17/07/2025
From the second the umbilical cord is cut, the task of life is to separate...
Many parents struggle to grasp or understand that if your kids are able to separate someday and live their own lives independently, then you have done a good and meaningful job as a parent.
Many parents think that their child/children is their's to own. News flash, unpopular opinion, reality check, you have borrowed time with your child/children.
Your job is to nurture, teach, understand, care for, love, learn, and provide safety (psychological, emotional, and physical) for your child/children and adapt affectively and accordingly to your child/children's needs more than your own.
The ability to tune in to and understand your child/children's needs and to reflect this understanding to them with empathy, attentiveness, and warmth, in a way that allows them to learn, grow and feel empowered internally, is what falls in line with what we psychologists call, the 'good-enough' parent.
The 'good-enough' parent is able to relinquish control and let go as the child becomes older and accepts that the child will eventually become independent and separate from the parent, and start to live his/her own life in his/her own meaningful way - this makes the 'good-enough' parent feel comfortably content for the child/children's benefit.
The real success/meaningfulness is sometimes reflected when the child/children want to and choose to be around you when they become adults.
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