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Mind Your Mind

Rewiring how the mind responds.

Certified Hypnotherapist & RTT® Practitioner helping professionals and business owners with stress, confidence, mindset, habits and performance. Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) is a groundbreaking therapeutic approach designed to create rapid and lasting change in your life. Developed by renowned therapist Marisa Peer, RTT combines various therapeutic techniques such as hypnotherapy, cognitiv

e behavioural therapy (CBT), psychotherapy, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) to facilitate profound transformation in both the conscious and subconscious levels of your mind.

31/08/2026

People often ask me why I chose to specialise in RTT and hypnosis.

I find we’ve got more words than ever now for what we have going on.

Anxiety. Burnout. Imposter syndrome. Fear of rejection. Overthinking.

We know the terms used. We can recognise the patterns. We can often understand where they came from and know exactly what we would like to be doing differently.

I also find that understanding a response and changing it are two different things.

You can know you’re completely safe standing up to speak in front of a room and still feel nauseous, shaky and like your legs might buckle.

You can know you’re safe at home and still have a panic attack.

You can know you’re burnt out and still not know how to switch off.

Knowing can make things make sense. It can help you be less hard on yourself.

But it doesn’t necessarily change how your mind responds.

Those responses can be rewired though.

That’s why I chose to specialise in RTT and hypnosis.

Through this process I find out and work with what’s driving the response and rewire how the mind responds

I’ve seen what that can look like: panic attacks gone. Confidence replacing procrastination. Sleeping soundly through the night. Energy returning. Long-held habits no longer running someone’s life.

Not just understanding what’s holding you back.

Actually being free to get on with your life.

If you know what’s getting in the way but knowing hasn’t changed it, let’s talk.

26/08/2026

When business gets tough, everyone tells you to double down.

Do more marketing. Make more calls. Get creative. Dig deeper.

However digging deeper requires capacity.

When things are tough and you need to dig deep, you really can't afford to have valuable mental real estate taken up by anxiety, overthinking, poor sleep, fear of rejection, lack of confidence or any other pattern that's giving you absolutely no return.

That's where I step in.

I help professionals, business owners and leaders get to what's driving those patterns and rewire how their mind responds, so there's less resistance between knowing what needs to happen and actually doing it.

You can't control the market, but you can do something about how well equipped you are to respond to it.

When things are challenging, I'd argue that's more valuable than ever.

If something is taking up too much mental real estate for very little return, let's talk, my process works.

25/08/2026

I can talk about the value of this work, but I think my clients' results — and their own words — capture it best.

This is after just one month of working together.

Kate wanted to get rid of some of those thoughts that kept nagging away in the background, taking up space and adding absolutely no value.

A month later, she's feeling lighter and clearer. Decisions are easier. Ideas are coming more freely. There's more space in her head for what actually matters — and she's seeing the impact flow into her work and business too.

Getting what you want, with more ease — and seeing the impact extend far beyond what you originally came to change.

Thank you, Kate, for trusting me and for sharing your experience.

If you'd like to experience the kind of change Kate describes here, book a call and let's talk.

19/08/2026

I saw it again this morning.

The deep breath before standing up. The shaking hands. The slightly faster speech.

The discomfort of someone standing up to talk about their business while their body is doing everything it can to convince them not to.

I get it.

Because I used to be exactly the same.

I remember doing a business communication course and genuinely feeling like I'd rather have walked across a floor full of Lego than stand up and speak in front of the room.

I know I am not alone.

Public speaking is consistently ranked as one of our biggest fears.

From an evolutionary perspective, that makes perfect sense.

When we lived in tribes and depended heavily on one another to survive, rejection carried very real consequences.

Being excluded from the group wasn't uncomfortable.

It was dangerous.

Thousands of years later, our brains still respond in remarkably similar ways.

Only now, the danger isn't a tiger coming up behind us.

It's what other people think of us.

It's not doing a good enough job.

Or perhaps worst of all, it's our own judgment police.

Usually the toughest crowd in the room.

Because while everyone else is listening to what we're saying, we're busy measuring ourselves.

Editing ourselves.

Criticising ourselves.

Wondering whether we sound stupid.

And rarely noticing anything we actually did well.

The interesting thing is that public speaking is rarely just about 'public speaking'.

It's networking.

It's interviews.

It's leadership.

It's presentations.

It's sales.

In one way or another, every business eventually becomes a marketing business.

At some point, you have to stand up and explain what you do and why it matters.

The goal isn't simply to survive that moment.

The goal is to communicate what you have to offer so the people that need and want what you have can find you.

Today, I enjoy speaking.

Now I get to focus on improving my skill rather than managing fear.

I can focus on storytelling and my delivery and creating connection with the audience.

Because when your body stops trying to protect you, there's far less resistance between you and the things you want.

And when that happens, your world gets a whole lot bigger.

Then it's time to find the next mountain to climb.

17/08/2026

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change." - Wayne Dyer

I've always loved this quote.

It reminds me of the ever popular yellow car game.

Once you're looking for yellow cars, they're suddenly everywhere.

Of course, there aren't any more yellow cars on the road than there were five minutes earlier.

Your attention has simply changed.

People often talk about gratitude without really explaining why.

And if you're going through a tough time, being told to "just be grateful" can feel a bit hollow.

But I actually think gratitude can be one of the most powerful tools we have when life feels hard.

Not because it changes reality.

Not because it makes the difficult things disappear.

But because difficult things are loud.

The good things are often much quieter.

And while the difficult things may be very real, there are almost always good things there too.

We just don't always see them.

The more we focus on them, the more we tend to notice them. And the more we notice them, the more we experience them.

Maybe we laugh with our kids a little more.

Maybe we see more of what we love about our partner instead of only what's driving us up the wall.

Maybe we remember what we actually enjoy about our work and feel a little more fulfilled.

Sometimes there are things we can't do much about.

But the words we use and the pictures we create for ourselves are always within our control.

And that's a powerful tool for supporting ourselves through the waves, both good and not so good, that are guaranteed to come along.

"When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."

If that's something you'd like more of, I'd love to hear from you.

12/08/2026

We tend to think about our problems in silos. I don’t believe they work that way.

One of the things I build into my client programmes is tracking progress across a broad range of areas.

It’s incredibly useful because it’s easy to forget how we used to feel. I’ve had clients look back at their original scores even a month later and barely recognise the person who filled them in.

I’ve been going through a batch of those outcome measures recently, and it’s the breadth of change that interests me most.

Nearly 75% of the clients improved in energy and self-criticism.

Around 64% improved in anxiety, rumination, anger and moments of joy.

Ecology was my favourite part of studying biology back in the day — how everything within a system is connected and affects everything else, often in ways we can’t immediately see.

I think we’re a bit like that too.

Anxiety can be the hesitation that stops you making the call or asking for the sale.

A poor night’s sleep can change how you lead your team — and how they respond to you.

A lack of confidence can mean an opportunity you would have been perfect for goes to somebody else.

These things have real costs. Time. Productivity. Sales. Opportunities. Money.

But ecology works both ways.

There can be not just collateral damage, but collateral benefits too.

Work on one thing and other things can start getting easier.

It’s like my favourite sore back analogy. When you’ve got a sore back, it’s all you think about. When you don’t have a sore back, you don’t even have a back.

You just get on with what you want to do.

That’s why I think we can seriously underestimate the value of changing what’s going on underneath.

What’s it costing you to leave it as it is?

If the cost-value ratio on something isn’t stacking up anymore, reach out.

11/08/2026

Sleep is often lost long before bedtime.

Almost every client I work with, regardless of what they first come to see me for, tells me they're not sleeping well.

Broken sleep, not enough sleep, hard to get to sleep, and waking up like they've had no sleep.

And outside my practice, it's one of the most common struggles I hear people talk about too.

They've tried everything from magnesium, and meditation to new pillows, or cutting caffeine... and sometimes those things absolutely help.

But often, they aren't the solution to the underlying problem.

By the time someone gets into bed, their mind is still full.

It's replaying conversations, thinking about tomorrow, running through everything that still needs to be done.

Sometimes the issue isn't the night.

It's everything the mind has been carrying during the day.

The good news is that better sleep isn't just about getting more hours.

It's about having more gas in the tank, thinking more clearly, feeling calmer, being laser focused, and waking up looking forward to the day instead of already feeling behind.

When your mind responds differently during the day, there's often a lot less to carry into bed at night.

If this sounds familiar, I've written an article that might help you start looking beyond sleep itself.

https://mindyourmind.co.nz/insights/tired-but-wired-know-the-feeling

03/08/2026

Over the past couple of weeks, I've been talking about men.

Over the years, men have come to see me for everything from confidence, anxiety and depression to relationships, habits, business, and simply feeling stuck.

Every story has been different, and every challenge has been genuine.

What I've found is that beneath those challenges is often a man who feels there's more in him, knows he's capable of more, and wants to finally experience it.

That's why this work is so important to me.

Yes, helping someone sleep through the night again, get back on their feet in business, break a habit that's been holding them back, or find a relationship they thought wasn't possible is incredibly rewarding.

I also know why those things matter so much to the men in front of me.

They want to show up as the partner, father, leader and man they aspire to be. They want to pursue the quiet goals they've been putting off, step into the person they've quietly hoped to become, and have the confidence and energy to meet whatever life throws their way.

As they change, they show up differently.

At home, in business, in their relationships, and in the way they think about tomorrow.

So if you're a man reading this...

Or you're reading this thinking about a man in your life...

Let's talk.

When you're at your best, you can be your best, and everything and everyone around you feels the impact.

29/07/2026

"I thought I just needed more discipline."

That line from my client's testimonial has stayed with me.

I think it sums up something I see in many of the men I work with.

They're often incredible problem solvers.

It's one of the reasons they've built successful careers, businesses and families.

It can feel like strength to carry it all.

To believe you should be able to figure it out yourself.

I've also seen just how much strength it takes to say out loud the things you've been silently carrying.

It can be layered with guilt.

Shame.

The fear of letting people down.

The pressure of believing you should have it all sorted.

From where I sit, it's the complete opposite.

It's actually one of the bravest things I see people do.

Because once you shine a light on what's been sitting in the dark, it isn't dark anymore.

That's often where real change begins.

The men I've worked with have come to me for all sorts of reasons.

One wanted to stop avoiding invoices, charge what he was worth or confidently follow up unpaid invoices because it was holding both his confidence and his business back.

One hadn't been in a relationship for eight years and believed that part of his life was behind him.

Another wanted to let go of years of anger and guilt that had become exhausting to carry.

If you read Tuesday's testimonial, you'll remember how it ended:

"It's easily one of the best decisions I've made."

Different stories.

Different goals.

But every one of them had the courage to look beneath the surface.

That's exactly what we uncover when we work together.

See it. Shift it.

Together, we uncover what's driving the patterns you're experiencing today, upgrade the programming behind them and rewire how the mind responds to better reflect who you are today and where you want to head.

27/07/2026

This testimonial perfectly captures how many men see therapy… and what’s possible when they decide to give it a go.

He kindly gave me permission to share part of his experience.

Sceptical but Surprised

Being a middle-aged guy who was pretty sceptical about anything to do with therapy or emotions, I resisted going to see Michelle for quite a while.

I honestly thought if I just focused harder on the gym and discipline, things would eventually work themselves out.

After working with Michelle, I realised the real issue was the patterns driving my behaviour. Once we identified and addressed those, making healthier choices became much easier and felt natural rather than forced.

Four months later, I’m 10kg down and seeing steady improvements week by week, not just physically but mentally as well.

I’m genuinely grateful I gave it a go. It’s easily one of the best decisions I’ve made, and I’d encourage anyone who’s been putting it off to do the same.

One sentence really stood out to me.

“I realised the real issue was the patterns driving my behaviour.”

That’s exactly what we uncover when we work together.

First, we get really clear on where you want to go.

Then we uncover what’s driving the patterns you’re experiencing today.

See it. Shift it.

Once we understand the programming that’s driving those patterns, we can upgrade it and rewire how the mind responds to reflect who you are today and where you want to head.

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59 Pasadena Crescent
Upper Hutt
5018

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+64274757404

Website

http://www.mindyourmind.co.nz/

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