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The Center Method uses an integration of therapeutic modalities (including psychodynamic therapy, mindfulness, ACT, CBT, attachment theory, family systems, & EMDR) to address relationship problems, stress/burnout, anxiety, depression, and trauma.

06/16/2026

Most late-diagnosed autistic women don’t have just autism. They often have ADHD and trauma histories too, and understanding how these intersect changes everything.
I’m Nicole Moore, I specialize in neurodiverse couples and adults on the spectrum, and here’s why this matters.
You might recognize yourself in autism content, but your experience feels bigger and more complicated. That’s because you’re likely navigating multiple neurological differences and a trauma history simultaneously.
First - autism and ADHD frequently co-occur. AuADHD is common, not rare. You might have been diagnosed with one and missed the other because they can mask each other.
Second - autistic and ADHD brains often attract traumatic experiences. Difficulty reading social dynamics, executive function challenges, and sensory overwhelm can create vulnerability to trauma.
Third - trauma responses and neurodivergent traits can overlap in presentation. Executive function collapse, emotional dysregulation, and social withdrawal appear in all three, which is why accurate assessment requires untangling them.
Fourth - masking trauma and masking neurodivergence use similar nervous system strategies. You might not know which exhaustion comes from hiding your authentic self versus protecting from past harm.
Fifth - healing looks different when you address all three. Trauma therapy alone won’t work if you’re also autistic or ADHD. You need approaches that honor your neurology while processing your history.
💬 Do you recognize this complexity in yourself? Comment ‘coexist’ if this resonates.

06/10/2026

Girls and women have historically been missed in autism diagnosis, and it’s not because girls and women don’t have autism.
I’m Nicole Moore, I specialize in neurodiverse couples and adults on the spectrum, and here are five reasons this happens.
You’ve spent years feeling different, seeking answers through therapy for anxiety, depression, or relationship struggles. But the real answer might be that your brain is beautifully wired differently, and no one recognized it.
First - girls master social camouflaging early. We learn to mirror, mask, and mimic social behaviors so well that our autism becomes invisible, even to ourselves.
Second - our special interests often look “normal.” Horses, books, celebrities, psychology - these intense passions get dismissed as typical girl interests rather than recognized as autistic hyperfocus.
Third - we internalize our struggles. While boys might externalize through behavior, girls often develop eating disorders, self-harm, or perfectionism as coping mechanisms.
Fourth - research bias created diagnostic criteria based on how autism presents in boys. Many assessment tools still miss the female presentation entirely.
Fifth - we’re often misdiagnosed with anxiety, depression, borderline personality disorder, or bipolar disorder instead. Our masking exhaustion and meltdowns get pathologized rather than understood.

05/21/2026

There’s a way to bring up almost anything in your
relationship without it landing as criticism.

It’s called a soft startup.

Dr. John Gottman’s research found that the first three
minutes of a difficult conversation predict how the whole
thing will end. If you start harsh, it’s over before
it begins.

A harsh startup sounds like:
“You always...”
“You never...”
“You’re so...”

A soft startup has three parts:
1. Name the specific situation
2. State how you felt
3. Make a clear request

Here’s an example.

Harsh: “You’re so selfish, you never think about me.”

Soft: “When you booked the trip without checking with
me, I felt unimportant. Can we decide travel together
going forward?”

Same content. Completely different impact.

The first attacks character.
The second names a behavior and asks for something
specific.

The soft startup isn’t about being nice. It’s about
giving the conversation a chance to actually go
somewhere. Harsh startups create defensiveness, and
defensiveness ends conversations. Soft startups create
curiosity, and curiosity continues them.

Try the structure this week. Notice what shifts. 🤎


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05/19/2026

Almost every person I’ve worked with going through a breakup has said some version of the same sentence:

“I knew something was off long before I let myself know.”

She’s not psychic. She’s reading her own body.

Interoception is the brain’s perception of internal
body signals. Sometimes those signals are real
information your conscious mind hasn’t named yet. Sometimes they’re responding to growth or stretch that feels similar to a warning but isn’t one.

The tightness in your chest when their name came up months before the end. The sleep that fell apart before anything was wrong on paper. The strange fatigue that didn’t match your life.

Sometimes these were your body picking up on patterns pyou hadn’t named yet. Sometimes they weren’t.

The work after a breakup isn’t to blame yourself for missing the signals. It’s to learn what your signals actually feel like, so next time you don’t override them as long.

Your body isn’t always right.
But I it’s worth listening to, and worth checking
against the harder question:

Is this telling me to leave, or telling me to grow?

If you’ve just left, or you’re trying to leave, save
this. Start listening earlier next time. 🤎

05/18/2026

Almost every person I’ve worked with going through a breakup has said some version of the same sentence: “I knew something was off, my body told me, and I overrode it.” You’re not psychic. You’re interoceptive. Interoception is the brain’s perception of internal body signals. It’s how your body processes truth faster than your conscious mind allows. The tightness in your chest when their name came up. The sleep disruption that started before anything was wrong on paper. The strange fatigue that didn’tmatch your life. These aren’t random. They’re your body picking up on patterns your conscious mind hasn’t named yet.We override the signals because believing them would require action we’re not ready to take. So we explain them away. Stress at work. Bad week. Hormones. Anything but the real thing. Your body isn’t betraying you when you get sick,sleepless, or anxious in a relationship that looks fine on paper. It’s telling you what you already know. The work is to listen earlier, not to override it longer.

05/05/2026

You’ve heard that the key to a lasting relationship
is learning how to argue well.

There’s a piece most people miss.

The repair.

Dr. John Gottman studied over 3,000 couples at his lab
at the University of Washington for more than four
decades. The single skill he found that separates
couples who stay together from couples who don’t isn’t
how they fight. It’s how they repair.

He calls it a repair attempt. Any word, gesture, or
action that interrupts the escalation of a fight.

A hand on the arm.
“Can we slow down?”
“I didn’t mean it that way.”
Even humor, when it’s not weaponized.

And here’s what surprised me. Repair attempts work
better when they’re early, not perfect. A clumsy “wait,
I’m sorry, that came out wrong” said in the first
minute of a fight is more powerful than a polished
apology after an hour of damage.

Repair early, repair often.

The work isn’t to argue better. The work is to notice
when one of you is reaching for repair, and to receive
it instead of pushing past it.

This week, watch for repair attempts in your own
relationship. Yours and theirs. 🤎


Many couples miss this key component to building a lasting relationship.
05/05/2026

Many couples miss this key component to building a lasting relationship.

05/04/2026

There are four specific behaviors that predict divorce with over 90 percent accuracy.

This research comes from Dr. John Gottman, who studied over 3,000 couples at his lab at the University of Washington for more than four decades. He calls these patterns the Four Horsemen.

1. Criticism
Different from a complaint. A complaint is about a
behavior. Criticism is an attack on character.
“You forgot to call” is a complaint.
“You’re so selfish” is criticism.

2. Contempt
Eye-rolling, sarcasm, mockery, name-calling. Gottman’s research found this is the single strongest predictor of divorce. Contempt communicates disgust, and no relationship survives that.

3. Defensiveness
Playing the victim. Counter-attacking. Refusing to take any responsibility. Defensiveness says “the problem isn’t me, it’s you,” and shuts the conversation down.

4. Stonewalling
Shutting down, going silent, withdrawing from the
conversation. Often a response to feeling flooded, but to the other partner it lands as abandonment.

Which one shows up most in your relationship?

The next video will have the antidote. 🤎

There are four specific behaviors that predict divorcewith over 90 percent accuracy. This research comes from Dr. John G...
05/04/2026

There are four specific behaviors that predict divorce
with over 90 percent accuracy.
 
This research comes from Dr. John Gottman, who studied
over 3,000 couples at his lab at the University of
Washington for more than four decades. He calls these
patterns the Four Horsemen.
 
I had to learn to spot them in my own life before
I could teach them.
 
1. Criticism
Different from a complaint. A complaint is about a
behavior. Criticism is an attack on character.
“You forgot to call” is a complaint.
“You’re so selfish” is criticism.
 
2. Contempt
Eye-rolling, sarcasm, mockery, name-calling. Gottman’s
research found this is the single strongest predictor
of divorce. Contempt communicates disgust, and no
relationship survives that.
 
3. Defensiveness
Playing the victim. Counter-attacking. Refusing to take
any responsibility. Defensiveness says “the problem
isn’t me, it’s you,” and shuts the conversation down.
 
4. Stonewalling
Shutting down, going silent, withdrawing from the
conversation. Often a response to feeling flooded, but
to the other partner it lands as abandonment.
 
Which one shows up most in your relationship?
 
The next video will have the antidote. 🤎

There are four specific behaviors that predict divorcewith over 90 percent accuracy. This research comes from Dr. John G...
05/04/2026

There are four specific behaviors that predict divorce
with over 90 percent accuracy.
 
This research comes from Dr. John Gottman, who studied
over 3,000 couples at his lab at the University of
Washington for more than four decades. He calls these
patterns the Four Horsemen.
 
I had to learn to spot them in my own life before
I could teach them.
 
1. Criticism
Different from a complaint. A complaint is about a
behavior. Criticism is an attack on character.
“You forgot to call” is a complaint.
“You’re so selfish” is criticism.
 
2. Contempt
Eye-rolling, sarcasm, mockery, name-calling. Gottman’s
research found this is the single strongest predictor
of divorce. Contempt communicates disgust, and no
relationship survives that.
 
3. Defensiveness
Playing the victim. Counter-attacking. Refusing to take
any responsibility. Defensiveness says “the problem
isn’t me, it’s you,” and shuts the conversation down.
 
4. Stonewalling
Shutting down, going silent, withdrawing from the
conversation. Often a response to feeling flooded, but
to the other partner it lands as abandonment.
 
Which one shows up most in your relationship?
 
Next video is the antidote. 🤎

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