16/07/2026
Held, Taught, and Never Alone: Supporting Gogo Mpembe's last days
In January, Thembalethu received a call from Gogo Mpembe’s family. She was 70, newly discharged from hospital, and her care was now far beyond what they could manage alone. With high blood pressure, dementia, quadriplegia, and selective mutism—most of them new and overwhelming—Gogo lay mostly in bed. She was barely coherent, struggling to eat on her own, and her family faced an exhausting reality: limited resources, no clear “what next,” and heavy uncertainty about how to support her final days.
But for Gogo Mpembe’s family, help arrived with clarity.
Thembalethu’s nurse, MaShabalala, stepped in—not only with nursing support, but with practical confidence for the whole household. She taught Gogo’s daughter how to turn her safely in bed, how to give bed baths with dignity, and how to provide the care Gogo needed. Through every stage of decline, the family also had something just as vital: a listening ear as they grieved and held on.
Thembalethu’s team also arranged an occupational therapy visit, where exercises were shared to help reduce her pain and discomfort. These weren’t just “services”—they were small acts of compassion that eased suffering and steadied the people caring for her.
In early March, Gogo Mpembe deteriorated again and bedsores began to develop. Once more, MaShabalala took action, arranging clinic support. Her pastor came to pray with her, and as her final days drew near, Thembalethu’s team prayed with the family—urging them to stay close, sit by her, and stay close by.
When it was time, Thembalethu’s team encouraged the family to call Gogo’s son in Johannesburg. Gogo Mpembe passed peacefully, surrounded by the people who loved her most—comforted, supported, and never alone.
Instead of facing her final moments in confusion, uncertainty, and fear, her family cared for her with confidence—knowing they were doing what love requires, one step at a time.
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