Julia Greco, LCSW

08/07/2024

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07/12/2023

Some of our emotional distress can be exacerbated by the internal chasm between what we currently have the capacity for and the ways we believe we are “supposed” to show up. Just existing sometimes is good enough 💙



Posted • It’s okay to just float sometimes. 🩵

04/19/2023

For those of you who engage in ethical non monogamy (ENM), what is your system for re-learning?

Here are some ideas:

✨ talking to friends/partners/metamours
✨ listening to ENM podcasts
✨ participating in ENM discussions or support groups
✨ reading/listening to books on ENM
✨ following the content of ENM educators on social media

We all have different access to and privilege around how we can confront mononormative messages and teachings, and ultimately your support matrix has to work for you, your bandwidth, your access to resources and your learning style. So often when we begin to confront societal frameworks that have given us a “road map,” we may feel scared, anxious and uncertain at the unlearning process. Having an established mental health support space for when/if this happens can also be immensely helpful.

If we fail to maintain awareness on relearning and challenging automatic behavior, we do run the risk of increased internal conflict, misaligned expectations within partnership and a repackaging of mononormative principles labeled as ENM.

So, get out there and un-learn!

03/06/2023

Using the terms “clean” and “dirty” when discussing STI/STD results reinforces stigma and implies inherent goodness or badness surrounding STI’s/STD’s. Let’s not do this thing! Being exposed to, carrying or contracting an STI/STD is incredibly common:

💜 67% of people of reproductive age have HSV 1

💜 13% of people of reproductive age have HSV 2

(source: https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/products/databriefs/db304.htm)

💜 75% of people of reproductive age have been exposed to HPV and there is *no* approved test for HPV for people with pen*ses

(source: https://www.prb.org/resources/human-papillomavirus-a-hidden-epidemic-in-the-united-states/)

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Posted • .slut ✨seriously! pls yall let’s stop referring to ourselves as either “clean” or “dirty” when talking about our STI status

✨it’s very stigmatizing and is super harmful for those of us w a positive status!

✨like yes I have herpes but I am v clean 💁🏻‍♀️

✨unfortunately I’ve seen this all over dating apps (especially apps like which is really frustrating bc that app is ~supposedly~ more seggs positive)✨I usually see “clean” or “must be clean” or something like that usually written right in a profile (so you know I always have to educate these silly geese when I see it lol)

✨the irony here—majority of the time the people who have that on their profile are the ones who don’t get tested bc they think they’re “clean” since they don’t have any symptoms (that they know of), are the type to not use protection, and are just uneducated in how STIs and testing work (like that they most likely don’t know their herpes status since it’s not usually tested for)

✨I made a tiktok about an interaction I recently had which you can head to my story to view✨ this person unmatched so fast after i explained why they shouldn’t say “clean” or “no diseases” lmao

✨let’s use more seggs positive language and avoid stigmatizing words! semantics are key!

02/28/2023

For those of us who overfunction (i.e. take on more tasks, duties and responsibilities than are “necessary”), these efforts often help us feel more validated and secure and can decrease anxiety (in the moment). The problem is, there is *always* more to do. For some of us, much much more.

Overfunctioning people may struggle to rest and may feel the need to “earn” rest. Capitalism and a culture based on productivity feed right into this.

Beginning to work on dismantling this behavioral pattern can feel like a vice being ripped away, feeling left with the vulnerable emotion that this overfunctioning often strives to stifle.

Instead of focusing on “stopping” overfunctioning, or depriving yourself that to-do list, focus on being present with one activity or action at a time. That way, you can practice being more attuned and mindful of your current bandwidth and emotional disposition, instead of stuffing those experiences with a preoccupation with what is next on the list.

02/11/2023

I loved Alex Newell in Glee!

Celebrating Black trans people in theater ✨

Posted • Life is so heavy right now, but theater, especially Black theater, helps us live. So this , I wanted to shout out just some of the Black trans voices who are transforming the theater experience for all theatergoers. Each and everyone, and those in theaters larger and small across the country, is helping to open the doors of the arts for everyone. Let’s show them love and tag other Black trans people in this post who you want to lift up.

Additionally, I’d like to highlight a few more Black trans trailblazers in theater:


Cece Suazo

Garnet Williams
Davia Spain

Support these artists this month and every month! ❤️🎭

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11/19/2022

For those of us that engage in people pleasing behavior, we may avoid conflict at all costs, and as a result, have a hyperfixation on conflict.

So often this comes from a place of conflict historically being unsafe, and we have to relearn that “feeling” in conflict in the context of a safe, respectful dynamic may actually just be the unfamiliarity of centering our needs.

Decrease your hypervigilance around conflict by focusing on identifying and articulating your needs, instead. Having this effort be reinforced by kind responses can help strengthen this mechanism.

11/19/2022

Happy Trans Week of Visibility! 🏳️‍⚧️

Posted • Let’s kick off Trans Awareness Week with some terminology. How can we have respectful conversations about trans people if we don’t even know the most respectful language? It’s very difficult. Swipe through these to learn a bit about basic trans terminology.

NOTE: Trans people are not a monolith! These suggestions are drawn from the thousands of conversations I’ve had with thousands of trans people but they still cannot possibly represent all of us! If a trans person offers you different language, use that!

If you’re looking for more trans education, check out , and online learning series I created to bring gender literacy to anyone, anywhere. It’s accessible for individuals, schools, and companies, providing training on over 40 trans topics such as transitioning, coming out, trans people in sports, trans healthcare, and so many more. Visit LaneChanger.com to learn more!