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🌿 THURSDAY MUSINGS: YOU NEED A DIRECTION BEFORE YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR STRATEGYNot sure where to start? Look for the practi...
09/10/2026

🌿 THURSDAY MUSINGS: YOU NEED A DIRECTION BEFORE YOU CAN CHOOSE YOUR STRATEGY

Not sure where to start? Look for the practical tool at the bottom of this post, with three simple steps to help you find your direction and choose a strategy to get you there.

This is something I explore with adolescents in my Confidence Builder workshops, but it also has value for adults, so I wanted to share it with you.

We all have strategies we use in life. Some work well, while others don't seem to get us where we want to be.

Sometimes, we get so caught up in figuring out how to do something that we forget to stop and ask ourselves: Where am I actually trying to go?

In Alice's Adventures in Wonderland, Alice asks the Cheshire Cat which way she should go. He asks her where she wants to get to. When she can't really answer that question, he points out that the direction doesn't matter very much if she doesn't know where she wants to go.

So, whether you want to feel more confident, handle a difficult situation differently, build better relationships or take the first step towards something that scares you, it helps to know what you're working towards. What do you actually want things to look like when you “arrive”?

You can keep trying different strategies, but if you haven't thought about where you want to go and what it will look like, how will you know which strategies are right for you in the long term?

This is something I needed to remind myself of this past week. I was so caught up in finding a solution that I forgot to stop and ask myself: What would the ideal outcome look like?

I think this is particularly helpful with exams coming up. It's easy to focus on studying harder or spending more time at your desk without first considering what you actually want to achieve and which strategies will help you get there.

It's a reminder that sometimes, before we look for solutions, we need to take a step back and get clear about where we're trying to go.

I'd love to hear your thoughts. Have you ever found yourself trying lots of different things before realising you needed to rethink your direction?
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🌿 A PRACTICAL TOOL: BEFORE YOU CHOOSE YOUR STRATEGY
1. WHERE DO I WANT TO GO?
What would I like to be different? What am I hoping to achieve?

2. WHAT DO I NEED TO CONSIDER?
Think about yourself: what gives you joy, your strengths, what drains you, and the environment you're in. What's helping you, and what's getting in your way?

3. WHICH STRATEGY COULD HELP ME TAKE A STEP IN THAT DIRECTION?
What's one small thing I could try? How will I know if it's helping?
You don't need to have everything figured out. You just need somewhere to begin.
And remember, if a strategy isn't helping you move in the direction you want to go, you can pause, reflect and try a different approach.

Where do I want to go, and which strategy will help me get there?

TUESDAY’S THOUGHT: What are the STORIES that help you THRIVE?To be honest, the last few weeks have been quite difficult ...
06/10/2026

TUESDAY’S THOUGHT: What are the STORIES that help you THRIVE?

To be honest, the last few weeks have been quite difficult for me.

And about ten days ago, I remembered something I had written years ago: my book of STORIES THAT HELPED ME THRIVE.

It is a collection of little stories from my life. Moments when things went well. Things I did that made me feel good. Small successes. Moments of connection. Things that helped me through difficult times.

I had almost forgotten about it.

But I started reading through it again, and it has honestly helped me get through this difficult patch. Because when we are struggling, it is so easy to get caught in the “WHAT’S WRONG?” LOOP.

We forget what has helped us before. We forget our small successes. We forget those positive experiences that made our heart smile.

Reading my stories reminded me of the things that have helped me feel strong, capable, connected and happy at different times in my life.

And I found myself thinking: “Oh yes… maybe I could try that again.”

It got me thinking about adolescents and young adults too.

ADOLESCENCE can be a time of such intense emotions. The difficult moments can feel incredibly painful, but the flip side is the incredible joy, excitement, connection, and moments of feeling truly ALIVE.

Adolescents should be those moments too, not just in photos but taking time to write them down.

The LITTLE WINS.
The things that make you laugh.
The moments you feel SEEN, STRONG or CAPABLE.
Write them down.

Because you never know when you might need to read one of those stories again. Sometimes the story we need today is one we wrote when we were doing okay.

MONDAY MOTIVATION: DON’T WAIT … DO Sometimes we wait.We wait for the right moment, the right season, the right circumst...
05/10/2026

MONDAY MOTIVATION: DON’T WAIT … DO

Sometimes we wait.

We wait for the right moment, the right season, the right circumstances, or the right weight before we take action.

But I’ve learned that sometimes THERE IS NO PERFECT MOMENT. There’s just this moment.

And sometimes, taking that one small step … NO MATTER HOW SMALL…. Can create the momentum we need to move forward.

So, wherever you are today, if you’re feeling stuck, ask yourself:

What small action can I take today that could help me make a giant leap forward?

IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE A GIANT LEAP. IT JUST NEEDS TO BE A SMALL STEP

🌿 THURSDAY MUSINGS: SOMETIMES FAILURE IS THE START OF SUCCESSWe live in a world where failure is seen as something to av...
01/10/2026

🌿 THURSDAY MUSINGS: SOMETIMES FAILURE IS THE START OF SUCCESS

We live in a world where failure is seen as something to avoid. When things don't work out, it's easy to feel frustrated or question our abilities. But what if we looked at failure a little differently?

When I work with adolescents, I try to help them understand that a strategy rarely works perfectly the first time. Sometimes, we need to try something, see what happens, and adapt.

Honestly, it's a lesson I have to remind myself of, too.

Recently, I tried a new strategy to help my own son manage technology and gaming. It didn't work as hoped. Rather than giving up, I stepped back, analyzed what went wrong, and changed our approach. We're now on attempt number two. Will it work? I don't know yet, but that's the point; we're learning as we go.

This mindset is critical for young adolescents who are still discovering who they are and navigating new challenges. They will inevitably get things wrong.
How they respond makes all the difference.

Instead of seeing mistakes as a reason to give up, they can learn to pause, reflect, and ask: WHAT CAN I LEARN FROM THIS? WHAT COULD I DO DIFFERENTLY NEXT TIME?

I talk about this often in my CONFIDENCE BUILDER WORKSHOPS for adolescents and young adults. Building confidence isn't about never making mistakes. It's about learning to trust yourself, knowing you can adapt, and finding the courage to try again.

And it’s just as relevant for us as adults. Our first approach will sometimes fail.
Failure isn't the end; it’s simply the starting point for finding a better way. Success isn't about getting everything right the first time. It's about making small adjustments until you find a strategy that fits you, even if it looks completely different from someone else's.

Sometimes, the very thing we fear. FAILURE, gives us the chance to discover a better path forward.

I'd love to hear your thoughts. Have you ever experienced a setback that ultimately led you to a better solution? Let's chat in the comments! 👇

TUESDAY THOUGHT: SOMETIMES THE BEST STRATEGY IS THE ONE WE COME UP WITH OURSELVES. Ever tried advice or a strategy that ...
29/09/2026

TUESDAY THOUGHT: SOMETIMES THE BEST STRATEGY IS THE ONE WE COME UP WITH OURSELVES.

Ever tried advice or a strategy that worked brilliantly for someone else, only to find that it didn't work for you at all?

It's frustrating, isn't it? We often assume that if something works for someone else, it should work for us, too. But we're all different. We have different strengths, challenges, personalities, and ways of approaching life.

There's nothing wrong with learning from others! In fact, other people's strategies can be a great starting point. But that doesn't mean we have to follow them to the letter. We can take what works, change what doesn't, and find our own path.

The real skill is learning to recognise what works for you and developing strategies that suit your own unique needs.

And in saying this, I think we as adults should also look at the strategies we use. We need to be mindful that an AI-generated strategy is not always the best strategy for us. Just because technology can give us a quick answer doesn't mean it fits our personal reality.

Rather than simply giving adolescents and young adults a rigid set of rules to follow, we need to help them explore different approaches, understand themselves better, and discover what works for them. And with that in mind, we as adults should also be mindful that an AI strategy for something isn't always the best strategy for us.

Because confidence isn't about knowing all the right strategies. It's about having the confidence to find your own.

That's the thinking behind my upcoming Confidence Builder workshops. 🛠️✨
If you'd like to find out more, send me a DM to me or my page Adolescent Mind Lab or comment WORKSHOP below, and I'll send the details straight to your inbox!

🗓️ WORKSHOP DETAILS:
YOUNG ADULTS (Ages 19–27)
đź“Ť In-Person: Pennington, KZN | 28 November
🕤 Time: 09:30–12:30
🎟️ Investment: Early bird: R300 | Regular: R400 per person
đź’» Online: Last week of November

TEENS (Ages 14–18)
đź“Ť In-Person: Pennington, KZN | 5 December
🕤 Time: 09:30–12:30
🎟️ Investment: Early bird: R300 | Regular: R400 per person
đź’» Online: First week of December

MONDAY MOTIVATION WHEN THE FIRST STEP FEELS TOO BIG TO TAKE.Have you ever sat down to do something, knowing exactly wha...
28/09/2026

MONDAY MOTIVATION WHEN THE FIRST STEP FEELS TOO BIG TO TAKE.

Have you ever sat down to do something, knowing exactly what needs to be done, but somehow just can't get started?

It might be an assignment, a work project or even something as simple as tidying your room. Sometimes, the task just feels too big, and you don't know where to begin.

This isn't necessarily laziness. Often, it's simply overwhelm.

One strategy I find helpful, both for myself and the young people I work with, is to break things down. If the first step feels too big, break it down until it feels manageable.

Sometimes, getting started is as simple as:
• Opening your laptop or the Text Book
• Writing just one sentence.
• Picking up one thing from the floor.

It might seem like a tiny step, but that's the point. You don't have to tackle everything at once. You just need to find a place to start. And sometimes, that first small step is all you need to build a little momentum.

Remember, progress doesn't have to be big to be meaningful.

If you and your adolescent are interested in building real-world confidence, follow my page. Throughout October, we'll be exploring how to build a personal confidence toolkit by identifying the strategies that already work for us and learning new ones to help us navigate everyday challenges and make the most of life's opportunities.

Link in the comments

THURSDAY MUSING: AM I USING MY RESOURCES WISELY, OR AM I WASTING THEM?Confidence starts with knowing what resources you ...
24/09/2026

THURSDAY MUSING: AM I USING MY RESOURCES WISELY, OR AM I WASTING THEM?

Confidence starts with knowing what resources you have And being aware of how you use them.

I’ve been thinking about resources lately. We all have different resources available to us — our strengths, our abilities, our relationships, our energy and our time.

And time is an interesting one. We all have the same 24 hours in a day, but we can use those 24 hours very differently.

I’ve noticed that there are days when I intend to use my time to do things that I know are important for me, things that help me move forward and thrive, and yet I somehow end up scrolling on social media or gaming on my phone.

And I’m not saying these things are bad. I enjoy them. The problem is that I might think, I’ll just spend 30 minutes doing this. And then, before I know it, two or three hours have gone by.
That really got me thinking.

SO WHY IS IT SO DIFFICULT TO JUST SWITCH OFF?

The more I learn about the brain, the more I realise that this isn’t simply about willpower. We have a very tricky brain, in CFT we say “a brain designed for us, not by us” and it was not designed for the type of world we live in today, with endless scrolling, notifications, games, videos and constant stimulation.

When something is rewarding, interesting or entertaining, our brain naturally wants to keep going. And if I find that difficult as an adult, I can imagine how much more difficult it can be for adolescents and young adults.

The adolescent brain is particularly sensitive to things like reward, novelty, status and connection with other people. And that makes sense as it “encourages” young people to get out into the world, to explore, to learn about who they are, to learn skills, become more independent, build connections outside the family, and start finding their own place in the world.

But there is a tricky side to this when those same systems are constantly being stimulated by gaming and social media. At the same time, the brain systems involved in planning, decision making and controlling impulses are still developing and strengthening through adolescence and into young adulthood.

So, when a young person finds it really difficult to put the phone down or switch the game off, I don’t think it is helpful to simply say, “You need more self-control.” There may be much more going on.

And I think understanding that can change the conversation. Instead of asking, “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I just stop?” we can start asking, “What is happening here, and what could help me?”

Because knowing what resources we have is one thing. Learning how to use those resources well is another.

SO HERE IS A LITTLE EXERCISE I DID: AND I THINK WE SHOULD ALL TRY IT (LET ME KNOW IF THE RESULTS SURPRISE YOU)

1. Estimate it: Think about how much time you think you spend each week scrolling, gaming on your phone or computer or using WhatsApp for personal use.
2. Track it. For the next seven days, notice when you start and finish. Use a timer or simply note the times.
3. Add it up. At the end of the seven days, add up your actual time.
4. Work out the percentage. Calculate what percentage of your total waking hours that time represents.
5. Compare. The time you thought you were spending versus the time you spent.

I’ll be sharing more about understanding the resources you already have and learning how to use them rather than lose them.

Follow Adolescent Mind Lab link in the comments if you’d like to learn more.

Interested in the Confidence Builder Workshop? Details below. Comment “WORKSHOP” and I’ll send you the details.

Young Adults 19–27
đź“Ť 28 Nov | Pennington KZN | 09:30 - 12:30
đź’» Online | Last week of November
COST: R300 PP (Early Bird) R400 PP

Teens 14–18
đź“Ť 5 Dec | Pennington
đź’» Online | First week of December
COST: R300 PP (Early Bird) R400 PP

23/09/2026

HAPPY HERITAGE DAY TO ALL MY AMAZING FOLLOWERS

TUESDAY THOUGHT WHEN A COMPLIMENT DOESN'T FEEL TRUEWe all like to be complimented. Being told that we're good at somethi...
22/09/2026

TUESDAY THOUGHT WHEN A COMPLIMENT DOESN'T FEEL TRUE
We all like to be complimented. Being told that we're good at something, that we've done a great job, or that someone believes in us can give us a temporary boost.

But have you ever had someone praise you and, inside, you immediately thought, “I don't actually believe that”?

Like when someone tells you you're doing amazing, and your brain instantly replies, “You're just saying that to be nice,” or “You're my parent or my friend. You're saying it because you care about me, not because it's true.”

It's a strange thing about confidence. Sometimes we try to build it by forcing ourselves to look in the mirror and repeat positive affirmations. Or the people around us shower us with praise because they want us to feel capable and successful.

Encouragement is great. But if the compliment doesn't match what we believe about ourselves on the inside, it can be very difficult to take it in.

If you feel like you're underqualified, struggling to figure out your next steps, or finding things tough, someone telling you that you're “brilliant” doesn't necessarily change that belief. You might smile and say thank you, but inside you're still thinking, “If you really knew what was going on, you wouldn't say that.”

Real confidence can't be built on empty phrases or outside validation. It must have something real underneath it.

It comes from slowing down and becoming aware of what is actually true about you — the things you can do, the skills you've actually learnt, the difficult situations you've already managed to get through, and the tools you have available when things get messy.

Those real things give you a foundation you can trust.

And that's why I keep coming back to the idea of a Confidence Toolkit.

We don't have to convince ourselves that we are flawless or the absolute best at everything. We just need to start by knowing ourselves a little better and recognising what is genuinely there.

BECAUSE WHEN SOMETHING IS REAL, YOU DON'T HAVE TO FORCE YOURSELF TO BELIEVE IT. IT JUST IS. And I think that is a completely different feeling from being told you're amazing.

This is one of the ideas we explore through the Confidence Builder workshop: not simply telling someone they are amazing, but helping them recognise what is genuinely there and begin to build confidence from something they can actually believe in.

If you are a young adult, or you have a teen or young adult in your life who you feel may need this as they head into the holidays and towards 2027, follow the Adolescent Mind Lab page or comment “workshop” below, and I’ll personally message you with all the details.

The Confidence Builder Workshop:

Young Adults (19-27)
FACE-TO-FACE WORKSHOP: Saturday 26th November 2026, Pennington, KZN
ONLINE WORKSHOP: last week of November 2026

Teens (14- 18)
FACE-TO-FACE WORKSHOP: Saturday 05th December 2026, Pennington, KZN
ONLINE WORKSHOP: First week of December 2026

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