Monica Grobler Social Work Services

27/07/2026

A child who feels safe makes different choices than a child who doesn't. Not because they're a different child, because they're in a different state.

Safety isn't a reward for good behavior. It's the condition that makes good behavior possible.

24/07/2026

Yes. ❤️

Credit: BrainPower Neurodevelopmental Center

21/07/2026

Often I get messages from frustrated parents who feel disrespected and powerless..
Here is some insight into the disrespect vs dysregulated question ��

19/07/2026

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19/07/2026

Play based Socio-emotional Assessments gives them a way to communicate through play.. 💛💜💛💜

A child’s behaviour is often the part of the message we can see.

The frustration.
The refusal.
The yelling.
The shutting down.

But underneath it may be something they don’t yet have the words, skills or awareness to communicate.

That doesn’t mean every behaviour should be ignored or excused.

It means we can hold the boundary and stay curious about what the behaviour might be telling us.

Because behaviour is communication—but it isn’t always a message we can immediately understand.

For more practical, evidence-informed parenting guidance, visit "www.thetherapistparent.com" (https://reference-url-citation.invalid/0)

You can also find my book Guidance from The Therapist Parent on the website.

19/07/2026

Children don't always repeat behaviours because they need a bigger consequence.

Sometimes they repeat them because they're missing a skill.

A child who struggles to stop, wait, cope with frustration, manage disappointment, or communicate their needs isn't choosing to lack those skills—they're still developing them.

When we shift from asking, "How do I stop this behaviour?" to "What skill is missing?", our response changes.

Instead of only correcting the behaviour, we start teaching the skill that makes the behaviour less necessary.

That's where lasting change happens.

What skill do you think is most overlooked in children?

17/07/2026

💜 Unfortunately so.
My parents were too immature and I don’t mean because of their age either. I was a teenage mum!
My parents needs were more important than any of their children’s.
WE witnessed and went through way too much abuse. 💜

17/07/2026

Todd Baratz

15/07/2026

Never Give Up

You mean something to someone, you bring the light in someones darkness, the smile upon their face. Those who’ve lived through the battle, hold the light for others storms. Keep on shining brightly, to guide others through their darkest moments. Together we stand. 🫶🏻

Katie

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