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Pasero Counselling My name is Elmarie Spingies. I am also a certifified NLP Life Coach.

I am a registered Wellness Counsellor (ASCHP) and offer in-person or online sessions to support you in your journey towards wellness.

28/09/2026

Depression can make everything feel far away. Joy feels far away. Motivation feels far away. Sometimes even God feels far away. You can wake up after eight hours of sleep and still feel exhausted. You can sit around people who love you and somehow feel completely alone. You can know the right Scriptures and still struggle to feel what you know is true. If that is where you are today, please hear me. Your struggle does not make you a disappointment to Jesus. You do not have to hide the darkness from the One who already knows every corner of your heart.

Sometimes depression whispers that because you cannot feel God, He must have moved away from you. But your relationship with God is not secured by your emotions. It is secured by Jesus. Paul wrote, “But now in Christ Jesus you who once were far off have been brought near by the blood of Christ” (Ephesians 2:13 ESV). Your feelings may tell you that God is a thousand miles away, but the blood of Jesus says you have been brought near. Depression cannot reverse the cross. A difficult morning cannot undo your union with Christ. Even when you cannot sense His nearness, you are still near.

Please do not condemn yourself because you are struggling mentally or emotionally. You are not less spiritual because getting out of bed feels difficult today. You are not failing God because you need someone to talk to. Prayer and professional help are not enemies. Scripture says, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1 ESV). Jesus did not carry your condemnation to the cross so you could spend your darkest days condemning yourself for hurting. You are allowed to admit that you are not okay while remaining completely loved by God.

Depression may tell you that you are a burden. It may tell you that everyone would be better without your problems, your tears, or your complicated emotions. Do not let that voice define your value. Paul wrote, “For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works” (Ephesians 2:10 ESV). You are His workmanship even on the days when you accomplish nothing impressive. Your worth is not measured by your productivity. Your value does not disappear when your energy does. You matter because you belong to Jesus.

And when you cannot find the words to pray, you have not failed at prayer either. Sometimes all you have are tears. Sometimes all you can whisper is the name of Jesus. Sometimes you sit quietly because you do not even know what you need. Scripture says, “the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words” (Romans 8:26 ESV). There are prayers happening deeper than your vocabulary. God understands the ache you cannot explain. Silence does not shut heaven out.

I also want you to remember that receiving help can be part of walking through this season. Let someone trustworthy know what is happening inside you. Talk with a pastor, counselor, doctor, therapist, family member, or friend who can walk beside you. You do not have to choose between trusting Jesus and receiving support. Paul told believers, “Bear one another’s burdens” (Galatians 6:2 ESV). Some burdens were never meant to be carried alone. Let somebody help you carry this one.

And please remember that what you feel today is not a prophecy about tomorrow. Depression can make a painful moment feel permanent. But your future belongs to Jesus, not to the darkness you currently feel. Paul wrote, “He who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ” (Philippians 1:6 ESV). Jesus has not abandoned His work in you. There are conversations you have not had yet. There are people you have not met yet. There are mornings you have not awakened to yet. There are reasons to stay that pain may be preventing you from seeing right now.

So if today feels impossibly heavy, do not demand that you figure out the rest of your life today. Take the next breath. Eat something. Open the curtains. Answer the phone. Tell somebody the truth about how you are feeling. Let yourself receive help. And underneath every small step, remember something infinitely greater. Jesus died for you, Jesus rose for you, and your life is joined to His. Paul wrote, “Whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s” (Romans 14:8 ESV). Depression may be part of what you are walking through, but it is not who you are. You belong to Jesus. And because the tomb is empty, darkness will never get the final word over your story.

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14/09/2026

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Holding our Heads Up: Sharing stories not stigma after losing a loved one to su***de

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Dear Reader, On this website are stories and wisdoms from many people who have had to deal with a su***de of a loved one. They have been generously shared from diverse places: Australia, Denmark, Israel, Nigeria, South Africa, United States, Canada, Brazil, Hong Kong, Russia, and the United Kingdom....

Langenhoven het iets van die finaliteit van die dood so raak gevat in hierdie gedig.
04/09/2026

Langenhoven het iets van die finaliteit van die dood so raak gevat in hierdie gedig.

DIE TAAL VAN ’N KIS

Daar is ’n geluid
wat ’n mens nooit vergeet nie.

Die gekraak van die masjien,
die stadige gekreun
van metaal wat onder gewig werk.

Maar daardie dag
praat die masjien nie van metaal nie.

Dit praat van finaal.

Elke kraak
sê:
“Hierdie is die einde.”

Elke kreun
sê:
“Jy kan haar nie terugbring nie.”

En terwyl die kis
millimeter vir millimeter sak,
staan jy daar
en wens jy kon die tyd
net vir ’n oomblik terugdraai.

Want ’n mens dink altyd
jy is gereed vir die laaste groet.

Totdat jy daar staan
en besef,

hierdie keer
is daar geen môre
waarin jy weer kan hallo sê nie.

Die toue beweeg.
Die kis sak.

En jou hart skree
terwyl jou mond stilbly.

Nog ’n bietjie laer…

Nog ’n bietjie verder
van jou af.

En daardie ou masjien
gaan aan met sy werk
asof dit net nog ’n dag is.

Maar vir jou
is dit die dag
waarop ’n hele wêreld
stadig onder die grond verdwyn.

Die gekraak praat van afskeid.

Die gekreun praat van verlies.

Die stadig sak
praat van nooit weer.

En wanneer die kis
uiteindelik onder jou oë verdwyn,
bly jy vir ’n oomblik staan,

met blomme in jou hand,
trane op jou wange
en ’n duisend woorde
wat jy wens jy kon nog sê.

Maar die masjien het klaar gepraat.

Finaal.

Die einde.

Die laaste groet.

04/09/2026

Today is National Grief Awareness Day.

But what does it actually mean to be aware of grief?

It means understanding that grief doesn't have an expiration date.

It means knowing someone can laugh, go out, take a vacation, celebrate something good, build a new life—and still deeply grieve the person they lost.

It means not assuming that because six months, two years, or ten years have passed, they should be "better by now."

It means understanding that grief doesn't always look like crying. Sometimes it looks like exhaustion. Irritability. Forgetfulness. Turning down plans. Leaving early. Needing people and wanting to be left alone at the exact same time.

It means saying their person's name instead of avoiding it because you're afraid you'll remind them.

They haven't forgotten.

It means listening without trying to fix it.

It means not comparing one person's loss to another person's loss.

And it means making room for the fact that someone can be doing really well and still have a day that completely knocks them down.

That's grief awareness.

National Grief Awareness Day isn't only for those of us who have experienced loss. We don't need a designated day to know grief exists.

Maybe this day matters even more for everyone around us.

Because awareness can change the way we respond to someone who is grieving.

It can make us a little more patient.

A little less likely to judge.

More willing to listen.

More comfortable saying the name of someone who died.

And less likely to put a timeline on something that never had one.

We can't take someone's grief away. But we can get a whole lot better at how we show up for people living with it.

Written by: Aimee Suyko - In Their Footsteps
If these words connected with you, you’ll find many more like them in What Remains. It’s a collection of the writings I’ve shared over the years, bringing together reflections on grief, love, loss, and the connections that continue long after someone is gone.

I hope it brings you comfort, understanding, and the reminder that you're not alone.

What Remains is Now Available on Amazon
https://a.co/d/01qqroIe

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