Jo's Somatic Trauma Informed Life Coaching

09/08/2026

09/08/2026

*Trigger Warning*

We've been contacted by so many of you who are struggling right now.

We know it's so easy for us to say, "We're here for you" or "Take some time for yourself"... but we also know the reality is that we don't live with you. We don't see the behaviours, the worries or the fears you're experiencing every single day.

But we do know how you feel.

We know you cry silent tears through complete exhaustion, self-blame, shame and the unbelievable pain of feeling like you can't "fix" things.

We know you spend your days simply trying to get through the next hour without an incident or an argument.

We know you go to bed wondering what you could have done differently, replaying every moment in your mind, before lying awake thinking of new ways to try and prevent it from happening again tomorrow. That's assuming you even get to go to bed, and there aren't incidents during the night.

We know that right now, you're surviving, not living. You're trying to make it through each day in a place that should feel safe and free from fear.

Every morning, you prepare yourself for what the day might bring, trying to predict situations before they happen and divert them if you can.

We know that not every day is filled with abusive behaviours, hurtful language or frightening incidents. But even on the quieter days, there's often no time to recover because you're walking on eggshells, wondering what might happen next. Right now, it can feel as though there's always a next time.

We know this situation can impact every part of family life. Your relationship with your partner may be under strain. Siblings may be impacted too. The stress, anxiety and worry can ripple through the whole family.

We know the looks, the comments and the judgement you may experience from others, including people you love and professionals you've turned to for help.

We know you're at the end of your tether.

We know you're torn between wanting to protect your child, no matter what, and wondering whether you need to contact statutory services because you simply don't know what else to do.

We know how painful that thought is. We know how much you love your child, and how guilty you may feel for even considering it.

We know every incident can begin to feel more intense, more frequent, and that you're frightened about what might happen next.

We know this has never been a question of love.

We know you love your child.

We know you simply want someone to believe you, to listen without judgement, and to support you.

We know you long for things to go back to how they were. It isn't your child you want to lose... it's the abusive behaviours you want to stop.

We know you're doing the very best you can in a situation that can leave you feeling isolated, alone and powerless.

We know you may put on a smile. You may tell people you're okay. You may convince yourself that others have it worse.

We know all of this because one of us was you.

And we want you to know this...

Things will not always feel this overwhelming.

Things can change.

With the right support, you and your family can find a way forward that works for you.

Until then, please remember that we're here for you.

We may not have all the answers, but we'll walk alongside you and help you find them.

From all of us at PEGS, we're sending you our love and strength💜

09/08/2026

DBTskills: Module. Emotion Regulation.
Overview: Core Emotion Regulation Strategies.

09/08/2026

Economic abuse costs more than just money - it can cost you your freedom and independence, too.

Economic abuse is illegal, and a form of domestic abuse.

If you live or work in Norfolk, and are experiencing domestic abuse, speak to NIDAS on 0300 561 0555, or visit NIDASnorfolk.co.uk.

31/07/2026

#54321 Show & Tell for Adults of my reflections on life, work & everything else; along with Carrie Bower
Viran Wiltshire KPM Colette Morgan Penny Wilby Dr Nicola Sharp-Jeffs OBE, CF Sam Beckinsale Samantha Billingham
Cindy Gilmore

Success
A client reminded me why emotional safety is at the heart of healing. She was testing what she could tell me before I rejected/abandoned/judged her, because it was "too much." I was stopped in my tracks about what her nervous system had learnt that being fully seen had come at a cost. It wasn't that she had disclosed more, the success was that over time, she discovered she didn't need to test me. She experienced what it feels like to be listened, believed & accepted without judgement, question & conditions.

That is what creates safety. When safety is present, the nervous system no longer has to protect itself in the same way.

Hurdle
Managing to water plants using buckets etc. Yesterday we did have rain for about an hour, standing out in the rain & feeling it on your skin was amazing.

Mistake
Working from home as it's quieter to concentrate rather than being in the office. Our internet went off for a few hours on Monday – luckily in my role, I have access to my local Police Station and they did have internet access. Yesterday we had an Engineer turning up to change our gas & electricity meters and I was due to give a presentation; I managed to visit my mum’s whilst she was out to use her internet to complete the presentation without any hiccups!!

Lesson
Last Friday, we managed to get numerous things booked, cat booster injections, hubby an opticians appointment, made contact with GP’s about booking in hubby for PSA blood test, car booked in for MOT, hubby booked in for hygienist, car tax paid. The vets rang this week to apologise that they needed to change the appointment, GP’s need to speak/see to hubby before a blood test can be booked.

Action
Using the flip of a coin to choose where we spent Saturday afternoon. Neither of us could decide if it was to be a garden centre or a visit to the coast. What do you think won?

30/07/2026

The adult with a dysregulated nervous system is often the child who survived.

They survived by staying hypervigilant.
They survived by people pleasing.
They survived by shutting down.
They survived by expecting danger, even when there wasn't any.

Those survival responses were never a choice.

They were brilliant adaptations that helped a child get through what no child should have to.

But what protected you then may be exhausting you now.

If you find yourself reacting in ways you don't fully understand, it doesn't mean you're broken.

It may mean your nervous system is still trying to keep you safe from a world that no longer exists.

Healing is not about becoming someone different.

It is about helping your nervous system learn that today is different from yesterday.

You deserve more than survival.
You deserve to feel safe, connected, and fully alive.

💛 If you're ready to move beyond surviving and begin healing at the nervous system level, I'd be honoured to walk alongside you.

📧 [email protected]
🌐 https://jojacklin.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

29/07/2026

Trauma isn't just a memory.

It's the racing heart when your phone rings.

It's saying "sorry" when you've done nothing wrong.

It's scanning every room before you can relax.

It's feeling guilty for resting.

It's pushing people away while desperately wanting connection.

Trauma doesn't just live in your thoughts.

It lives in your nervous system.

The good news?

Your nervous system can learn that the danger has passed.

Healing isn't about forgetting what happened.

It's about helping your body discover what safety feels like again.

You don't have to stay stuck in survival mode.

If you're ready to reconnect with yourself, I'd love to walk alongside you.

📧 [email protected]

🌐 https://jojacklin.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

28/07/2026

A regulated nervous system doesn't mean you are calm all the time.

That's one of the biggest myths about healing.

A regulated nervous system doesn't stop you feeling anger, sadness, fear or overwhelm.

It gives you the capacity to experience those emotions without staying trapped in them.

You can be upset and still feel safe.

You can feel anxious and know you're not in danger.

You can have a difficult day without believing you've gone backwards.

If you've lived through trauma, your nervous system adapted to help you survive. Those responses were never a sign that something was wrong with you. They were signs that your body was doing its best to protect you.

Healing isn't about becoming calm all the time.

It's about building a nervous system that can recover, reconnect and return to safety, even after life knocks you off balance.

That's what true regulation looks like.

✨ You don't need to fight your nervous system. You need to help it experience enough safety that it no longer has to stay in survival mode.

If you're ready to understand your nervous system and create lasting change from the inside out, I'd love to walk alongside you.

📧 [email protected]
🌐 https://jojacklin.thementalwellbeingcompany.com/

27/07/2026

You are the author of your own story. Write it with courage.

Not every chapter has been kind.

Some were shaped by survival.
Some by heartbreak.
Some by fear, shame, or the expectations of others.

Those chapters are part of your story, but they do not have to define the rest of it.

Every boundary you set.
Every truth you speak.
Every time you choose yourself instead of abandoning yourself.

You're writing a new chapter.

One where your voice matters.
One where peace begins to replace survival.
One where you no longer shrink to make others comfortable.

You cannot rewrite the pages behind you.
But you can decide how the next chapter begins.

✨ Write it with courage.
✨ Write it with self compassion.
✨ Write it knowing that your story is still unfolding.

Your past may explain your story, but it does not have to determine your future.

💛 If you're ready to stop surviving and start living, I'd be honoured to walk alongside you as you write your next chapter.

📩 Message me to begin.