Kim Abrahams: Therapist & Registered Social Worker

Kim Abrahams: Therapist & Registered Social Worker 🪑 Have a seat. This might take a while...
🧠 Contributing Expert for Insight Timer
🎓 Therapist/Human Behaviour Translator
💬 20 years in practice

06/08/2026

When you start evolving, setting boundaries, or stepping back from over-functioning, notice how the room reacts.

​It’s completely normal to feel guilt when people push back against your personal growth, especially in your career or close relationships. But here is the psychological truth: humans rely on predictability.

​When you change, you break the predictive pattern others have relied on. That pattern disruption creates anxiety for them, and their knee-jerk reaction is often to try to pull you back into your old role.

​Understanding this makes all the difference for your mental health and stress management. Their inability to adjust to the new version of you is their responsibility to sort out, not yours to qualify.

05/08/2026

When people can't box you into who or what they want you to be, you will always encounter some resistance. Human beings are just wired like that.

Please just stay focused on your own lane and taking care of the strategies you need to pivot your path.

The very fact that you know deep down you need to develop a new strategy is the only answer you need to stay focused.

So whatever space you find yourself in, stay in your lane and trust the process.

relationships

27/07/2026

We keep things objectively fair on here. So let me tell you, they do exist. You just might find some of these examples utterly boring. But that's the whole point - peaceful people don't bring drama.

If you have a good guy and/or are in a healthy relationship, you probably have other examples to share with the class on how to spot one. The people want to know! Don't gatekeep.

Good guys exist.

17/07/2026

What your therapist won't say? Animals are often much easier to decode than humans.

​Case in point: Miles.

His specifications are clear: he prefers men, has a dislike for other dogs invading his space against his terms, only does brand deals on his terms and has a wrap sheet at the local library.

If human relationships came with a warning label this transparent, my job would be a whole lot simpler.

​Tell me the weirdest "product specification" your pet (or your partner) has. We don't judge here.

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15/07/2026

Celebrating my 7th year on Facebook. Thank you for your continuing support. I love creating content for you all! 🙏🤗🎉

05/07/2026

Let's get straight to the point shall we.
Save this for later:

​Step 1: Choose Your Core 3. Identify three people in your life whose opinions you truly, deeply value and trust. Filter out the rest of the noise. You don't need everyone's opinion about what you are doing or plan to do.

​Step 2: Reclaim Your Voice. Get used to hearing your own voice and seeing your own face. This isn't a vanity metric. Yes, that means you need to stop fearing the voice note or video call. Written journals are great, but video and voicenote journaling have helped so many people I've worked with.

​Step 3: Stop Looking Around. Quit planning your big reveal or business launch around what someone else has already done. You are not them! You cannot show up authentically if you are trying to use someone else's blueprint. Yes, we can look to others for inspiration to learn, but not to duplicate.

The whole point of doing your life in a way that's unique to who you are and what you bring to the table, is because nobody can do it like you! Let that sink in....

​And yes, I went a bit rogue and shouted a little at the end of the video, but it’s only because the pattern of self-sabotage needs an interrupt. And it's not actually shouting, I'm just speaking passionately in your direction.

28/06/2026

The cycle of abuse is a tool I've been using in my work for 20 years. It's not designed to fix a situation. It's designed to educate people. I encourage you to do your own due diligence and read up further from trusted sources to know more if this resonates with you.

​1. Tensions Building
​Communication begins to break down. You find yourself walking on eggshells, constantly assessing their mood, and adjusting your behavior just to keep the peace.

​2. The Incident
​The pressure cooker blows! This is the moment of outright emotional, verbal, or psychological hostility. It involves intense anger, blaming, arguing, threats, or deliberate intimidation.

​3. Reconciliation
​The dust settles and the script flips. They might apologise, offer elaborate excuses, or shower you with affection. Falling on their knees in tears is common. Alternatively, they will completely deny the behavior ever happened, or convince you that you are overreacting and caused the blow-up yourself.

​4. The Calm
​This is the classic "honeymoon" phase where everything feels normal and safe again. The incident seems forgotten, and you finally breathe a sigh of relief.

** ​The Trap: Phase 4 does not exist because they have changed. It exists solely to give you just enough hope to forget the trauma of Phase 2, resetting your brain so that when Phase 1 inevitably starts again, you stay. And this is how so many women get caught in a cycle before they can even make sense of what is going on.

Save this, share it and helo someone else to keep themselves safe 🧡

25/06/2026

In two decades of working with people, I have HEARD IT ALL when it comes to justifying "the mysterious man". And it never ends well.

​Before you deposit all of your emotional currency into a relationship, look at the data. Human beings are shaped by their systemic blueprints. If someone is hiding their origins, they are hiding the very things that influenced who they are today.

​Hold your head up high, demand radical transparency, and be entirely willing to walk away if the math doesn't add up.



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