“Screen-time panics typically position children as being without agency, completely at the mercy of evil tech companies that adults must intervene to defend against,” Charlie Warzel wrote in 2025. “But a version of the problem exists on the opposite side of the age spectrum, too.” https://theatln.tc/XULeYFN2

Over the past year, Warzel has heard from people about their screen-hooked elders. “I am constantly begging my mom to put her phone down, every time I see her she is just mindlessly scrolling. I swear her attention span is GONE,” one person wrote. Another described a parent as “playing Candy Crush for hours while the grandkids fight for a spot on her lap.”

Older people really are spending more time online, according to various research.
But usage surveys do not capture the nuance of a person’s relationship with their device, Warzel writes.

“There is just a fundamental error in the way we think about older adults, where we classify everyone 65 and over as this one kind of block,” Ipsit Vahia, the chief of geriatric psychiatry at Mass General Brigham’s McLean Hospital and the director of its Technology and Aging Laboratory, told Warzel. And online habits that might be concerning for young or middle-aged people ought to be considered differently for older generations, Vahia suggests: “High technology use in teenagers and adolescents is often associated with worse mental health and is a predictor of sort of more isolation and loneliness, even depression,” he told Warzel, but the opposite has been found for older adults.

Among younger people, some projection is happening regarding their fears about their elders’ technology use. “The anxieties I heard from people who reached out to me—the anxiety I myself have felt—seem rooted in our own tortured relationships with our devices,” Warzel continues at the link. “Many of us are constantly concerned about what we’re consuming, how much we’re scrolling, and the subtle ways we’re all being pushed, prodded, and manipulated online. And we map our individual worries onto others, fair or not.”

🎨: Paul Spella / The Atlantic

07/13/2026

Helpful tips for anyone struggling with or experiencing urges to engage in self harm or intrusive thoughts.

You are never alone.
We are here for you.

Urge Surfing Worksheet 🌊Comment 'Urge Surfing' for the link.

Helpful for supporting children, young people, and adults with urges related to: Self Harm, Compulsions, Aggression, Harmful Eating Behaviours, Addictive Behaviors.

This worksheet is an incredibly useful tool because it helps individuals recognize and ride out their strong impulses, rather than acting on them. When it comes to self-harm, aggression, compulsive behaviors, or addictive patterns, urges can feel overwhelming and immediate. The urge surfing technique teaches people to visualize their feelings like a wave: they build awareness of the urge, notice its rise and fall, and remind themselves that it will pass.

How to urge surf:
1. NOTICE THE TRIGGER
When you recognise a trigger, pause and acknowledge it without judging yourself. Bring your attention to the present moment and notice what you are feeling.

1. RIDE THE RISING URGE
As the urge builds, observe your thoughts and feelings with curiosity. You may be feeling physical symptoms. Imagine yourself on a surfboard riding the safe of the craving as it builds. Accept the intensity of the urge without acting.

3. STAY PRESENT AT ITS PEAK
When the urge feels strongest, remind yourself that it won't last forever - like a wave, the intensity will eventually settle. Breathe, stay grounded, and let the feeling come and go naturally.

4. LET IT FALL
As the urge starts to fade, notice how the sensations become less intense. Remember that you got through it, and each time you practise, you build resilience.


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07/13/2026

☀️ Protecting Your Mental Health This Summer

Summer brings longer days, vacations, celebrations, and changes in routine, all of which can impact our mental well-being. Whether you’re living with bipolar disorder, anxiety , depression or simply feeling overwhelmed by a busy season, remember:

💙 Prioritize consistent sleep.
💙 Stay hydrated and nourish your body.
💙 Check in with your energy before overcommitting.
💙 Make time for rest, joy, and meaningful connection.
💙 Reach out to your support system when you need it.

You don’t have to do everything to have a meaningful summer. Sometimes, protecting your peace is the healthiest plan of all.

*Content inspiration and educational guidance adapted with credit to the International Bipolar Foundation (IBPF).

We are here for you serving children, teens and adults.
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Feel free to call or text or email our founder & clinical director, Sabrina Coppola, LCSW for more information.

973-310-2417
[email protected]

www.socialbutterflycounseling.com

07/04/2026

A Tribute to 250 Years of America

For 250 years, America has been a story still being written.

A story of courage and sacrifice.
Of dreamers and doers.
Of ordinary people who chose to build something extraordinary for the generations that would follow.

Our history has never been perfect, but it has always been marked by resilience. Through triumph and tragedy, moments of unity and moments of challenge, the American spirit has endured because of those willing to serve, to lead, to innovate, to care for their neighbors, and to believe that tomorrow can be better than today.

As we celebrate 250 years of our nation, we honor the soldiers who defended our freedoms, the first responders who answer every call, the teachers who shape young minds, the families who strengthen our communities, the workers who keep our country moving, and the countless citizens whose quiet acts of kindness define the very best of America.

May this anniversary remind us that patriotism is more than celebrating our past. It is a commitment to our future. It is choosing respect over division, service over self-interest, hope over fear, and community over conflict.

The next chapter of America’s story belongs to all of us. May we leave it stronger, kinder, and more united than we found it.

Happy 250th Anniversary, America.

May God bless those who came before us, those who serve today, and the generations still to come.

Happy Birthday, America. Here’s to the next 250 years.

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07/03/2026

Freedom Includes Taking Care of Your Mental Health

As we celebrate the Fourth of July, we honor the freedoms that unite us as a community. While the day is often filled with fireworks, barbecues, and celebrations, it’s also important to remember that not everyone experiences the holiday the same way.

For some, loud noises can trigger anxiety, trauma, or sensory overwhelm. Others may be navigating grief, loneliness, depression, or the stress that can accompany family gatherings.

This Fourth of July, let’s extend the spirit of freedom beyond the holiday itself.

Give yourself permission to:
• Step away and take a quiet moment when you need it.
• Set healthy boundaries without guilt.
• Check in on a friend or loved one.
• Celebrate in a way that feels right for you.
• Remember that asking for support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

At Social Butterfly Counseling, we believe that caring for your mental health is one of the greatest acts of self-care and self-respect.
Wishing you and your loved ones a safe, meaningful, and peaceful Independence Day.

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06/29/2026

Social Butterfly Counseling Mental Health Tip

Summer is in full swing. Slow down enough to enjoy it.

Summer often brings longer days, vacations, camps, changing routines, and packed calendars. While these moments can create wonderful memories, they can also leave us feeling emotionally and physically depleted.

This week, challenge yourself to create intentional moments of pause.

•Take a walk without your phone.
•Watch the sunset.
•Read a book outside.
•Share a meal with loved ones.
•Spend time in nature.
•Give yourself permission to rest without feeling guilty.

Remember, your nervous system needs moments of calm just as much as it needs moments of joy.

At Social Butterfly Counseling, we believe emotional wellness grows when we create space to reconnect with ourselves, the people we love, and the present moment.

Take care of your mind this summer. The best memories aren’t always the busiest ones. Sometimes they’re found in the quiet moments we choose to slow down and simply be.

06/14/2026

From the Therapy Couch to the Hardwood:
A Lesson in Grit and Resilience

At Social Butterfly Counseling, we often remind our clients that resilience isn’t about never struggling. It’s about refusing to let setbacks define your story.

The Knicks’ victory is a powerful reminder that growth happens through adversity. Every challenge, disappointment, and obstacle becomes an opportunity to build strength, character, and determination. Grit isn’t the absence of doubt. It’s choosing to keep moving forward despite it.

Just like a butterfly must struggle through the cocoon to develop the wings needed to fly, resilience is built in the moments when we choose perseverance over surrender.

Congratulations to the New York Knicks on a hard fought win and for showing us all what it looks like to trust the process, stay committed, and keep finding a way.

And congratulations to the fans. Through years of disappointment, near misses, and rebuilding seasons, they continued to show up, believe, and remain loyal. Their unwavering faith is a reminder that resilience is not just found in athletes. It lives within communities, families, and individuals who continue to believe in something greater, even when the outcome is uncertain.

“We’re gonna find a way.” Sometimes that’s exactly what resilience sounds like.

💙 🧡 We are here for you 💙 🧡

05/31/2026