08/06/2021
IT’S TRUE, IT'S ALL IN DIVINE ORDER
In truth, with such understanding, it shouldn’t even bother you much what's happing in your life right now no matter how painful or difficult the circumstances, what you are currently going through represents a page or chapter in your book.
It is just a stage or a phase you must experience to learn specific lessons you need for the life ahead hence why every experience you experience in this life serves a purpose.
Nothing happens by chance, everything is ordained - Psalms 139v16, or maybe I should say, what happened to you in the past had to happen, even what you are facing today is meant to occur one way or another, this is the divine systematic timeous order of things - Eccl 3.
Know this, in God’s university you have to take every course, each course serves a purpose, there’s no skipping class. Every course you fail you repeat, especially in times when nothing seems to make any sense in your brain or to those watching your life from a distance.
Now and then, things will go wrong. Life will happen in order to prepare you for a new level or to get you ready for specific challenges ahead. Sometimes challenges enter our lives to draw us closer to God, it happens all the time, especially in marriage - Psalms 119v71. Sometimes you learn the hard way.
Marriage will redesign your perspective on life. It alters a person completely from head to toe…spirit, soul, and body. Marriage peels off all the unnecessary false labels we come with into the marriage from our upbringing. These are the labels put on us by our parents, teachers, peers, society, religion, public opinion, and the different life experiences we go through in order to shape our identity or the person we think we are before we get married.
In my 17 years of marriage, I have found out that logic and reason are man’s worst downfall. Relaying in your own human understanding in order to live a successful married life on earth hindrances all divine processes and protocols to shape or prepare you for your destiny.
Logic stands in the way of what you were born to accomplish and the person you were meant to be in this physical realm. Using your brain or human intelligence to decode divine processes or details is a fatal exercise, especially when trying to understand why you married the person you are currently married to.
Actually, some of the answers you are looking for right now about your marriage partner will only be made available to you the day you cross over.
Actually, you might even end up seriously lost, frustrated, confused, divorced, disappointed, angry, or in serious error without divine support - 1 Cor 2v12-14. Divine understanding is key in the success of every marriage under the sun.
There has to be a reason why your paths crossed. I call it, divine order. With this in mind, you won't end up throwing the baby with the bathwater. This is a phenomenon I’ve which I’ve witnessed countlessly in my 17years of marriage coaching.
Many couples come to the end of their relationship simply because they lack divine data regarding their paths crossing. To them, their wedding day was a coincidence, and falling pregnant was a mistake.
After such conclusions, many decide to end the relationship pre-maturely without knowing or finding out the reason why their paths crossed.
After a few months or years, many begin to realize the wrong judgment or move made to end the relationship too soon, and because of the density of their ego’s, many are never able to swallow their pride and apologize in order to reconcile or go back to each other, and so destiny is altered forever simply by making pre-mature emotional judgments without divine understanding.
I know how people generally feel about Mondays, especially when life is not giving them what they want or going in the direction they would prefer. I know how it feels to feel stuck in a relationship, and I know how tiring it feels to find yourself in marriage with someone who cheats, lies, drinks, gossips or hides everything they do.
Well, know this: everything that has happened or will ever happen in your life is actually happening in divine synchronized order - Ps 119v91/Prov 16v4/Rom 8v28/Gal 4v6.
At least try not to reason any nonsense taking place inside your relationship right now, rather start seeking divine clarity because you might be living with someone who is seriously impossible to love or live with. That been said, it’s all still in perfect order.
Everything is interconnected. There are no mistakes, coincidences, or loose ends in the universe, especially in your relationships as your mind thinks, especially in the days when 80% of what your partner does or says makes no sense at all. Well, no day or moment is wasted in God’s universe, especially your life - Ps 139v16/Eccl 7v14/Acts 17v28.
People’s paths don’t just cross, it’s all in divine order. At least look at it from this perspective. Begin to ask, "Why did our paths cross in the first place out of the 8.5 billion people on earth today. “Why him or her?"
The universal intelligence that governs both the invisible and the visible is too advanced and too organized to make mistakes. It is impossible for it to make a mess of anybody's lifetime, if only from your mental assent - Col 1v16-17/ John1v3/ Act 17v14.
You were born and are an integral part of this universal intelligence. It runs everything. Seasons take orders from it. The ocean respects the boundaries set by it. It runs your body and at the same time moves a start across the sky. Whiles, you are asleep; it regulates your body without fail from the day you were born.
This is the same intelligence that governs and sustains every heartbeat on the planet without question, including yours. This is the same intelligence that orchestrated the probabilities that lead to the day you met your partner, though you still had a choice to say “yes I will marry you or no thank you” - Isaiah 34v16-17/ Gen 2v24.
What I mean is, God will never choose your life partner, yes he will parade a few, but never will he choose for you because that will violate the free will he gave you and you will then have the legal right to blame him for his choice as Adam did in Gen 3v12.
You are the creator of your own reality - Prov 23v7, that’s how “Beings of light” like yourself operate. We manifest physical reality not only with our actions but from our thoughts. Your thoughts create your life experiences. What I’m saying is, your thoughts manifest all the physical reality you are currently experiencing in your marriage through your mouth - Prov 18v21/James 3v5-6.
I’m saying, there is inherent divine authority and power in what you say to your partner, and this authority can either build or destroy your relationship to the ground no matter how destiny brought you guys together.
If you are not careful of what you say and how you say it to your partner, especially when some of your buttons are pressed, James 3v5-6 will become your reality, this verse will finally manifest in your relationship, whether you like it or not and that’s a fact!
Your life experiences only mirror your belief system and your internal processes to show you what needs to change in your character, and the lessons you need to learn each day that holds you back from loving yourself enough or others unconditionally.
There is one life lesson your marriage is going to teach you, it’s found in Phil 3v2-5/Prov 3v27-30. I don’t care how close you are to divorcing each other, if you can just try this for the next 7days before calling your lawyers, you might be surprised what happens. I dare you, try it and be my witness!
Always remember this, the world is like God’s garden, and God made you and everyone else to bloom and to be beautiful in this garden. God made every one of us unique and special, no to control each other but to be beautiful in our own unique way.
So, be yourself today and allow your partner to be who they are or meant to be without your interference. Don’t envy, copy or compete with anyone, it’s totally unnecessary because when you compare yourself to anyone, you are indirectly admitting that you are inferior in some way hence your need to come to their level.
Everything about you is unique and intended for a reason. You are your own kind. There is no one else like you, even if you had a twin. In the greater scheme of things, your personality is necessary; it serves a greater purpose beyond human understanding, so don’t use reason to even figure out what I’m saying - Prov 3v5, know it’s true.
Just stop changing yourself; you are muddling with God’s product. You were designed for a reason. Your design and personality fit and fulfills your destiny, purpose, and assignment perfectly.
No one can be you on this planet except you. No one can complete your assignment except you. No one can run your race unless you run it yourself.
Remember, you signed up for this - Isaiah 6v8, you were not forced. Actually, you pleaded for this life experience, though your brain does not know what I just said.
You were not born by chance, whether your mother was r***d or not. Whether she was a pr******te or a saint, your birth was necessary. You came at the right time and got married to the right person at the appointed time.
Maybe you were an unwanted child, adopted, or found wrapped in plastic inside a rubbish bin, still your birth was not an accident.
When you were born, purpose entered our realm packaged in a form of you. How you got here does not matter nor does it define who you are. What matters is, you made it...you are here!
Whether you were born out of wedlock or conceived during sin and fornication like me; it all happened in divine order beyond our brain cells.
Your arrival was timed and planned long before you came into this planet - Acts 17v27; you just forgot who you are, where you come from, and what you are here to do - Psalms 82v6 and John 10v34.
Get used to this...
Like Jeremiah, you too were appointed in eternity - Ephesians 1v4. Yes, we all went through the “Veil of forgetfulness” hence most of us have forgotten and have no recollection of our place of origin.
Listen to me, you too went through the same process as Jeremiah in Jeremiah 1v5. No one ever gets appointed without their acknowledgment or the necessary selection process and skills required for the job. Always remember that! You came here because you were the right candidate for the job.
So don't complain about things happening in your life, find out why, connect the dots, YOU CAN! You have the divine intelligence to, it's called discernment - Prov 20v5.
Only if you knew how important you and your partner are in this whole equation and the bigger scale of things, you would treat each other very differently from what you’ve done so far from the beginning of your relationship.
After reading this post, especially if you were to have a glimpse of your partner’s true divine nature and assignment, you would be blown away or amazed at who you got married to.
It is, therefore, my prayer for all humanity to pray the same prayer Paul prayed in Ephesians 1v18 that the eyes of our understanding will be opened so we can all remember and know the hope to which we were all called, and individually appointed to, including your all the life experiences in your current relationship.
Take it easy…it’s all in divine order, just never think less of yourself. Don't be anxious or panic, flow with what is. You are more than what you think of yourself...I promise, one day soon you will find out.
"LET LOVE LEAD"
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