The Other Side Therapy

The Other Side Therapy Therapist & Guide Helping Women Break Toxic Patterns, Reclaim Confidence,& Discover the Blueprint for Healthy, Lasting Love. Kerrie Jones, AMFT, APCC

08/30/2026

You keep calling him boring.

But “boring” might just be the catch-all word for a kind of love you don’t understand yet.

He’s consistent.
He communicates.
He considers you.
He does what he says he’s going to do.
He likes you without making you earn it.

And somehow… there’s no spark.

But what if the problem isn’t that there’s nothing there?

What if there’s nothing there that you recognize?

Because when love has historically come with anxiety, uncertainty, chasing, proving, waiting, overthinking, or trying to be chosen, calm can feel like a lack of chemistry.

Consistency can feel uneventful.
Availability can feel unexciting.
Peace can feel like something is missing.

So you dismiss the good guy quickly.

Not necessarily because there’s something wrong with him, but because the way he loves you requires something different from you:

The ability to receive love you didn’t have to work for.

You say you want someone to love you well.

But you won’t allow someone to love you much better than you’ve learned to love yourself.

And sometimes, we call that gap “boring.”

🎥 Why Healthy Relationships Feel Boring is on YouTube today at 6pm. Subscribe now. Link in bio

The wrong relationship doesn’t always feel wrong. Sometimes it’s all you’ve known, and that feels kinda right. 🤷🏽‍♀️You...
08/28/2026

The wrong relationship doesn’t always feel wrong. Sometimes it’s all you’ve known, and that feels kinda right. 🤷🏽‍♀️

You can know he’s inconsistent. Know you’re exhausted. Know you’re giving too much. Know this relationship is costing you more than it gives you.

And still struggle to leave.

All because something about the dynamic makes sense to the blueprint you already carry.

Maybe love has always required work.
Maybe being needed has always made you feel valuable.
Maybe anxiety has always sent you into action.
Maybe inconsistency feels more familiar than peace.

So the answer isn’t simply, “choose better.”

Choose better with what?

The same blueprint that helped you choose this?

The answer is The Restoration Group.

We look underneath the relationship at you. What you learned about love. What keeps you attached. What you tolerate. What you mistake for connection. And the patterns that keep making the wrong relationships make sense.

Because when the blueprint changes, your choices change with it.

The next Restoration Group begins October 8.

If you’re not ready for the group, start with the free Relationship Pattern Diagnostic both links are in the bio

Have you ever felt like you were dating a child? And somewhere along the way, the attraction quietly faded, and you coul...
08/27/2026

Have you ever felt like you were dating a child? And somewhere along the way, the attraction quietly faded, and you couldn’t quite explain why.

It didn’t start at the end. It started at the very beginning, when you saw what he could be instead of who he was.
You couldn’t dare date a user, a manipulator, or a bum. So you overlooked it and told yourself, “well, at least he told the truth, has a job, sees his kids”… fill in the blank. And if we’re being honest, that was the bare minimum. If it was even true.

Then you filled in the rest of the story with who he could become. You settled, and then you lied to yourself about it. And that never ends well.

Here’s the part you need to know, it wasn’t just a lapse in judgment. It’s a pattern. You want partnership but choosing a project. You spend the relationship trying to close the gap between the man in front of you and the man in your head. That’s not partnership. That’s parenting. And you already have enough work to do. You don’t need to raise someone else’s son.

You’re allowed to want someone who’s already whole. Someone you build a life with, instead of someone you have to build first.

If you keep ending up as the fixer, the one who saw the potential and stayed for it, it’s more than a flaw, I t’s a blueprint you can see and change. The free Relationship Pattern Diagnostic is a few private minutes to see your pattern so you can change it. Link in bio.

Let’s be clear, you’re never at fault for another person’s behaviors (they acted badly, they abused, lied, cheated, etc....
08/24/2026

Let’s be clear, you’re never at fault for another person’s behaviors (they acted badly, they abused, lied, cheated, etc.), at the same time, you are responsible for your choices.

You chose to overlook the confusion you felt. You chose to ignore the multiple boundaries they violated. You chose chaos over the peace you feel when they’re not around. You knew better, and you chose to be curious when you knew in your gut that this one would be like the last one; he wasn’t. He was worse.

Each time you ignore yourself, each time you shrink for the prize of love, the lessons get harder. The hole is dug deeper. You find yourself further and further away from the person you once were, and therein lies the problem. Not how they came along and wrecked your life. It’s that you chose them. Now you can’t trust yourself to choose again, and I don’t blame you.

The truth is you can’t trust yourself to choose in your current condition, but the healed you, she’s a solid bet every time. The problem isn’t him, them, or they, the problem is your blueprint. The template you carry that you build every relationship from. New you. New blueprint.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about finally having somewhere to put all that clarity. You can’t build new love from an old blueprint. There’s a diagnostic in my bio that reads your blueprint and shows you where you actually are, what’s strong, what’s weak, and where the rebuild starts. Link in bio.

The 3 reasons you keep ending up with them: 1. You want to fix them instead of accepting who they are and walking away. ...
08/21/2026

The 3 reasons you keep ending up with them:

1. You want to fix them instead of accepting who they are and walking away.
2. You’re locked in a faulty blueprint that says you build love with unloving people.
3. (The hardest truth) Deep down, you don’t like yourself enough. Because anyone who truly loved themselves wouldn’t tolerate another person who doesn’t for very long.

You don’t need another man to prove you can pick better. You need a new blueprint. Comment BLUEPRINT and I’ll send you where to start.

Yes, you’ve struggled in relationships. You’ve tried to change things, and because you’ve found yourself stuck in this ...
08/18/2026

Yes, you’ve struggled in relationships. You’ve tried to change things, and because you’ve found yourself stuck in this same pattern, you’ve decided that this pattern is your.

The struggle, the walking on eggshells, carrying the burden to keep it all together: somewhere along the way it stopped feeling like something going wrong and started feeling like just how love goes for you. Your lot.

The thing you’re used to carrying.

But struggle isn’t your destiny. It’s what you’ve known. And what you’ve known is what created and maintains the blueprint that’s picking the same thing for you before you’ve had the chance to choose differently. That’s why it keeps repeating. Not because something is wrong with you, but because you can’t yet see the thing that’s steering.

You already feel it. Restoration helps you finally see it and change it. It’s a 7-week program that brings the pattern into the light, so it stops running your life and you stop doing relationships on autopilot. Once you can see it, you can choose something else: catch what’s unhealthy early, walk away, and build love that actually feels safe.

The next cohort begins October 8.

And yes, this is hard. But you’ve already known hard. You’ve been doing the chaotic, heavier kind for years. Restoration breaks the cycle.

If 7 weeks feels like a lot, start smaller. The free Relationship Pattern Diagnostic takes a few private minutes and shows you what your pattern is and where it began.

Everything’s in the link in my bio.

05/21/2026

The first three dates aren’t romance.
They’re data.

Healthy people show you who they are.
Manipulative people study who you are.

If he’s mirroring you back to yourself faster than feels natural…
if every value you mention magically aligns with his…
slow down.

Alignment doesn’t happen that fast.
Performance does.

🎥 Full episode → The Other Side on YouTube

05/19/2026

You say it out loud, but it doesn’t feel good:
“I like him a little toxic.”

If this is you, healthy doesn’t feel like love yet.
It feels like boredom.
It feels like nothing’s wrong, which feels like nothing at all.

Girl, the fire you’re chasing isn’t passion.
It’s familiarity.

🎥 Full episode → Why Do I Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men on The Other Side (YouTube)

05/18/2026

Stop blaming what shows up.
Start examining what you let stay.

Flies will land on every meal left open. That doesn’t mean you eat with them.

The question was never why does he keep finding me.
It was why do I keep pulling out a chair for him.

🎥 Full episode → Why Do I Keep Attracting Emotionally Unavailable Men on The Other Side (YouTube)

05/09/2026

Your relationships aren’t random. They’re tracing a stencil you didn’t know you were holding.

You’ve likely used a stencil. You draw inside the lines. When you lift it, the same shape is left behind every time. Same stencil. Same image.

That’s what’s been happening in every relationship you’ve had.

The faces change. The men change. The circumstances change. But the shape (what you tolerate, what you give, what you wait for, what you settle for) stays the same.

The most difficult part is when a healthy man does show up, you won’t let him in. He doesn’t fit the stencil. He doesn’t activate the parts of you that have been guiding your relationships your whole life.

You don’t have a man problem. You have a stencil. And it’s time to put it down.

If you want to trade in your stencil start with the Relationship Pattern Diagnostic. Link in bio.

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