Roger K Allen

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Sharing strategies and skills to make better choices and live from a positive state of mind, from which you can achieve your greatest desires

Six Habits of a Healthy Marriage: How to Build Trust, Deep Connection, and Lasting Love.

11/02/2026

What Are You Bringing to the Conversation

Before a difficult conversation begins, notice the assumptions, expectations, and emotions you are bringing with you. Clarifying what concerns you and what you hope to understand can help you enter the conversation with greater openness.

10/31/2026

Decide Before the Difficult Moment

You do not have to wait until a difficult moment to decide how you want to respond. Preparing in advance helps your intentions guide your behavior when emotions begin to rise.

10/30/2026

Move from Opponents to Partners

Curiosity helps people move beyond competing solutions and discover the needs and concerns underneath them. When those deeper needs become visible, two opponents can begin working together as partners toward a solution they can both support.

10/28/2026

Not Every Question Is Curious

Some questions may sound curious while actually being designed to criticize, shame, or prove a point. Genuine curiosity asks questions with a willingness to learn and allows the other person’s answer to truly matter.

10/26/2026

Become Curious About Your Own Reaction

Curiosity is not only about understanding the other person; it also means examining your own fears, assumptions, and reactions. Self-curiosity builds awareness and gives you greater freedom to choose how you respond.

10/23/2026

Listen for the Concern Beneath the Words

Important concerns are not always expressed skillfully, and hurt or fear may come out as criticism or accusation. Listening for what matters beneath the words can help uncover the real concern and make honest dialogue more possible.

10/21/2026

What Might You Not Understand?

Our first interpretation of someone’s behavior may not reveal the whole story. Asking what you might be missing creates space for curiosity, better information, and a deeper understanding of what is really happening.

10/19/2026

Certainty Closes a Conversation

When we become certain about another person’s motives, we stop looking for information that might challenge our assumptions. Curiosity keeps the conversation open by reminding us that our perspective may be important but incomplete.

10/16/2026

Name Your Defensiveness Before It Takes Over

Simply saying, “I can feel myself getting defensive,” can create enough space to respond differently. Naming the reaction helps you stay present and keeps your first impulse from controlling the conversation.

10/14/2026

Good Intentions Do Not Erase Impact

Good intentions matter, but they do not erase the impact our actions may have on someone else. Emotional maturity allows us to acknowledge both what we meant and how the other person experienced it.

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