Pavona Emerging Crone

11/09/2026

There’s a conversation that happens in many long-term relationships without anybody really having it.

You love him.

You know he would quite like s*x.

You remember when it was spontaneous, pleasurable and considerably less complicated.

But now?

The lights are on, but nobody’s home.

Menopause can change far more than libido. Pain, dryness, tissue changes, UTIs, stress, nervous-system load, relationship expectations — and simply feeling different in your own body — can all become part of the story.

And perhaps the question isn’t:

“How do I get my old libido back?”

Perhaps it is:

“Who am I s*xually now?”

What feels safe?
What feels pleasurable?
What does intimacy look like now?
And can the person who loves me be curious enough to meet this version of me?

This month’s Pavona blog is a frank, compassionate look at s*x after menopause — with a little humour, because honestly, we need that too.

When the Lights Are On but Nobody’s Home: S*x After Menopause

https://pavonaemergingcrone.com/s*x-after-menopause-lights-on-nobodys-home/

23/08/2026

A little Pavona news… the new website is live.

After a lot of rethinking, refining and bringing things back into alignment, Pavona Emerging Crone finally has a website that feels like the work I do now.

Clinical Western Herbal Medicine sits at its heart, alongside integrative care, bodywork, coaching and archetypal work — with a particular place for women navigating their wiser years.

There are new pages to explore, a much clearer way to book, and more room for the conversations and questions that emerge at this stage of life.

I’m rather delighted with it.

pavonaemergingcrone.com

Have a wander and say hello. 🌿

Clinical Western Herbal Medicine and integrative care for women in their wiser years, near Gunning NSW and online.

18/08/2026

I came across a reel claiming that women regulate through oxytocin rather than dopamine — and that too much achievement actually depletes our oxytocin.

It made me stop.

Not because the science was quite right — it wasn’t — but because underneath it was a question worth exploring:

Why can connection, touch, rest and simply doing “not much of no-thing” feel so profoundly restorative?

After ten gloriously unproductive days with my best friend in Tasmania, this one became rather personal.

I went digging into the research — including the rats, prairie voles and the rather large leap we sometimes make from animal neuroscience to human women.

The science is much more interesting than the reel.

Read the full Pavona blog:
https://pavonaemergingcrone.com/women-oxytocin-dopamine-nervous-system/

20/06/2026