Cheryl Fidelman

07/24/2026

Staying in relationship with your Self in ALL of your relationships is the key to noticing your own Codependency & your own Narcissism. When you lose your relationship to your Self is when you become victim to other people’s realities and blame it on them. Since Codependency is regressive, when you serve someone else’s reality more than your own, you are operating from a younger version of your Self - your Traumatic Identity- what holds others as more powerful - which was true when you were a kid but is no longer the truth. You are smaller than no one.

07/23/2026

Tomorrow, Thursday, July 23 @ 1pm PST is our FREE & Monthly Conscious Codependence Class. If you’d like to come, please DM me your email address and I’ll send you the zoom link.

07/19/2026

07/10/2026

It’s not always easy to admit our narcissism especially when, for a lot of us codependents, narcissists have been our kryptonite. But being narcissistic is a common habit for most people - especially in our Codependent moments. When you project your interpretations onto another person and react as if your projections are true, you are in a Codependenct/Narcissistic dynamic with your Self. Another way of saying that is that you’re just being a human being at this stage of our collective evolution - cuz we all do it. That’s why Self Understanding is the most important thing to take on - that is if true intimacy is important to you.

07/04/2026

Codependency is the opposite of presence. presence is where you’ll find your relationship@to your Self and other as spiritual energy. Your Codependency begins with your relationship to your mind and your obedience to your thoughts. Most of your thoughts are manufactured by a younger version of you. When you release the hold your thoughts have on you then you can lean into the mystery of your Self, other and spirit.

07/02/2026

The righteousness of Codependency. When you don’t notice your projections and interpretations of another person they become your truth about them and telling the difference between your own feelings and projections becomes very difficult. Your righteous steals your ability to connect with curiosity and surrender to mystery. Mystery is where you’ll find your vulnerability, innocence & knowing of your Self as spirit. COMMENT or DM me FIREWORKS if you’re interested in my annual 40% off 4th of July discount on The Conscious Codependence Process private program.

07/01/2026

When all of your energy (emotional, cognitive & physical) is going outward towards another person, then you are not available to receive energy - from your Self, from Spirit or from another person. Codependency will tell you that other person is a taker, or they don’t notice your needs. But if you are in an over giving mode, then you are there for the talking. Your ability to receive may have been stunted when you were a kid, because of emotional, physical or sexual (or some combination) trauma. In my work, I heal your nervous system and bring back your birth right to receive true, safe & generous energy that you can surrender to & trust the holding of life it Self.

06/26/2026

When you’re spinning out in thought about another person, you are giving your Spiritual essence to another person instead of generating it within your emotions, sensations & intuition. Remaining embodied in your relationships (rather than ruminating, strategizing & blaming) keeps you connected to your truth, intuition and your spirituality. If you’d like your free Codependency Reading comment or DM me the word “READING” and I’ll send you my calendar link.

06/22/2026

The 3 Locations of Thought: Past Tripping, Future Tripping and About Someone Else. In this work we practice noticing vs believing thoughts. When you believe the thoughts that are in 1 or more of the 3 Locations, you are blocking your spiritual energy force. When you believe your thoughts you are then Codependent into your own mind & shut off from your body. When you simply notice your thoughts they will not drive you. You’ll be able to also notice your emotions & sensations and hear your intuition and connect with your spiritual energy.

06/20/2026

It’s your birthright to evolve. When we keep ourselves stuck in regressive patterns - like Codependency - we stint our own growth and we perpetuate the presence of younger versions of ourselves fighting to be seen in someone else’s eyes. But that is only a need of your younger Self (or your Traumatic Identity). It is a desire or preference of your current Self (or your True Nature). When we lean into our desires than our needs, we evolve at a much quicker pace.