Siyabonga Ntshangase- Counselling Psychologist

22/04/2026

Do you know what stress is and how affect your everyday. Join us as we discuss stress management live on radio

20/12/2025

Brotherhood talk: support for men's mental health

Why men (seem) to struggle to open up:

1. Negative stereotypes about men who express emotions like crying or talk about their emotions as weak, which makes it difficult for them to open up.

2. Unrealistic expectations from society for men to always be strong and 'have-it-all- together; these beliefs make it difficult for men to open up.

3. Men are often ridiculed for talking about their issues, most response are too simplistic or prescriptive- rushing too quickly to advise without giving time for men to speak openly, thus making it difficult for men to open up.

4. Beliefs about manhood which are influenced by culture, society and/or religion favours men who are doing well emotionally, financially or socially and associating that with being a 'real man' which is a huge burden for men who fall short of these ideals, making it difficult for men to open up.

5. Traditional gender roles also happen to disadvantage men who feel they cannot speak to their loved one for fear of them falling apart or being overwhelmed by what they shared- this often leads to reserving or keeping their worries internally, making it difficult for men to open up.


Ways to help:
1. Challenge negative stereotypes about manhood, let's embrace Masculinity as a spectrum rather than 'black and white'.

2. Listen to males when they express their difficulties without judgment or criticism. This makes it easier for them to speak out.

3. Always ask questions before giving advice, ask whether they are willing to get help or explored other options.

4. Avoid trying to change a man, you cannot love anyone to the point of changing them. So tolerating negative behaviour, even when you are being sincere does not make an impact.

5. Appreciate and/or honour men, it is crucial for society to see men for their attributes more than their belongings. Treating men with respect is the most important thing society can do to uplift men.

By Siyabonga Ntshangase

15/12/2025

Hi Everyone,

I had the privilege of speaking in at Buttercup Wellness Podcast discussing Men and Mental Health. I spoke on the impact of mental health for males and share some tips on self care. Please watch and like, comment and share.

In recent years, there has been a growing recognition of the importance of mental wellness for men. Despite this progress, many men still face significant ch...

03/07/2025

Self-care is a masculine trait.

Men are usually seen as more at risk than women. The mortality rate is higher, and more men die between age 25- 55 years compared to women of the same age. That is why we need to advocate and support initiatives that prioritize men's health. Self-care is associated with health and a longer life.

Men let's take care of our physical and mental health, so we may live long enough to make an impact in our generation and the generations to come.

I will be discussing the topic of "health is wealth" at the upcoming annual God's Men Gathering. Let's all gather there and grow! Madoda!
Rev'd Gift Ngoveni

Siyabonga Ntshangase

14/07/2024