Cherry Tree Therapy Centre

16/06/2026

Have you ever looked back at an old photo and thought:

"Where did that version of me go?"

Many people lose touch with themselves so gradually that they barely notice it happening. Work, relationships, caring for others and life's demands slowly take over until one day they realise they no longer know what they want, need or enjoy.

Our latest blog explores what it means to lose yourself in a relationship and how to reconnect with who you are.

Understanding How We Become Disconnected From Ourselves in Relationships. It's a question many people ask quietly to themselves, often after months or years of putting everyone else's needs before their own.

12/06/2026

"Why can't I stop thinking about it?"

After discovering a partner's po*******hy use, affair or other s*xual secrets, many people find themselves constantly searching for answers.

They replay conversations. Check phones. Question memories. Struggle to sleep. Feel anxious, overwhelmed and unlike themselves.

Often, they wonder if they're going crazy.

They're not.

These reactions are far more common than many people realise and can be part of what is known as betrayal trauma.

Our latest article explores why discovering a partner's s*xual secrets can have such a profound impact and why so many people feel stuck in cycles of checking, overthinking and self-doubt.

When you first discovered your partner's po*******hy use, affair, secret online behaviour, dating app use or other s*xual secrets, you probably expected to feel hurt, angry or upset. What many people don't expect is how much they change.

19/05/2026

You may be the person everybody turns to.

The calm one.
The capable one.
The person who keeps things moving when things become difficult.

You might be the friend people call when they are struggling. The family member who organises everything. The colleague who quietly picks up the slack. The parent who keeps functioning no matter how exhausted you feel.

And because you are coping, people often assume you are okay.

Sometimes, you assume that too.

Many people who come to therapy are not “falling apart” in obvious ways. In fact, they are often the people holding everything together for everyone else. From the outside, their lives can appear stable, successful, and manageable.

But underneath that outward functionality, there can be emotional exhaustion that has been building quietly for a long time.

The Weight of Always Being The Strong One

When people become used to relying on you, it can become difficult to step out of that role.

https://www.cherrytreetherapycentre.co.uk/when-youre-the-one-everyone-relies-on/

14/04/2026

You might not be able to explain it.

Nothing’s really wrong…
but something doesn’t feel right either.

You feel a bit off.
A bit flat.
Not quite yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like this, you’re not alone, and you don’t need to have a clear reason before reaching out.

You might not be able to point to anything specific. Nothing has gone particularly wrong, and there hasn’t been a clear trigger. From the outside, things might even look fine. And yet, something doesn’t feel quite right.

07/04/2026

If you’ve ever tried to find a therapist, you’ll probably recognise this…

You open a directory.
Scroll through profiles.
Click a few.
Then close it again.

Not because you don’t want help
but because it suddenly feels like too much to figure out.

We’ve written a short piece about why this happens, and what actually helps when you’re not sure where to begin.

You decide you might need some support. You open a directory. And suddenly you’re looking at: hundreds of therapists different approaches different prices profiles that all sound… quite similar You scroll for a bit. You click a few. You tell yourself you’ll come back to it. And then you don’...

21/03/2026

Why can’t I switch off my mind?

You might be tired.
You might be getting through your day, doing what needs to be done.

And yet your mind doesn’t stop.

Replaying conversations.
Thinking ahead.
Questioning decisions.
Going over things again and again.

Even when things are relatively calm on the outside, your thoughts stay busy.

For many people, this isn’t panic or crisis.

It’s quieter than that.

A constant background noise of thinking.
A sense of always being “on”.
Finding it hard to fully relax, even when you have the time.

It can feel frustrating — especially if you’ve always been someone who copes well.

You might wonder:
“Why can’t I just switch off?”

If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.

We’ve written a blog exploring why this happens and what can help you feel a bit more space from your thoughts.

👉 Read more here:

You might be tired. You might be getting through your day, doing what needs to be done, keeping things going. And yet your mind doesn’t stop. It keeps replaying conversations. Thinking ahead. Questioning decisions. Running through possibilities.

15/02/2026

If Valentine’s Day felt heavier than you expected, you’re not alone.

For many partners navigating betrayal trauma, certain dates can act like emotional landmines. Anniversaries, Valentine’s Day, birthdays, even the date of disclosure itself can trigger intrusive thoughts, comparison, sadness or anger, sometimes when you thought you were coping better.

This doesn’t mean you’re going backwards.

The nervous system remembers what the mind is trying to move past.

We’ve written a new blog exploring why certain dates feel so activating after betrayal, and practical ways to manage those moments with steadiness rather than self-criticism.

If this week felt tender, it might resonate.

And if you’re looking for support, our online Partners Support Group and individual counselling services are here.

If you’re experiencing betrayal trauma, you may have noticed something unsettling. You can be coping reasonably well, functioning, thinking clearly, even feeling moments of steadiness, and then a particular date arrives. Valentine’s Day. An anniversary. The day you discovered the betrayal. A bir...

09/02/2026

Can therapy still help when money is tight?

We hear this question a lot, often quietly, sometimes with a sense of guilt or uncertainty attached to it.

Many people delay getting support not because they don’t need it, but because they’re worried about cost, commitment, or whether therapy is even realistic for them right now.

We’ve written a new blog that looks honestly at this, including how online therapy and lower-cost options can make support more accessible, without lowering standards or pressure to commit.

If money has been the thing holding you back, this might be a helpful place to start.

You don’t have to decide anything today. Sometimes just understanding your options is enough.

For many people, the decision to look for counselling doesn’t come easily. It often follows months, sometimes years, of managing on your own, telling yourself you should cope, or waiting for things to settle down.

08/02/2026

How nutrition can support brain health and reduce dementia risk. Kate Taylor explores evidence-based dietary and lifestyle approaches.

21/12/2025

If you’re the partner of someone struggling with s*x or p**n addiction and you feel constantly on edge, confused, or doubting yourself, it’s not because you’re failing at communication.

After betrayal and repeated dishonesty, boundaries aren’t about control or ultimatums.

They’re about protecting your emotional safety, dignity, and sense of reality while you work out what’s truly safe for you.

You’re not “too much” for needing them.

Read More: https://www.cherrytreetherapycentre.co.uk/setting-boundaries-after-s*xual-betrayal/