15/09/2026
I don't Ever want to go into a nursing home, but if worse comes to worse and I have no other choice because I'm well out of it, ๐ then this will be my wishes, to be upheld and respected. ๐๐
If I ever get dementia, Iโd like my family to hang this wish list up on the wall where I live. I want them to remember these things.
1. Every time you enter the room announce yourself. โHi- itโs โฆโฆโฆ...โ NEVER ask- Do you know who I am??? That causes anxiety.
2. If I get dementia, I want my friends and family to embrace my reality. ๐ธ Carers included.
3. If I think my dead friend is still alive, or if I think weโre visiting my parents for dinner, let me believe those things. Iโll be much happier for it.โค๏ธ
4. If I get dementia, donโt argue with me about what is true for me versus what is true for you.๐๐ฝโค๏ธ๐๐ฝ
5. If I get dementia, and I am not sure who you are, do not take it personally. My timeline is confusing to me.๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ๐๐ฝ
6. If I get dementia and can no longer use utensils, do not start feeding me. Instead, switch me to a finger-food diet, and see if I can still feed myself.โค๏ธ๐ฅฐโค๏ธ๐ฅฐ
7. If I get dementia, and I am sad or anxious, hold my hand and listen. Do not tell me that my feelings are unfounded.
8. If I get dementia, I donโt want to be treated like a child. Talk to me like the adult that I am. โค๏ธ
9. If I get dementia, I still want to enjoy the things that Iโve always enjoyed. Help me find a way to exercise, read, and visit with friends. โค๏ธ
10. If I get dementia, ask me to tell you a story from my past.
11. If I get dementia, and I become agitated, take the time to figure out what is bothering me. โค๏ธ
12. If I get dementia, treat me the way that you would want to be treated. โค๏ธ
13. If I get dementia, make sure that there are plenty of snacks for me in the house. Even now if I donโt eat I get angry, and if I have dementia, I may have trouble explaining what I need.โค๏ธ
14. If I get dementia, donโt talk about me as if Iโm not in the room.๐๐ฝ
15. If I get dementia, donโt feel guilty if you cannot care for me 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Itโs not your fault, and youโve done your best. Find someone who can help you, or choose a great new place for me to live.๐๐ฝ
16. If I get dementia, and I live in a dementia care community, please visit me often.โค๏ธ
17. If I get dementia, donโt act frustrated if I mix up names, events, or places. Take a deep breath. Itโs not my fault.๐๐ฝ
18. If I get dementia, make sure I always have my favorite music playing within earshot.โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ
19. If I get dementia, and I like to pick up items and carry them around, help me return those items to their original place.๐๐ฝ
20. If I get dementia, donโt exclude me from parties and family gatherings.โค๏ธ
21. If I get dementia, know that I still like receiving hugs and plenty of laughing โค๏ธ๐ฅฐโค๏ธ
22. If I get dementia, remember that I am still the person you know and love.โ๐ผโค๏ธ
In honor of someone you know or knew who has dementia. In Honor of all those I know and love and lost who are fighting Dementia/Alzheimerโs.
Someone once said if you take care of someone with dementia, you lose them more and more every day. When they get the diagnosis, when they go through different stages, when they need treatment, and when they pass away.
This is called "the longest goodbye ". As the brain slowly dies, they change physically and eventually forget who their loved ones are. They could end up lying in bed, not moving and not eating or drinking.
There will be people who will scroll past this post because
dementia has not touched them. They may not know what it's like to have a loved one who has battled or is still battling dementia.
To raise awareness of this cruel disease, I would like my friends to put this on their page today.
Hold your finger on the post to copy and paste to your timeline.
A special thank you to anyone willing to put this on their timeline for Dementia Awareness Week.
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Do it now, before you forget. ๐
