30/08/2025
Lesedi 🙏🙏
I just want to share I few things that I have observed that many people do and it comes back and hits them. It's just two things that are happening and I'm not sure if it's a norm or a new thing as most people talk about the evolution of how things should be and yes there are certain things that will evolve and others that will not.
Let's take a look at ukugeza, whether it's ukushona kwengane, parents, baby daddy or husband. Many will ask why am I encluding baby daddy or baby mama to this as they didnt marry you or brought anything home... As I continue you will understand why.
In the process of ukugeza and uyazila for the person that have passed you will wear a don't touch as a woman and as a man they will have a small black cloth on the jacket that they are wearing. Manje what happens is that people with do the 10 days process and continue with life as a norm. Awusazili, but you are still in the dark cloud of the person that is no more that means there are certain rules that you will follow.
This includes not coming home late at night (yes many work so this needs to be indicated emsamo so that nothing bad happens) having s*x and many more. But those are not done or taken seriously. OK let's get back to what I want to address... When you are in the process of ukuzila and you have your cloth or don't touch on, when it's time yokugeza yoh will still have it on until you are taken to a field to go wash off the dark omen.
After you have been washed you will than be dressed in New bright cloths that will represent that you have been cleansed and you Will than not wear a don't touch or the black cloth anymore. So what I have seen is that many will go and geza at the back of the yard where isinyama will dwell, and still wear the don't touch the some one that has to be removed,but they still place it on... Abanye for a child they will put on a doek ekhalweni to represent that they have lost a child, and when you geza they need to take it off and most families will geza you and replace it and lapho it becomes hard for that woman to bear kids again ngoba isbeletho sifasiwe.
We need to make sure that we do the right things when it comes in these things ngoba a don't touch will make you not get a partner again if not removed kahle. As for a baby daddy and mommy you will not zila persay kodwa ingane nawe mele nigeze to remove them from you. Yes imbiza will be drunk (imbiza yabafelwa) to remove the person from your system.
Than there is this thing that when you do lomsebenzi wokugeza you have all the 7 colours😱😱spice the meat and even go as to marenate it. Yoo hai ukudla kwesintu needs to be ukudla kwesintu with just salt and your basic food... Pap, meat, potatoes or cabbage nothing fancy.
As for a funeral 😢😢people now have ithanga, pumpkin at a funeral and you will find that in that house hold/family there are always funerals... Ithanga liyanaba you need to look on how it grows. That's one of the vegetables that are not served at funerals, Hai but ke ngizathini senize nifaka ne cinnamon 😱.
Yes I kmow that most cultures are different and they do things differently kodwa isintu asitolikwa.
I hope that this will help someone.
Makwande kukhanye kubekuhle 🙏🙏🙏
