Cherished Muslimah

Cherished Muslimah Helping Muslim women who lack love, respect and satisfaction in their lives and relationships to cre Well... not magically. It's not really magic.

Cherished and Successful is all about nourishing the soul through Love, Leadership, Wisdom and Justice. It is about realising that when you love, show gratitude, let go of controlling others and instead: grab your own life by the reins, things magically fall into place. It's Allah creating openings.

The Palestinian Poppy, envisioned by Sara Malik, intertwines the sacred act of remembrance with the stark realities of o...
13/11/2023

The Palestinian Poppy, envisioned by Sara Malik, intertwines the sacred act of remembrance with the stark realities of ongoing conflict.

The red petal traditionally honors the valor and sacrifices of British soldiers, a symbol deeply rooted in the history of remembrance. Yet, here it is also repurposed to acknowledge the ongoing struggle for freedom and justice in Palestine. The black petal, placed beside it, stands as a somber memorial for those who have perished, reflecting a grief that knows no borders. The green petal heralds hope and renewal, a testament to the resilient spirit of the Palestinian people.

A white petal is introduced in this artistic representation, a profound call for peace and ceasefire, echoing the universal longing for an end to conflict. The central black core unites these elements, representing the solidarity and collective strength that binds communities together in times of remembrance.

This poppy, set against a backdrop evocative of the arid lands of conflict, scattered with crimson specks, symbolizes the fragility of life amidst war's ravages. It serves as a powerful reminder on Armistice Day that while we honor the fallen soldiers of Britain's past, we must not forget those who are falling at this very moment in current wars.

The Palestinian Poppy stands as a beacon for British Muslims and all who remember the innocent lives lost in Palestine, insisting that the remembrance of suffering and the call for peace are as relevant now as they were in the wake of World War II. It is a call to remember, to reflect, and to reconcile the past with the pressing needs of the present.

12/11/2023

A blinding flash of white light
Lit up the sky over Gaza tonight
People running for cover
Not knowing whether they’re dead or alive

Israel is at war with Palestine.  Today it’s the night of Diwali.  I live in Hounslow and we have a massive, loving Sikh...
12/11/2023

Israel is at war with Palestine. Today it’s the night of Diwali. I live in Hounslow and we have a massive, loving Sikh community. All I can hear in bed are fireworks. And if I think about it, it sounds pretty much like a war zone. But our explosions are ones of joy and celebration. Not of death and murder.

Yesterday half a million (some same a million) protesters turned up in London to show their solidarity towards Palestine.

I don’t go to these events even though I live in London and my nearest tube station is on the Piccadilly line. They are too difficult to comprehend. To discuss. Too painful. Too anger inciting.

I am proud of my fellow women and men who, across all faiths and nationalities are showing to up and saying they care - and that Britain should support a ceasefire.

But I am also angry. Because when Ukraine was attacked I saw my fellow women and mentors speak up for Ukraine. They wept for Ukraine. They posted on Facebook about it. They asked us questions about it and our stance on it and how it was affecting us. Gosh. Their pain…. It made me weep. It roused guilt, pain and heartache in my wounded, wrung-out Muslim heart.

But now it’s Muslim women and babies, those same privileged women have said f**k all.

Oh Allah. Help the Muslims. Give us honour. Give us dignity. Help us especially when those who say they are for us blatantly don’t give a damn.

Help us Ya Allah. Help us not be the oppressed, weak, pitied ones. So that when our youth, the British Muslims, acknowledge how little those in power actually care about us, they don’t feel embarassed or ashamed to be Muslims.

And for this who haven’t said anything - shame on you.

Hello Friends!I have finally gotten around to updating my Instagram with my new property venture!  I have been AWOL as m...
14/01/2023

Hello Friends!

I have finally gotten around to updating my Instagram with my new property venture!

I have been AWOL as my and Jawad have been busy acquiring properties from Landlords and setting them as short-term lets - think Airbnb but across all the best sites - booking.com, VRBO, etc.

And finally after a mad pre-Christmas flurry, a CRAZY virus that got me and the kids down all holidays, me and Jawad have been SWAMPED getting a ground floor and first floor flat in Perivale ready - and ALHAMDULILLAH they are both ready.

Thanks to Amar for the awesome furniture, and Greg Puzio for the awesome Photography! .puzio

And thanks to the rest of the team, for all the cleaning and staging.

Photos to follow!

A New ChapterDear Friends, I have some big news to share, so do pull up with a coffee and cosy blanket on this sunny, fr...
28/11/2022

A New Chapter

Dear Friends,

I have some big news to share, so do pull up with a coffee and cosy blanket on this sunny, frosty November morn, as I have done. I've even added a sq**rt of cream and sprinkled on some chocolate, just for the occasion, so why don't you pause right here and go and get cosy before continuing?

And when you have done that, read what I have to say in my latest blog post:

https://www.cherishedmuslimah.com/blog/a-new-chapter

Happy November!Autumn is in full swing, with leaves amassing my front doorstep - is there any point in sweeping them up?...
01/11/2022

Happy November!

Autumn is in full swing, with leaves amassing my front doorstep - is there any point in sweeping them up?

As our trees let go of what is no longer serving them, making way for the new spring growth, let us use this month to focus within and look at what isn't serving us anymore, welcoming the habit of the month: Self Discipline.

Read the rest of this month's article here: (link in bio)

https://www.cherishedmuslimah.com/blog/november-superwoman

Enjoy the article!

DON’T BECOME A BOUNDARY JU**IEHere’s a list of the areas where we need boundaries, as explained in Chapter 12 of The Fou...
31/10/2022

DON’T BECOME A BOUNDARY JU**IE

Here’s a list of the areas where we need boundaries, as explained in Chapter 12 of The Four Traits
of a Cherished Muslimah:
1. House
2. Body
3. Marriage
4. Children
5. Family
6. Time
7. Religion
8. Identity
9. Finances

This part of the workbook is about respecting yourself through establishing healthy boundaries if you haven’t got them already.

A word of warning, though!

If you are in a situation where you are lacking boundaries in many of the above areas, you may need coaching or counselling to help you through this.

Also, try not to apply too many boundaries all at once; pace yourself or you may be in danger of becoming a boundary ju**ie.

Be careful that in your attempt to put fences around your garden, you don’t seal yourself into a high-walled prison!

It would be wise to differentiate between the big stuff and the small stuff and work on dealing with the big stuff first.

This excerpt has been taken from Page 135 of The Four Traits of a Cherished Muslimah Workbook.

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If you would like support in becoming a self-respecting Cherished Muslimah, then book a discovery call with me today!

Book a Discovery Call with me today if you feel that you are ready to start a new journey of transformation.

The session will last around 40-60 minutes, and by the end of it, you will be able to decide if working with me is something you would like to do, and I will tell you exactly what your options are so you can make an informed decision. ⁠

Book your free call here: https://cherishedandsuccessful.as.me/discovery-call

‘I COULD STILL STAND IT...’Robin Norwood in her book Women Who Love Too Much writes about a woman who suffered in silenc...
30/10/2022

‘I COULD STILL STAND IT...’

Robin Norwood in her book Women Who Love Too Much writes about a woman who suffered in silence whilst being married to an abusive man.

One day, while this woman was ironing her clothes with the television on, she heard a woman recounting how terribly she had been abused by her husband and then heard her say, ‘I didn’t think it was that bad because I could still stand it.’ Lisa shook her head slowly. ‘That’s what I was doing, staying in this terrible situation because I could still stand it. When I heard that woman, I said aloud, “But you deserve something more than the worst thing you can stand!” And suddenly I heard myself and I started crying really hard because I realised, so did I. I deserved more than the pain and the frustration and the expense and the chaos.’

Some women rationalise physical abuse, as they get told by other women in the family that it is normal to get slapped and punched by their husbands. My dear sister, you have the right to pursue your best interest, as well as anyone else. If you fear for your safety, then separate yourself from your environment. Get help from a professional counsellor, speak to your doctor, or call the National Domestic Violence Helpline. If all else fails, call the police. Put your safety first.

This excerpt has been taken from Page 262 of The Four Traits of a Cherished Muslimah.

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If you would like support in becoming a self-respecting Cherished Muslimah, then book a discovery call with me today!

Book a Discovery Call with me today if you feel that you are ready to start a new journey of transformation.

Book your free call here: https://cherishedandsuccessful.as.me/discovery-call

STAY WITHIN YOUR LIMITS WITH YOUR IN-LAWSIt is vital that women only do as much they are able with their in- laws and no...
29/10/2022

STAY WITHIN YOUR LIMITS WITH YOUR IN-LAWS

It is vital that women only do as much they are able with their in- laws and not feel obliged to do any more.

If your in-laws don’t like the way you do things or complain, it’s often because their own belief system is being challenged.

They may feel that a daughter-in-law should throw parties every weekend, or that she should entertain others even when she is poorly.

If you feel inclined to go beyond your limits in serving your in-laws, ask yourself if you would have the same high expectations from others; if you wouldn’t expect someone else to do it, then don’t do it yourself either.

- The Four Traits of a Cherished Muslimah

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If you would like support in becoming a self-respecting Cherished Muslimah, then book a discovery call with me today!

Book a Discovery Call with me today if you feel that you are ready to start a new journey of transformation.

The session will last around 40-60 minutes, and by the end of it, you will be able to decide if working with me is something you would like to do, and I will tell you exactly what your options are so you can make an informed decision. ⁠

Book your free call here: https://cherishedandsuccessful.as.me/discovery-call

TROUBLESOME NEIGHBOURS?Good fences make good neighboursNancy Wasserman Cocola – Six in the BedGood boundaries are like g...
27/10/2022

TROUBLESOME NEIGHBOURS?

Good fences make good neighbours
Nancy Wasserman Cocola – Six in the Bed

Good boundaries are like good fences in a garden – they keep intruders out and keep what is important to you protected. How good are your fences/boundaries – let me know in the comments!

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If you would like support in becoming a self-respecting Cherished Muslimah, then book a discovery call with me today!

Book a Discovery Call with me today if you feel that you are ready to start a new journey of transformation.

The session will last around 40-60 minutes, and by the end of it, you will be able to decide if working with me is something you would like to do, and I will tell you exactly what your options are so you can make an informed decision. ⁠

Book your free call here: https://cherishedandsuccessful.as.me/discovery-call

HE REFUSES TO DISCUSS THINGSMany women I have coached have reported that while they want to discuss important issues wit...
25/10/2022

HE REFUSES TO DISCUSS THINGS

Many women I have coached have reported that while they want to discuss important issues with husbands, their husbands refuse to talk, making excuses about being too busy or tired, not being in the mood to talk or even accusing their wives of always wanting to argue about things.

If your husband is doing this it is likely that he is trying to brush things under the rug in the hope the issues will go away or magically work themselves out. Unfortunately they rarely do and the problems often escalate.

In situations like these, I advise women to set a date and time with their husbands where they can talk about it. It may sound silly, but arranging a mutually convenient time, even if it is in a few days’ time, creates an opening to be able to discuss things and it gives both parties time to mentally and emotionally prepare themselves for the discussion.

When the day of the planned discussion arrives, a little reminder in the morning may be helpful. If for some reason the discussion doesn’t take place due to an unexpected visitor or illness, do acknowledge that it has not been possible and rearrange it. If your husband is stalling the discussion don’t add to matters by not following through; remember, if at first you don’t succeed, try, and try again.

This excerpt has been taken from Page 244 of The Four Traits of a Cherished Muslimah.

How does that sound? How do you feel about arranging an appointment so you and your spouse can talk – let me know in the comments!
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If you would like support in becoming a self-respecting Cherished Muslimah, then book a discovery call with me today!

Book a Discovery Call with me today if you feel that you are ready to start a new journey of transformation.

The session will last around 40-60 minutes, and by the end of it, you will be able to decide if working with me is something you would like to do, and I will tell you exactly what your options are so you can make an informed decision. ⁠

Book your free call here: https://cherishedandsuccessful.as.me/discovery-call

ENSURE YOUR NEEDS GET METWhen you look to others to fulfil your needs, you give them power over your own life. Surrender...
23/10/2022

ENSURE YOUR NEEDS GET MET

When you look to others to fulfil your needs, you give them power over your own life. Surrendering your individual sovereignty is not a wise thing to do and you should guard this God-given independence lovingly, consistently and firmly.

This excerpt has been taken from Page 241 of The Four Traits of a Cherished Muslimah.

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If you would like support in becoming a self-respecting Cherished Muslimah, then book a discovery call with me today!

Book a Discovery Call with me today if you feel that you are ready to start a new journey of transformation.

The session will last around 40-60 minutes, and by the end of it, you will be able to decide if working with me is something you would like to do, and I will tell you exactly what your options are so you can make an informed decision. ⁠

Book your free call here: https://cherishedandsuccessful.as.me/discovery-call

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