Maya Nehru Coaching

Maya Nehru Coaching Therapist for the ‘pleasers’ & ‘I’m fine’-ers. You ignore your needs…then resent it later. I help you stop abandoning yourself.

Kindness and self-abandonment are not the same thing.People-pleasers learn early that being “a good person” means being ...
06/10/2026

Kindness and self-abandonment are not the same thing.

People-pleasers learn early that being “a good person” means being available, agreeable, and endlessly accommodating. But that’s not kindness, that’s a survival strategy that got rewarded.

In case no one’s told you: you can be a genuinely kind person and still cancel the plans you never wanted to make. Charge what you’re worth. Say “I don’t want to talk about this right now.” Let them figure it out on their own. Leave the group chat. Not be available 24/7. Turn down the favor that would cost you your whole weekend.

None of that makes you selfish. It makes you someone who stopped outsourcing their own needs to keep everyone else comfortable. And you’re allowed to do that.

Kindness that costs you everything isn’t kindness. Read that again.

Save this for the moment someone tries to make you feel guilty for having a limit. Follow me for more on healthy relationships, setting boundaries, and taking care of YOU.

Oh, hi! It’s been a while so now feels like time for a proper re-introduction. I’m Maya, a licensed therapist (in Califo...
06/10/2026

Oh, hi! It’s been a while so now feels like time for a proper re-introduction. I’m Maya, a licensed therapist (in California and Washington) and ex-people pleaser who has been in therapy since I was 15. I didn’t know at that time that so much of what I was struggling with was boundaries (or the lack of them), enmeshment, attachment wounds, and unidentified trauma. Now, that’s exactly what I help clients with every day, and it’s just so fulfilling.

I built this page because I needed it to exist when I was younger — a place where mental health feels less clinical and more like a conversation with someone who actually gets it. I talk about anxiety, people-pleasing, attachment styles, and learning to show up for yourself without burning out. If you have ever said yes when you meant no, apologized for having feelings, or wondered why connection feels so hard, you are in the right place.

Save this post so you can find me later and follow so you never miss what’s coming next. So happy to have you here. 🫶🏽

Woke up feeling blah so decided to do something about it. These are by no means some groundbreaking wellness hacks. They...
06/09/2026

Woke up feeling blah so decided to do something about it. These are by no means some groundbreaking wellness hacks. They’re just small moments of listening to myself.

✨ Waiting 30 minutes before checking my phone.
✨ Naming what I was feeling and where I felt it in my body.
✨ Walking outside and being present.
✨ Taking a nap when I was tired instead of waiting until I’d “earned” it.

Mental health is often shaped by these small, everyday choices that help us regulate our nervous system, connect with ourselves, and respond to our needs with compassion.

What would change if you treated your needs as important enough to listen to today?

Hey, here’s a reminder from a therapist who works with people-pleasers: your needs count even in the smallest moments. S...
06/08/2026

Hey, here’s a reminder from a therapist who works with people-pleasers: your needs count even in the smallest moments.

Saying “wherever you want” when you actually have a preference, eating the wrong order because you didn’t want to bother the waiter, convincing yourself something “isn’t a big deal” so you don’t have to bring it up, apologizing for being upset when you were the one who got let down…these aren’t just quirky habits. They’re signs that somewhere along the way, you learned that keeping the peace was safer than taking up space.

The good news is that awareness is the first step. You can start small: name your preference, send the plate back, let yourself feel the thing without talking yourself out of it. Your needs don’t have to earn their right to exist. Wanting what you want — even something as small as where to eat — is allowed. Period!

Save this as a reminder the next time you catch yourself shrinking. And if this hit close to home, you’d probably love what I talk about over at so follow along!

Healthy relationships are built on psychological safety — and psychological safety is built on language. The phrases we ...
06/07/2026

Healthy relationships are built on psychological safety — and psychological safety is built on language. The phrases we reach for in hard moments either reinforce connection or slowly erode it.

When your partner hears “you don’t have to earn softness from me” or “your feelings are data, not drama,” their body registers safety before their mind even catches up. That’s how trust gets built. Not in grand gestures, but in the words you choose on an ordinary Tuesday when things feel hard.

Save this for when you need a reminder of what love actually sounds like. ❤️ Follow me for more on relationships, boundaries, and emotional wellbeing.

Most of us are so much harder on ourselves than we would ever be on someone we love. We replay mistakes, hold ourselves ...
06/06/2026

Most of us are so much harder on ourselves than we would ever be on someone we love. We replay mistakes, hold ourselves to impossible standards, and feel guilty for needing rest.

I wish I could bold and underline this: there way you talk to yourself matters. It shapes how you feel, how you heal, and how you show up in every relationship in your life. Learning to speak to yourself with kindness is one of the most important things you will ever do. Truly.

👉🏽 Save this for when your inner critic is louder than your inner friend and follow me for more tools to help you build a kinder relationship with yourself.

Uncertainty is one of the hardest things for an anxious brain to sit with. Not because something is actually wrong — but...
06/05/2026

Uncertainty is one of the hardest things for an anxious brain to sit with. Not because something is actually wrong — but because not knowing feels like something is wrong.

So your mind starts filling in the blanks. Replaying conversations. Bracing for outcomes that haven’t happened yet. Trying to think your way to safety.

These affirmations are what I reach for when my brain is doing too much. Not to pretend everything is fine — but to remind myself that I can be uncertain and still okay. Still here. Still capable of figuring it out.

Save these for the next spiral. 🤍

Drop a 🫶🏽 and follow me for more on managing anxiety, unlearning people-pleasing, and building relationships that don’t require you to shrink.

If you’ve ever met someone kind, consistent and emotionally available and felt absolutely nothing — this post is for you...
06/04/2026

If you’ve ever met someone kind, consistent and emotionally available and felt absolutely nothing — this post is for you. Let’s talk about why’s secure love can feel boring at first and what that’s actually telling you about your nervous system. 👇🏽

Here’s the thing: when you’ve spent years in relationships that felt like a rollercoaster your nervous system starts to read anxiety as attraction. The push and pull. The hot and cold. The uncertainty that kept you up at night. Your brain filed all of that under “passion” and “chemistry” because that’s what love felt like in your experience.

So when someone safe shows up — someone who texts back, follows through, doesn’t leave you guessing — your nervous system doesn’t recognize it. It scans for the chaos that isn’t there. And in the absence of that familiar anxiety it tells you there’s no spark.

Question though… What if the spark you’ve been chasing was actually fear? And what if the love you’ve been calling boring is actually just… safe?

Safe can feel unfamiliar when you’ve never had it. Calm can feel like settling when you’ve only ever known chaos. Consistency can feel unexciting when your whole system was wired for uncertainty.

Security isn’t the absence of passion. It’s the presence of peace. And your nervous system just needs time to learn that peace is not the same thing as settling. 🫶🏽

Do you validate yourself enough? Or do you default to minimizing and gaslighting your own feelings? 🤷🏽‍♀️ Self-validati...
06/03/2026

Do you validate yourself enough? Or do you default to minimizing and gaslighting your own feelings? 🤷🏽‍♀️

Self-validation is the ability to acknowledge your own feelings without needing someone else to confirm them first. For many of us, this is incredibly hard — especially if we grew up in environments where our emotions were dismissed, minimized, or ignored altogether. As a therapist, I firmly believe that leaving to validate yourself is one of the most important parts of healing because it means your sense of reality stops depending on other people’s approval. You become your own safe place. 💕

Save this for when you need a reminder that your experience is real and it matters and let me know which one(s) you’ll be using this week!

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