Hendrien van der Bijl- Imago Relationship Therapy

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Hendrien van der Bijl- Imago Relationship Therapy For couples who have done everything right, but marriage feels hard
Make your marriage alive again
3-Day Marriage Retreat | Free Clarity Call ↓

If you’ve read the books, tried the tools and still feel disconnected, nothing is wrong with you. You were just handed a...
13/10/2026

If you’ve read the books, tried the tools and still feel disconnected, nothing is wrong with you.

You were just handed advice for the words, when the real problem sits underneath them.

Save this for the next time someone says “just talk to each other”.

Part of you still believes things can change? DM me “INTENSIVE”.

“We’ll get help if it gets worse.”But what if worse doesn’t look like bigger fights?What if it looks like fewer conversa...
30/09/2026

“We’ll get help if it gets worse.”

But what if worse doesn’t look like bigger fights?

What if it looks like fewer conversations. Less affection. No longer asking for what you need because you already expect disappointment.

You still run a household together. You just feel increasingly alone in it.

It’s easy to put your relationship on hold until life settles down. After the busy season. When the children are older. When there’s more time.

But your loneliness deserves attention now.

You don’t have to wait until one of you is ready to leave before learning how to reach each other again.

Our free 20-minute clarity call is a place to begin understanding the cycle you’re caught in, what may be driving it, and what support could help you move forward.

🤍 Book through the link in my bio. You can ask for help while you still have hope.

Most couples don’t come to therapy because they have one problem.They come because somewhere along the way, the relation...
28/08/2026

Most couples don’t come to therapy because they have one problem.

They come because somewhere along the way, the relationship stopped feeling like a place where problems could be worked through together.

So yes, communication matters.
Trust matters.
Intimacy matters.
Conflict matters.

But if every conversation feels like a threat, every concern sounds like criticism, and every attempt at connection ends in defensiveness… fixing the “issue” is often not the first step.

The first step is restoring the relationship underneath it.

Creating enough safety to listen differently.
Enough connection to become curious again.
Enough steadiness to stop treating each other like the enemy.

Because once the foundation changes, the problems often start to look very different too.

Sometimes the relationship doesn’t need more problem-solving.

It needs a safer place to begin.

Save this if you’ve been trying to fix the same problem over and over again.

There’s a specific kind of lonely that happens when you’re not actually alone.Sharing a bed, a home, a life, but somewhe...
23/08/2026

There’s a specific kind of lonely that happens when you’re not actually alone.

Sharing a bed, a home, a life, but somewhere along the way you became more like really good roommates than partners. You run the household together. You just don’t feel together anymore.

If that hits a little close to home, you’re not broken. And you’re definitely not alone in this.

This guide was written by someone who’s been exactly there, a wife, a mom, a relationship therapist who had to use her own tools at home when she realized she and her husband had stopped really talking.

It’s not a fix-it manual. It’s a way back to each other, one small, honest conversation at a time.

🖤 R250. Start tonight, together.

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Some marriages are loud-broken.Everyone can see the pain.But others are quiet-broken.You still laugh sometimes.You still...
21/08/2026

Some marriages are loud-broken.

Everyone can see the pain.

But others are quiet-broken.

You still laugh sometimes.
You still parent together.
You still go to dinner.
You still say, “We’re fine.”

There’s no dramatic crisis forcing you to do something.

Just a growing distance you’ve slowly learned to live with.

And that’s what makes the quiet kind so dangerous.

You can function inside disconnection for years.

Until one day you look at the person beside you and wonder:

What happened to us?

If that question has been sitting quietly in the back of your mind, I created something for you.

Take my FREE “What Happened to Us?” relationship quiz.

It will help you identify where your relationship may be stuck and what might actually be happening underneath the distance.

You don’t need to wait until your marriage becomes unbearable to become curious about making it better.

Take the free quiz,comment START to get the link ❤️

These are small things.Easy to miss. Easy to explain away.Everyone has phones.Everyone gets tired.Everyone has quiet nig...
18/08/2026

These are small things.
Easy to miss. Easy to explain away.

Everyone has phones.
Everyone gets tired.
Everyone has quiet nights.

But when these moments show up together,
over and over again,
something is happening.

No labels. No blame.
Just patterns worth noticing.

If you’re realizing there’s more distance than you want and you don’t want to wait until it’s too late, my couples intensive is designed for this exact moment.
Deep work. Focused time. Real change.

Just surviving your relationship is not the same as living it. If you are ready to make it feel alive again, comment START and I will send you the next step.

Address

106 Shirley Avenue
Pretoria
0081

Opening Hours

Monday 09:00 - 17:00
Tuesday 09:00 - 17:00
Wednesday 09:00 - 17:00
Thursday 09:00 - 17:00
Friday 09:00 - 16:00

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+27836102892

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