WhysCounselor

11/13/2025

I believe every woman’s love language is not having to ask. This is an ideal that shows up in my therapy office. It’s based upon women wanting their partners to see them. It’s what I like to call the Sixth Love Language.
While the Five Love Languages is a great tool for understanding how we communicate and receive love, let’s be real a partner that not only gets your emotional needs, but also tackles to to do list. I called this low friction partnership and it’s heavily correlated with sanity.

Let’s be clear: while we all hold a silent, slightly unhealthy desire for our partner to possess “predictive empathy” (i.e., mind reading), the true relationship upgrade is the ability to sincerely acknowledge and celebrate the effort shown. You can’t issue a subpoena for telepathy, but you can certainly issue an enthusiastic. Thank you for the lighter emotional load.

Do you agree? Share your ‘didn’t have to ask’ moment this week. 🤔

03/17/2025

Acceptance doesn’t mean you are okay with the behavior. We try bargaining with the past instead of accepting what is or what happened. Ask yourself, what is this trying to teach me? Then learn the lesson.

10/18/2024

Sometimes all it takes is a new pair of lenses to see the world in a whole new perspective. It’s all about perspective, embracing different viewpoints, and challenging negative perspectives. What are you seeing through your lenses today? By the way, what do you think of these new shades?

10/02/2024

Grief is like the ocean; it has its tides. Some days the ways of sadness feel overwhelming and others. The calmness allows for reflection in peace don’t fight the waves learn to navigate them. Your strength lies in your ability to keep going even when the current feel strong. journey compassion

09/22/2024

This peach cobbler, made with love by my amazing husband, is more than just a dessert. It’s a symbol of love, understanding, and communication. I used to have a fixed idea of what love should look like, but I’ve learned that love is so much more nuanced. Every relationship has its own unique language. Let’s embrace the love that comes our way by learning to understand and appreciate each other’s love languages. cobbler

09/21/2024

Self validation sounds easy but can be challenging if you are use to invalidating yourself. Therapy is a great place to learn how to self validate. Click the link in my bio to find out more.

09/20/2024

09/16/2024

Our bodies are remarkably adept at storing memories, both positive and negative. When we experience a traumatic event, our nervous system goes into overdrive, releasing a flood of stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline. These hormones prepare us for a fight-or-flight response, but if the threat persists or is chronic, our bodies can become stuck in this state. It’s important to understand that these physical symptoms are not just a coincidence. They are often the body’s way of expressing the emotional turmoil caused by trauma. By recognizing and addressing these physical manifestations, we can take a significant step toward healing.

09/15/2024

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06/30/2024

Don’t make decisions when you’re activated, you can’t see clearly.