06/01/2026
Woman explains why she had a midwife for the births of all 3 of her children despite being married to an OB-GYN
Carlie Roman has spoken openly about why she chose midwives for all three of her pregnancies, despite being married to an OB-GYN.
She explained that ethical and practical boundaries prevented her husband, William, from serving as her physician, so she was naturally drawn to the midwife model of care.
Roman found comfort in the combination of having supportive midwives alongside her husband’s calm presence, which made her feel safe and understood during each birth.
For her, the experience of childbirth was deeply vulnerable and life-changing, and being surrounded by people she trusted was invaluable.
Roman emphasized that midwives are highly educated and experienced, capable of working side by side with physicians when complex interventions are needed.
She described how her husband supported her during labor by creating a calm environment, encouraging her through contractions, and even catching their babies during delivery. One particularly memorable moment came during her third birth, when her daughter was discovered to be posterior.
While the midwives reassured her, William stepped in to perform a maneuver that allowed her to deliver quickly, highlighting the ideal balance of midwives and doctors working together.
Beyond the medical aspects, Roman connected deeply with the emotional support midwives provided. She appreciated how they respected her preferences, prioritized safety, and treated her as a whole person rather than pressuring her into specific choices.
The warmth and encouragement she felt in the delivery room left a lasting impact. Now, she encourages other women to trust their instincts when choosing providers, stressing the importance of feeling connected and confident in their care team.
For Roman, midwifery care offered both medical reassurance and emotional empowerment, making each birth a profoundly positive experience.