03/06/2026
My dad died yesterday.
The last couple of days have been some of the hardest, most painful and most emotional of my life.
Watching someone you love leave this world is something that changes you. As many of you reading this will know, there simply aren’t words big enough 💔
In the middle of all of that, I received a particularly sh*tty comment on social media.
Normally I’d have just rolled my eyes and moved on, but when you’re exhausted, grieving and emotionally raw, things hit differently.
This morning I found myself thinking about my dad.
He was a genuinely kind man. Honourable. Decent. Always trying to do the right thing and right by people. He was old school and a thoroughly “decent chap”.
And it reminded me of something I think often:
Be kind. You never know what someone else is going through.
The person who wrote that comment has absolutely no idea what is happening in my life right now. Just as we often have no idea what is happening in others.
The truth is, when someone feels the need to be cruel, hateful, judgemental or vitriolic, whether online or face to face, that behaviour has very little to do with the person receiving it.
It is almost ALWAYS a reflection of something unresolved within the person sending it.
Pain leaks.
Wounds leak.
Unhealed parts of ourselves leak into our words, our actions and how we treat other people.
And if you’ve ever felt that urge to lash out, judge, criticise or attack someone, I would encourage you to pause and ask yourself:
Why?
What is it bringing up in me?
What is the gift hidden underneath that trigger?
Because our triggers are often clues (gifts!) pointing us towards the work we need to do on ourselves.
One of the greatest privileges of my work is hearing people’s stories and what I’ve learned is that everyone is carrying something.
Grief.
Fear.
Heartbreak.
Stress.
Loss.
Worry.
Social media rarely shows the whole picture.
Continued in comments 👇🏻👇🏻
