RJCounselling

07/09/2026

💭 Your feelings are valid — but they aren’t always facts.

This is something that can often get confused.

Your feelings are valid because they are your emotional experience. What you feel is real and deserves to be acknowledged. **However, the feeling itself doesn’t necessarily mean that the thought or belief behind it is true.**

For example:

💭 *“I feel like everyone is judging me.”*
➡️ The anxiety is valid, but it doesn’t prove that everyone is judging you.

💭 *“I feel like I’m not good enough.”*
➡️ The feeling of inadequacy is real, but it doesn’t make *“I’m not good enough”* a fact.

💭 *“I feel like they’re angry with me.”*
➡️ The fear is valid, but you may not actually know what the other person is feeling.

It’s important that we **validate the emotion without automatically validating the interpretation.**

We don't need to dismiss how we feel or tell ourselves *“I shouldn’t feel this way.”* Instead, we can acknowledge the emotion and gently explore the story our mind is attaching to it.

Try asking yourself:

This is what I’m feeling — but what evidence do I have for what I’m telling myself?

You can also ask:

✨ What am I feeling?
✨ What am I telling myself this feeling means?
✨ What evidence do I have that this thought is true?
✨ Could there be another explanation?
✨ Am I responding to what I know, or what I fear might be true?

The goal isn’t to invalidate your feelingsIt’s to recognise that feelings can give us information without always giving us the full picture.**

❤️ Your feelings are valid. Your thoughts are worth exploring. And you don’t have to believe every thought you have.

13/08/2026

🎓 Congratulations to everyone collecting their A-Level results today, and to those collecting their GCSE results next week! 🎓

No matter what your grades may be, remember that **they do not define you as a person**. ❤️

If you didn’t get the results you were hoping for, please remember that this is not the end of your journey. There is still hope, so many opportunities ahead, and a bright future waiting for you.

Sometimes, the best journeys are the ones we never expected to take. 🌱

Be proud of how far you’ve come, give yourself time to process your results, and remember that **one set of grades cannot determine your future or your worth**.

Whatever happens next, you’ve got this. 💛

20/07/2026

NEW CLIENT REVIEW ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

I came to Rebecca because I was having relationship issues and wanted to check whether I had any behaviour/personality issues that needed to be resolved - I suspected that I might have a dismissive avoidant attachment style due to a rather traumatic childhood.

Rebecca and I worked through my childhood history and Rebecca assured me that dismissive avoidant attachment was unlikely to be the main cause of my relationship issues. She did however notice several behaviours that led her to suggest that I might be autistic. I had always confessed to having traits that others would describe as autistic (collections, high aptitude for physical sciences and low aptitude for the humanities) but I had never really contemplated whether I might actually be autistic. We investigated this further and it was a huge revelation for me -- it explained so much about things I struggled with (small talk, facial recognition, corporate politics, severe fatigue due to social burnout). I've had a preliminary assessment with my gp and am now awaiting a formal autism assessment. Thank you Rebecca for helping me to identify this possibility. If my diagnosis is positive then I will definitely relax some of the expectations that I try to hold myself to and I'll also seek a diagnosis for my son. #

Overall I found Rebecca to be very knowledgeable on a wide array of psychological topics. My discussions with her enabled me to gain a better understanding in short comings in my own communication within the relationship and to also gain a better understanding of where to put down boundaries in the relationship. Also Rebecca is really nice as a person and I used to look fowards to and enjoy my weekly sessions.

I highly recommend Rebecca's counselling services.

14/07/2026

Sleep and ADHD CPD time

Did you know that many people who have ADHD struggle with sleep?

14/07/2026

06/07/2026

Such an amazing song

Lyric video for the song Priceless by For King and Country from the...

17/06/2026

💜 Domestic Abuse Awareness – Football Match Tonight 💜

Some UK research has shown that domestic abuse incidents can increase during major England football matches, with studies reporting rises of around 26% when England win or draw and up to 38% when England lose.

These figures do not mean football causes abuse — but they do show that tension, alcohol, and existing harmful behaviour can sometimes escalate during big matches.

⚠️ Important reminder: Football is never an excuse for abuse. Domestic abuse is always a choice and is never acceptable.

If you are affected or feel unsafe tonight:

🚨 Emergency: Call 999 if you are in immediate danger
📞 National Domestic Abuse Helpline (24/7): 0808 2000 247
💬 Men’s Advice Line: 0808 801 0327
💜 Women’s Aid: https://www.womensaid.org.uk

You are not alone, and support is available at any time.

💜 Please share to help raise awareness and support those who may need it tonight.

Women's Aid is a grassroots federation working together to provide life-saving services and build a future where domestic violence is not tolerated.

11/06/2026

A gentle question for reflection:

Am I carrying their feelings rather than acknowledging my own?

When we focus on managing the emotions of others, it can be easy to overlook our own needs, thoughts, and feelings.

Empathy is valuable, but so is recognising what belongs to you and what belongs to someone else.

What emotions have you been setting aside lately?

10/06/2026

All that glitters is not gold.

We often compare our lives to what we see on social media, in the workplace, or even amongst friends and family.

Yet what we see is rarely the full picture.

Behind the smiles and successes may be struggles, grief, anxiety, self-doubt, or exhaustion.

Be kind to yourself and others. Appearances can be deceiving. 💚

09/06/2026

A question for today:

"What would change if you spoke to yourself with the same compassion you offer to others?"

Take a moment to reflect on your answer.

Self-compassion isn't about being perfect—it's about being human.