12/05/2026
📹This video is recorded by three amazing women, Ayesha (Croydon resident), Davina (MNVP neonatal lead) and Georgina (CUH midwife), for Black Baby Loss Awareness Week 2026.
🫶🏿It has been identified that Black women are 43% more likely to suffer from perinatal loss, including miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, still birth and neonatal death (The Lancet, Miscarriage Matters, April 26 2021).
💬Ayesha, Croydon resident and British national, honestly and bravely discusses her experience of early pregnancy loss, while temporarily living in another country, The Gambia, West Africa, so she had to navigate a different health care system.
Ayesha talks about her mixed feelings due to the pregnancy being not planned, not feeling ready, relationship doubts and insecure finances. These are common and normal feelings, that women (and their partners) often feel too ashamed to talk about.
Ayesha, also explains how confusing the whole time was before she knew she had suffered a miscarriage. With multiple positive pregnancy tests plus ‘feeling’ pregnant but having negative scan results and unempathetic clinicians. Also, although Ayesha had episodes of bleeding, this alone is not a clear sign of miscarriage. Seeing multiple clinicians, leaving her feeling annoyed at having to repeat what she was going through.
👩⚕️Croydon Health Services, midwife and maternal mental health specialist, Georgina, reflects on listening to Ayesha’s experience and why hearing the experience of black women is so important in improving care in the NHS.
🗝Key reflections from Ayesha, experience:
Ayesha listened to her intuition, noticing how her body was feeling.
Any pregnancy loss can leave you feeling low and time needs to be taken to process emotions.
Having conversations with other women, enabling Ayesha to not feel so alone in her experience.
Being able to lean on the support of family and friends.
The importance of having caring and emotionally aware professionals.
Ayesha, continues to talk about her baby and has kept a reminder of her baby in the form of tattoos, acceptance doesn’t mean forgetting.
💖🌹Thank you Ayesha, for sharing your experience with us 💖🌹