Lily Silverton

Lily Silverton Welcome! I'm self-development coach, speaker, writer and founder of The Priorities Method.

Lily Silverton is a self-development coach, speaker, writer and founder of The Priorities Method. Her commitment to helping individuals and organisations realign their priorities and transform their lives has made her a leading figure in the wellness world.

08/03/2026

Consistency is key.

05/03/2026

We tend to think about wellbeing in narrowly defined fragments. Did you exercise? Did you meditate? Did you get eight hours of sleep? Did you eat something green? And yes those things matter, but they’re only part of the picture.

Wellbeing is 360.

Physical stuff counts. However so does EVERYTHING else – emotional, relational and nervous-system deep.

Sometimes the yoga class will be what you need. But at others, the thing that’ll regulate you most is telling the same stories you’ve all heard a million times over a kitchen table, laughing ’til your cheeks hurt, feeling truly connected to the people you love – even if it means a 2am bedtime once in a while. (And even if, like me since I hit 40, when you go to bed after midnight you feel hungover the next day… even if you haven’t touched a drop of booze 🫠)

Connection changes your biology. Meaningful relationships help improve how we manage stress and anxiety. A sense of belonging, of feeling safe with and seen by your ‘people’, makes a difference to how you move through life.

So yeah, wellbeing doesn’t always look like early nights and perfect routines. Sometimes the “anti-wellbeing” option on paper is actually the most positive choice you could make for your health overall.

Listen to what you need in the moment, rather than force yourself to follow some idea of health. And remember that while habits are important and helpful, a life built around rigid habits isn’t necessarily a ‘well’ one.

That’d be the one built on awareness, presence, connection and choosing what supports you as a whole, 360 person ♥️

Send on to someone you want to stay up late with 🪩✌️

04/03/2026

I’ve spent the past 18 months bringing this book to life, getting to hold it in my hands for the first time feels pretty surreal.

Aside from the actual writing, there were so many small visual and textural details that mattered to me and my ex-editor brain – from the font to the exact colour hue to the feel of the cover and paper. The team have nailed every single one of my exacting (and probably quite annoying) requests and I am so happy and grateful for their patience and care.

I know you’re meant to say it was an exhausting drag to write a book, but honestly, I loved writing this. (The editing on the other hand, nearly broke me 🫠). I loved pouring everything I’ve learnt from so many brilliant, wise teachers and books and clients and experiences into one place. I loved putting into words the stuff that I know can change for the better how someone navigates the f**kery of the modern world.

While this book won’t solve all your problems (things will continue to be challenging and fast-moving, because that’s life), I believe it can truly make a difference to someone’s experience of living, and wish I’d had it to read when I was young and unsure and confused and lost and unhappy and always ‘busy’. (Am also glad I have it to read now, when I still sometimes feel all those things, and more!)

If you’re looking for a guide through the challenges, a system to support you through life’s inevitable ups and downs, a framework to help bolster you from the difficulties you face and something that’ll take you from knowing you need to change to actually making those changes… you’re in the right place.

Prioritise This won’t build you a ‘perfect’ life. But it will build you one that feels less overwhelming, more purposeful and focused, and ultimately, inimitably yours.

THREE WEEKS TO GO 🪩

Pre-order link in bio ✌️

love and huge thanks

Lil xx

03/03/2026

1. What currently drains my energy the most, and what restores it?

2. Where am I saying yes out of obligation/habit instead of alignment with my own priorities?

3. What does my nervous system actually need more of: rest, movement, connection, space, etc?

4. What am I tolerating that I do not have to?

5. If nothing changed this year, how would I feel about that?

6. ‘Productivity’ aside, what does a “good day” actually look like for me?

7. Where am I living by default instead of by choice?

8. What small boundary would make my life noticeably lighter?

9. What would it look like to take my goals seriously this year?

Don’t try to answer them all at once. See what jumps out, sit with it, take your time, maybe note a few thoughts down.

Moving out of autopilot has nothing to do with “fixing” yourself, rather it’s about reconnecting with who you actually are and what’s actually important to you.

Which Q resonated most with you?

13/02/2026

1. What you prioritise becomes your life.
People, thoughts, habits etc… Stop prioritising the stuff that doesn’t actually matter and/or is unhelpful to you.
2. Mornings make a big difference.
How you start your day shapes your day. Create a supportive routine (no matter how small) and you’ll feel the difference.
3. Wellbeing is 360.
Wellbeing doesn’t mean exercise class after exercise class. Sometimes the anti-wellbeing option (staying up late with friends) has the better impact on your health overall.
4. Busy doesn’t equal successful.
Just because you appear to be doing a lot, doesn’t mean you’re getting a lot done. Achievements are fine and good, but true success in life means much more than that.
5. Balance is seasonal. 
You can’t do everything well at the same time, all the time. Sometimes you may have to drop a ball. That’s okay, if it’s important just pick it up again soon.
6. Don’t wait to feel ‘ready’.
Ready is a state of mind not a point in time. Go for it. See what happens.
7. Be present more.
Life moves by quick. Plan as much as you like, but don’t forget that today is your life too.
8. If someone doesn’t prioritise you, they’re not worth your time and energy. 
All the one-sided friendships and relationships… ditch them now.
9. Be selective about who you listen to.
Only take advice and criticism from people you respect.
10. If something isn’t working, it’s okay to change it. 
Probably don’t ditch everything without trying to make it better first... But also, you’re allowed to evolve and change and want something different.

Which one hit home for you? 👀

29/01/2026

FYI, it’s not you.

You’re not doing anything wrong.

It’s because you’re trying to regulate yourself inside a life (and world) that is asking TOO much. Too many commitments, too many competing priorities, too much pressure to keep everything moving and spinning, all at once.

When your diary and days are as tightly packed as the central line at rush hour, your nervous system doesn’t need yet another bloody thing to manage – not even the latest “wellness” hack.

What it needs is LESS. Fewer ‘emergencies’ that aren’t actually urgent, fewer things competing for importance, fewer items on your never-ending To-do list.

More moments that signal safety to your system, rather than feeling the whole time like something (you!?) is on fire.

This is not to do with willpower or resilience.

It’s about recognising when the problem isn’t how you’re coping, but what you’re being asked to cope with. (I know!)

You don’t need to overhaul your life to create change. Maybe, the most supportive shift is deciding what you can say no to, what doesn’t need to be carried anymore, giving your days a little more room to just breathe.

Comment PRIORITIES for my free worksheet to help you make sure you’re prioritising yours ♥️

24/01/2026

1.Your inbox setting the agenda for your day.
If the first thing you do is look at your emails, other people’s needs/demands automatically take priority over your own, before you’ve even had a chance to have a cup of coffee.

2. Notifications fragmenting your attention.
Each interruption may seem tiny, but together they pull your focus away from anything that requires depth, presence or sustained thought.

3. Other people’s expectations filling your calendar.
Meetings, favours and commitments creep on in, until your week reflects what’s convenient for everyone else rather than what actually works for you.

4. Convenience being mistaken for what’s best.
Quick, easy options often win by default, even if they leave you feeling dissatisfied or distracted.

5. Busyness masquerading as important.
The things that make you feel busy can start to feel important simply because they’re loud or constant, not because they actually matter to you long term.

6. Comparison influencing your goals.
What you see others prioritising can subtly shape what you think you should care about, even if it doesn’t fit your life. See: much of social media.

7. The absence of clear decisions.
If you don’t make conscious choices, everything ends up competing at once - and unfortunately the loudest or seemingly urgent things tend to win.

None of this is on you… It’s just kinda how modern life works, by default.

To change this, you need to start seeing what’s being decided for you, and where and how you can take those choices back.

This is the driving force behind my book, Prioritise This - making sure people prioritise what’s actually important to them. Comment BOOK and I’ll send you a pre-order link ♥️

23/12/2025

‼️You can’t control what other people are going to do. Or think.‼️

It’s annoying, but true.

All you can control is how you respond to them, what you consider acceptable and what you know crosses that line.

That’s your boundary, and as someone who has had to use that boundary myself on a family member at christmas all I can say is I’m sorry if you need to use it, cause it’s not fun for anyone.

But it’s most likely vital for you ♥️

20/12/2025

Instead of losing the plot with your whole family this Christmas, try this ✌🏼

It’s a simple way to release tension from your neck, shoulders and upper back - the places that carry IT ALL.

By letting your head hang slightly off the edge of the bed, you’re allowing gravity to decompress your spine, increase blood flow to your brain and release fascia that tightens from staring at screens, holding stress all day or holding space for everyone else whilst holding none for yourself!

Here’s how to do it:

(But first, ‼️ If you suffer from low blood pressure, general dizziness or are pregnant, I don’t recommend this practice - if unsure always ask your GP first).

Lie on your bed and slowly scoot back until your head and neck are just off the edge. Unclench your jaw and breathe deeply. Stay like this or to make it spicier, let your arms fall back and open (if it’s too much, put them back!) Try just 20 seconds to start with. Once you’re used to it, you can build up to a few minutes as long as it still feels good. To come out, scoot your way back onto the bed, supporting your head if needed and stay lying flat before slowly making your way back up to seated (or just lie down and go to sleep!) The blood in your body will have rushed to your head, so if you feel dizzy go slow 🐌

Save to try whenever you need a break from the festive drama. See if it ends up becoming one of those weird tiny things that makes a big difference 🙏

18/12/2025

There’s a version of self-care that has become so normalised online that it’s really easy to feel guilty for not being able to keep up with it (esp at this time of year!)

The perfectly curated routines, the expensive treatments, the idea that rest has to be earned and then scheduled by squeezing it into an already overloaded week.

But, if your wellbeing practices require more time, money or emotional energy than they give back, they stop being restorative and become just another source of pressure. (And we all know you don’t need that…)

Real self-care is isn’t found through some complicated wellness routine.

It looks like protecting your sleep, feeding yourself properly, asking for help when you need it, looking after your mind, supporting others the best you can while also choosing the options that support you, rather than the ones that look impressive.

My book, Prioritise This, focuses this very topic - it’s an uplifting and deeply practical guide to navigating the challenges of modern life with greater clarity, compassion and purpose. It teaches methods that truly work, guiding you through essential shifts in focus, energy, and habits to serve your wellbeing rather than leading to burnout.

Comment BOOK and I’ll send you a pre-order link.

Sending festive strength, we’re nearly there!

13/12/2025

Most people feel a shift the moment they’re back in the family dynamics they grew up around…

No matter how regulated and/or brilliantly you might be doing in your adult life, you can still find yourself suddenly slipping into old roles, communication patterns or emotional responses (often very much unconsciously!)

This is because your nervous system remembers environments, and reacts accordingly.

So, if you notice yourself shrinking or becoming more anxious/reactive/meltdown-prone when you’re home for the holidays, it doesn’t mean you’re regressing or falling apart. It’s most likely a familiar (familial) pattern being activated.

Keep bringing yourself back to the person you are now, rather than the one you used to be. Give yourself some extra space when needed, as well as permission to duck out for a solo walk - perhaps even multiple times a day…

Comment STRESS to be sent my free worksheet that’ll help you navigate and reframe your thoughts in tricky situations such as these ♥️

09/12/2025

Advent calendars aren’t just about chocolate 🍫

They’re actually doing something quite specific to your brain, and this ‘thing’ can be applied anytime as a useful mindset tool to help lift mood/improve motivation.

Watch to find out why, skip to about 30 secs if you want to get to the point quicker 🙏

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