Tee Landman, Counselling Psychologist

29/05/2026

We often think “bad communication” is the problem, but more often, it’s a doorway into deeper emotional patterns. In our relationships, we replay old relational blueprints - projecting unmet needs, fears, and hopes. If we listen closely, we might just hear the longing beneath the words.

28/05/2026

26/05/2026

A small but meaningful professional moment.

I’m excited, and honestly quite proud, to have been invited as a panelist for the International Association for Relational Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy.

It feels deeply affirming to be in conversation with international colleagues in the psychoanalytic field, especially from a South African clinical and theoretical context. Psychoanalysis can sometimes feel like a private, quiet, patient and often solitary kind of work, so moments like this matter.

Grateful for the invitation, and looking forward to the discussion.

https://iarpp.net/colloquium/on-dreaming-parasomnia-dream-enactment-and-murder/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

21/04/2026

Not every painful pattern in your life will change because you “change your mindset.”

If you keep finding yourself in the same kinds of relationships, the same emotional dead ends, or the same familiar hurt, it means something unconscious is being repeated.

In psychoanalytic psychotherapy, repetition is understood as the mind’s attempt to return to what is familiar, even when it is painful. You may be trying, unconsciously, to finally get from others what you did not receive earlier in life. That is why insight matters. Real change does not come from surface-level advice. It comes from understanding how these deeper patterns are shaping your emotional world.

26/03/2026

New on the blog: The Architecture of "Us": Reflections on Couples Therapy. This post provides a clinician’s intimate take on the repetitive loops, exhaustion, and court-room style dynamics many partners bring into therapy. Read more: https://wix.to/LyD6SYp

These blogs are a way for me to grapple "out loud" with my clinical work and what it actually means to sit with human suffering. Lately, my focus has turned to couples and intimate partners.Often, when intimate partners come into the consulting room, the air is thick with a very specific kind of anx...

17/02/2026

My latest blog post is up! 😄 I dive into the world of psychoanalytic psychotherapy.

https://www.tiaanlandman.co.za/blog

16/02/2026

Freud’s insights into trauma, repression and the unconscious are finding new relevance and millions of followers.

16/02/2026

What is psychoanalytic psychotherapy? Learn about the 'wisdom tradition' of psychoanalysis in our latest blog post by blog post by Tee Landman. Dive into how contemporary psychoanalytic or psychodynamic psychotherapy differs from the old caricatures and why it still matters for deep, lasting change. Read more:

When most people hear the word "psychoanalysis," a very specific, almost comical image comes to mind: a silent, bearded man sitting out of sight, jotting notes on a legal pad while a patient lies on a couch, endlessly recounting grievances about their mother.As psychologist and researcher Jonathan S...

05/11/2025