08/25/2026
💛 NEW ON THE BLOG: Understanding Your Couple Cycle
Have you ever started an argument about the dishes, money, a missed text, parenting, or something your partner said—and somehow ended up arguing about everything else?
You may not be fighting about the original issue anymore. You may be caught in your couple cycle.
Our newest blog explores what happens underneath recurring relationship conflict and how couples can begin moving from:
“You are the problem.”
to:
“We have a pattern.”
We explore common patterns like Chase & Retreat, Criticism & Defense, Pursue & Withdraw, Nobody Feels Heard, Fix-It & Shut-Down, Attack & Protect, and Escalation.
The blog also explores the Gottman Four Horsemen, the Imago perspective, emotional activation, protective responses, and why the behavior we see on the surface may be connected to a much deeper need underneath.
📖 Want to go deeper?
I created The Co-Regulated Couple: Find Your Couple Cycle, a digital workbook designed to help couples identify their communication patterns and understand what happens when conflict becomes activated.
✨ Inside the digital download is a couple-cycle quiz/self-assessment that helps you identify which communication pattern shows up most often in your relationship.
🌿 Read the blog. Explore your couple cycle. Start changing the pattern.
Myers Life Coaching & Counseling Services
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