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15/08/2026

14/08/2026

Why did it take me 46 (or 47, I'm not sure; I feel justified in losing count between 45 and 50) years to get here?

To the place where learning actually lands.
Where I read a page and not only does it stick, it stays - and I WANT to know what comes next.
Where going down the rabbit hole of the topic is MY favourite thing to do 😂
(If you knew me at school, you would know this is not the "me" we knew)

Okay...Three reasons.

One — I discovered I have ADHD. (hence taking so long to get to the actual point)

Late diagnosis. Which means a lifetime of thinking I was lazy - struggling to finish things - needing to re-read the same paragraph forty-seven times, and then just drawing a picture next to it instead- feeling everything more intensely than everyone else and masking well enough that nobody noticed.

And finally understanding WHY..

Two — I learned how to regulate my nervous system. (hands down number 1 lifetime gamechanger!!- I just can't put it first because it wasn't in that order)

When your body is in survival mode —
cortisol is elevated and your threat response is active —
your prefrontal cortex goes OFFLINE.

That's the part responsible for focus, memory, and learning.

You cannot absorb information properly when part of your nervous system is still watching for the threat.

Parasympathetic state changes everything.
Safe. Open. Present.

Information lands differently when you're in that place. (More reason to make sure your kids understand regulation if you expect them to do well at school -read my Brainz Mag article, link in bio😂)

Three — I have never been more in awe of the content of the work I do.

The science of the nervous system, fascia, trauma, neuroplasticity — people... it pulls me in every single time, because it just makes SO much sense!

I am so in love with this curious life of mine! - And also, I really recommend taking your hands off the wheel sometime and going with the flow.

46/7 years to get here.
Worth every one.

06/08/2026

When we tip into fight response, the prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain responsible for reason, empathy, and measured response — goes offline. What remains is the amygdala. The brain's threat detection system.

The amygdala's job is to detect threat and keep us safe. So when someone goes quiet in the middle of a fight — and if quiet in conflict is not what your nervous system knows — it sends the only message it knows.

Danger.

So when our child shuts down or goes quiet, a flooded brain doesn't read it as "they need space." It reads it as threat.

We escalate into their shutdown.

Not because we're bad parents. Because we're human nervous systems doing exactly what we were designed to do.

In that moment, we can't reason our way back either. We're in survival too.

What actually helps is the thing that feels most counterintuitive in the moment.

Getting quieter.

Slowing down. Staying present without escalating. Offering the nervous system beside yours something different to read.

That's co-regulation. And it starts with understanding what's happening — in them, and in you.

16/07/2026

I'm not a teacher.

And I want to say that upfront — because I know how it feels to have someone who hasn't lived your job tell you what's missing from it.

That's not what this article is.

This is me, a nervous system practitioner and a mom, sharing what changed how I see children, behaviour, and the adults trying to hold it all together every day.

Not a criticism. A conversation.

https://www.brainzmagazine.com/post/why-your-classroom-is-a-nervous-system-not-just-a-room

14/07/2026

Tuesdays are my busiest days! And for those of us with ADHD, transition is one of the hardest things. Moving from one intense, present, people-facing moment to the next without a buffer doesn’t just feel hard - it IS hard. (And misunderstood)

My brain needs a bridge

Transition is a nervous system event. Now that I understand that, I treat it like one.

So this is unapologetically mine 🤍

07/07/2026

Nobody handed me a manual for this.

I learned the hard way — through burnout, through chaos, through finally slowing down enough to ask what my own body was actually doing (and needing).

Understanding the nervous system didn’t just change my work.

It changed how I show up for the people I love most.

If any of this is landing — and you’re curious to know more, reach out😉
Link in bio.
🖤

26/06/2026

Your body isn’t reacting to today.

It’s reacting to whatever today reminded it of.

Maybe it’s the tone in someone’s voice. Or the look on their face or a smell in a room…Your nervous system caught a flicker of something old and it did what it’s always done — it pulled you back to whatever kept you safe the last time.
A shortness of breath. Stomach pain. The shutdown or a spiral that came out of nowhere.

There’s a reason for it. There always is.
You don’t fix this by pushing through it. You build a different kind of proof, through new experiences repeating over time, until your body stops bracing for the thing that already happened. Keep living.

But be patient with the part of you that’s still protecting you from something old.

Save this for the next time it floods

22/06/2026

Your child’s nervous system reads yours before you say a word.

Their body picks it up before they understand why.

This isn’t about being calm 24/7.
It’s about noticing your state before it spills into the room and they absorb what’s not theirs to carry.

Just try the one-exhale pause!

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19/06/2026

Dysregulation isn’t always shouting and screaming (and kicking)…

Sometimes it’s the blank stare. The bitchy snap over something tiny. Or habitual mindless scrolling because there’s nothing left to give.

Your nervous system has three
default states under stress — fight/flight (the snapping, the short fuse) or shutdown (the blank stare, the numb scroll). Or Fawn (people pleasing, making sure everyone else is happy, while you ignore yourself) All of these are protective. None of this means you’re falling apart or broken or a bad person!

And the first move isn’t fixing it in the moment!
It’s taking just a few seconds to notice which Nervous system state you’re in, before you do anything else.

Which one is more familiar to you — fight/flight, or shutdown?