Brain Matters Counselling

20/08/2026

One of the areas I feel most passionate about as a therapist is working with people who have been given the labels of BPD/EUPD or other personality disorders.

Over the years, both through my work in mental health services and in private practice, I have seen how often people with these labels are misunderstood, judged, or dismissed. Sadly, many are made to feel as though they are "too much", "attention seeking", or beyond help.

The reality is often very different.

Behind the label is usually someone who has experienced significant emotional pain, trauma, invalidation, or adversity. Someone who has developed ways of coping that made sense at the time, even if those coping strategies are now causing difficulties.

People living with EUPD/BPD deserve compassion, understanding, and access to the right support. They deserve to be heard, not judged.

Some of the most resilient, insightful, and determined people I have worked with have carried these labels.

It's time we challenged the stigma and started seeing the person, not the diagnosis.
Feel free to read my latest blog https://www.brainmatterscounselling.com/blog/eupd-the-person-behind-the-label

There are a lot of assumptions made about people who have been given the label EUPD. “Manipulative.” “Attention seeking.” “Difficult.” “Drama.” “Too much.” “Unstable.” But what if we stopped for a moment and looked beyond the behaviour and asked a different question: What is ...

17/06/2026

🌿 Exciting News! Face-to-Face Sessions Now Available 🌿
I am pleased to announce that I now have a comfortable and welcoming therapy room situated within The Hair and Beauty Company at Ben's Yard, Ely, where I will be offering in-person counselling sessions on Mondays.
If you prefer the personal connection of meeting face-to-face, I now have a dedicated space designed to provide a calm, safe and confidential environment where you can feel supported and heard.
✨ Face-to-face sessions available on Mondays only
✨ Located within The Hair and Beauty Company, Ben's Yard, Ely
✨ Online and telephone sessions also available
✨ EMDR Psychotherapeutic Counselling
✨ Warm, non-judgemental and confidential support
Please take a look at the photos of the room below. Whether you are struggling with anxiety, trauma, emotional dysregulation, low mood, or feeling overwhelmed by life's challenges, support is available.
💚 Free 20-minute introductory chat available to see if we are the right fit.
📧 [email protected]
🌐 www.brainmatterscounselling.com
Taking the first step can feel difficult, but you don't have to do it alone.

13/06/2026

We all need a bit of peace and quite sometimes

09/06/2026

NEW DATES
Ever wanted to become an EMDR therapist?

Now is your opportunity to begin your EMDR journey through live, interactive training working with real clients in a supportive and practical learning environment.

Unlike many training programmes, you'll gain hands-on experience and have the opportunity to see EMDR in action while being fully supported throughout your learning. This is a chance to build your confidence, develop your skills, and deepen your understanding of the EMDR process in real-world practice.

As part of the training, you'll also receive:

✨ EMDR pulsators (worth £290)
✨ A bag of goodies
✨ Live training and demonstrations with real clients
✨ Ongoing support and learning opportunities

Whether you're looking to expand your therapeutic skills or take the next step in your professional development, this could be the perfect opportunity.

Interested? Click the link below to find out more and secure your place.
https://courses.thecounsellingacademy.com/courses/suffolk2

06/06/2026

Many people believe that EMDR is only used to help those experiencing PTSD or Complex PTSD, but that's actually a common misconception.

EMDR is a powerful therapeutic approach that can help with a wide range of difficulties, including anxiety, panic attacks, low self-esteem, phobias, grief, emotional dysregulation, stress, relationship difficulties, and the impact of adverse life experiences.

Often, our current struggles are connected to past experiences that have become "stuck" and continue to affect how we think, feel, and respond today. EMDR helps the brain process these experiences in a healthy way, reducing their emotional impact and allowing you to move forward.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, stuck, anxious, or simply not like yourself, EMDR may be able to help.

To find out more or arrange a free 20-minute consultation, contact Sharon at Brain Matters Counselling:

📧 [email protected]
🌐 www.brainmatterscounselling.com

01/06/2026

Very excited to be able to announce that I am now able to offer in person sessions as off 8th June (Monday's only). Thanks to the hair and beauty company for renting me a room. They are situated at Ben's yard, which is near Ely on route to Soham (A142).

30/04/2026

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15/04/2026

Ever wanted to undertake EMDR training, but felt put off by all the hoops you have to jump through?

At The Counselling Academy, we believe EMDR training should be accessible to therapists — because of the real, life-changing benefits it can offer clients.

Our live EMDR training in Suffolk is designed to give you hands-on experience, real client practice, and the confidence to start integrating EMDR into your work straight away — without unnecessary barriers.

If this feels like the right next step for you, take a look here:

Join our live EMDR training and gain hands-on experience in trauma therapy. Learn how to apply EMDR techniques effectively, enhance client healing, and earn your certification. Perfect for therapists seeking practical, expert-led EMDR training.

02/04/2026

Trauma doesn’t always look the way people expect it to.

It’s not just what happened — it’s how the mind and body learned to adapt in order to survive.

Sometimes trauma looks like anxiety, always being on edge or unable to relax.

Sometimes it looks like emotional numbness, feeling disconnected or “flat.”

It can show up as overthinking, people-pleasing, avoiding situations, or struggling to trust others.

For some, it’s being constantly busy to avoid feeling.

For others, it’s feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or unable to move forward.

What we often label as “difficult behaviour” or “self-sabotage” is, in many cases, protection.

These responses made sense at the time. They served a purpose.

But healing is about gently helping the mind and body realise that the danger has passed — and that new ways of coping are possible.

If this resonates, you’re not alone — and support is available.

At BrainMatters Counselling, we offer a safe, compassionate space to explore your experiences at your own pace.

26/02/2026

Psychotherapeutic counselling goes beyond simply talking about problems. It looks at how past experiences, emotions, and patterns may still be influencing your thoughts, relationships, and behaviours today.

It’s a supportive, confidential space to explore what’s really going on beneath the surface — helping you gain insight, develop healthier coping strategies, and create meaningful, lasting change.

There’s no “one size fits all” approach. Therapy is tailored to you, working at your pace, with the aim of helping you feel more grounded, empowered, and able to move forward in life.

Taking the first step can feel daunting — but it can also be the beginning of real change.