Counselling with Lucy

05/07/2026

London Pride was yesterday. The celebrations, the colour, the visibility. And for many parents and loved ones, a complicated set of feelings sitting alongside all of that.
I have just published a new blog for anyone whose loved one has come out and who is still finding their way. It covers the thoughts you might not be proud of, the grief that doesn't get talked about, and something nobody really warns you about: the experience of coming out about your own child, again and again, in ordinary moments for the rest of your life.
If this resonates with someone you know, please share it. And if you would like a space to talk through what you are carrying, I offer a free 20-minute initial session. Link in comments.

(For the purpose of this article, I’ll use the term gay. I am using this term for simplicity and honest writing for the reader, and it is not meant to offend anybody who might be reading this.)Nobody tells you that when someone you love comes out, you might need your own space to process it. This ...

05/06/2026

We have more information about our bodies than ever before. Sleep scores, strain scores, heart rate variability. And yet many of us have lost the ability to simply answer the question: how do I feel? In my latest blog I explore what happens when we hand that authority over to a device or a podcast, why it matters, and what it might look like to start listening to yourself again. Have a read and let me know what you think.

Read the full blog at https://www.counsellingwithlucy.co.uk/post/we-ve-forgotten-how-to-listen-to-our-bodies

If you'd like to explore what's going on for you, I offer a free 20 minute initial session. Get in touch via counsellingwithlucy.co.uk

In outsourcing our body wisdom to wearables, podcasts, and wellness gurus, we may have silenced the most sophisticated health monitor ever made.It starts simply enough. You wake up feeling groggy, reach for your phone, and check your sleep score before you’ve even decided whether you feel rested. ...

24/04/2026

Be honest. When did you last sit with a difficult feeling instead of reaching for your phone, pouring a drink, or finding something urgent to do? Most of us are much better at avoiding emotions than we realise. New blog out this week on spotting the signs and what to actually do about it. Link below. And if you'd like posts like this straight to your inbox, you can sign up at counsellingwithlucy.co.uk

10/04/2026

Really pleased to share that I've now achieved BACP accreditation. It has been a long time coming. The process was challenging and reflective, but I'm proud to have pushed myself to reach this next milestone in my counselling journey.

13/03/2026

Mother's Day is almost here, and I have been thinking a lot about how different this Sunday feels for different people.

For some it is joyful and straightforward. For others it brings up grief, complicated feelings, a sense of not quite fitting into the version of the day the world puts on display. Loss of a mother. Loss of a child. Estrangement. Infertility. Or simply the feeling of not belonging to the neat, ribbon-tied story.

I have written a blog exploring all of it. Including something I feel strongly about: that mothering yourself through a hard situation is something worth celebrating too. 💛



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Every year, as March rolls around, the shop windows fill up. The cards, the flowers, the pastel gift sets with their neat little bows. The adverts show smiling women in dressing gowns being handed breakfast in bed, children with paint-smudged hands clutching wonky homemade cards. And for lots of peo...

13/01/2026

A new year can really highlight the ways we have been getting through. For some of us that might mean drinking more than we feel comfortable with, using food to cope or feeling increasingly distant from ourselves and the people around us.

In my new blog, I look at self-neglect and the idea that the opposite of neglect might actually be self-connection. It is about what connection can look like in everyday life and how small, kind choices towards ourselves can begin to shift long-standing patterns.

If this feels familiar for you, or for someone you care about, you are very welcome to have a read and share it. Comments are welcome. https://www.counsellingwithlucy.co.uk/post/when-self-neglect-speaks-louder-than-words

A new year can bring a strange mix of hope and pressure. There is often an expectation to reinvent yourself, to set bold intentions, to become a “better” version of who you are. Yet for many people, January arrives with something quieter and more complicated: exhaustion from getting through the ...

04/12/2025

Have you ever felt unsure if you’re “allowed” to grieve an ex-partner? You’re not alone. These losses can feel invisible, yet they can be deeply affecting – especially when children and shared history are involved.

In a new blog for National Grief Awareness Week, I explore mourning an ex-partner and the complex, often hidden grief that can follow. Your feelings matter, however mixed they are.

🌿 Read more here: https://www.counsellingwithlucy.co.uk/post/national-grief-awareness-week-mourning-an-ex-partner-the-grief-we-don-t-speak-about

During National Grief Awareness Week, with its focus on “Growing with Grief,” it’s important to recognise all the ways loss changes us, including the often unspoken grief after the death of an ex-partner. Whether this was your first love, the parent of your child, or someone from a past chapte...

01/12/2025

As National Grief Awareness Week begins, I wanted to talk about something many people carry quietly: the impact of sudden death. When someone dies without warning, there’s often no time to prepare, no chance to say goodbye, and a lot of shock, guilt and “what ifs”. In this new blog, I look at how sudden loss can feel in everyday life and share links to supportive services for those living with bereavement and su***de loss. If this is part of your story, you are not alone.

As National Grief Awareness Week begins, I want to bring up the difficult topic of sudden death. Those moments when life changes in an instant, with no warning and no chance to prepare. Sudden death can feel like the ground has opened beneath you, life one minute, gone the next and with no time to s...

27/11/2025

Being alone at Christmas can be full of mixed feelings – a bit of relief, a lot of pressure, and for some people, a heavy sense of embarrassment or shame. It’s hard to talk about, especially when the world seems to be shouting about family, fun and togetherness.

In this new blog, I look at what can sit under those feelings and how you might start to be more honest and kind with yourself if Christmas looks different for you this year. If this resonates, you’re very much not the only one.

https://www.counsellingwithlucy.co.uk/post/lonely-at-christmas-why-it-doesn-t-feel-like-it-is-a-wonderful-life

If you’ve ever watched the movie, It’s a Wonderful Life, you might remember the scene where George Bailey ends up alone on a bridge on Christmas Eve, convinced he has let everyone down and that the world would be better off without him. The film eventually shows him how connected he really is, b...

21/11/2025

Did you catch Jonathan Bailey with Elmo? Their simple message about taking a break really struck me. With Christmas rushing in, I wanted to share my new blog (from Counselling with Lucy) all about the value of doing nothing and resting - no guilt required! If you feel overwhelmed, come take a breath with me.

https://www.counsellingwithlucy.co.uk/post/finding-stillness-lessons-from-elmo-and-jonathan-bailey

As life gets hectic in the run-up to Christmas, it can be all too easy to forget the power of simply stepping back. Taking a moment, as seen in Jonathan Bailey’s touching “Sesame Street” exchange with Elmo, is a simple but profound act: pausing to breathe, reflect, and just be, no matter what....