Dr. Cortney S. Warren - Choose Honesty, LLC

08/20/2026

The way we respond to disagreements in our romantic relationships can reveal a lot about our emotional intelligence.

I was recently featured in YourTango discussing seven phrases that emotionally stubborn people often use, along with healthier alternatives that encourage empathy, self-awareness, and stronger communication.

Emotional intelligence doesn’t mean always agreeing--it means being willing to reflect, listen, and consider a perspective beyond your own when in relationships with others.

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Harvard psychologist Dr. Cortney Warren shares a few signs someone's stubbornness is getting in the way of their emotional growth.

08/19/2026

Is ignorance really bliss?

On one hand, being unaware makes you less responsible for "bad choices." In that way, it shields you from the impact of unideal actions.

On the other hand, ignorance limits your growth and freedom.
Because without self-awareness, you can't make meaningful, deliberate changes to your life.

So, while ignorance may offer temporary comfort, true liberation comes from facing reality and using that knowledge to evolve.

08/19/2026

Strong relationships aren’t just about finding the “right” person, they’re about staying curious about each other and continuing to communicate as you grow.

In an article featured in En Pareja, I discussed nine questions that can help couples build greater trust, connection, and emotional security.

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Prioritizing deep conversation: Harvard psychologist shares key questions that build relationship trust

08/18/2026

Why do we lie to ourselves, even when the truth may be obvious?

I recently joined When Blk Men Talk for a conversation with Mark Simmons about self-deception and how avoiding uncomfortable truths can keep us stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns.

We also talked about the ideas behind my book, Lies We Tell Ourselves, and why learning to recognize our own self-deception is such an important part of personal development.

Listen to the full episode on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1ZAF4Ae27zui7ifSRINpsW?si=I1CZrxF7R2mMgD32pTq9CA&utm_source=copy-link&sci=spotify%3Acard-config%3A0cQsh3EN3oHFNefSVTeS3c&nd=1&dlsi=cafb2bead8934955

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08/13/2026

Will I ever get over them? 💔
It’s one of the most common questions people ask me after a breakup.

Sometimes the answer is yes, you will get over them. You will move on over time as you create a new life without them.

Other times, the memory of that person lingers for months, years, or even decades.

But here’s the truth that can really help you:
The more you invest in creating a meaningful life without them, the easier it will be to get over them.
They may still cross your mind and you may still miss them. But creating a life without them that is full of meaning will go a long way towards moving on.

08/05/2026

You can list all the qualities you should want in a partner… but that doesn’t mean you’ll feel love for them.

Why? Because love isn’t just a choice—it’s a drive, an emotion, a physiological experience that defies logic.

So if you’ve ever wondered, “Why do I love this person when it doesn’t make sense?”—you’re not alone.

Love isn’t about checklists. It’s about connection, chemistry, and something deeper we can’t always explain. ❤️

07/30/2026

One of the most powerful tools for moving on from a former flame is radical acceptance.

By reminding yourself in the most brutally honest way possible that your relationship is over--at least for today--you empower yourself to make choices based on the reality of your life. It keeps you grounded in the truth and combats our tendency to live in the past.

It’s a step towards living authentically and courageously.

07/22/2026

When we're suffering, it may feel as though the intensity will last forever.

Yet, the phrase, "This, too, shall pass." brings hope. It's a recognition that no matter how deep the pain, it will not remain at its peak intensity indefinitely.

By embracing this perspective, we learn to navigate through adversity.

07/21/2026

Building trust with your mate is a process. It’s shaped by the way we communicate each day.

I’m pleased to be cited by MSN sharing eight common phrases used by couples that can quietly erode emotional safety— and what to say instead that can build honesty, security, and connection.

The truth is that healthy communication isn’t about avoiding conflict. Instead it’s about learning how to stay respectful and connected through it.

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In the happiest and most successful relationships, each partner believes that the other will follow through on their commitments. Harvard-trained psychologist Dr. Cortney Warren shares the phrases that couples who truly trust each other never say.

07/15/2026

Are you struggling with obsessive thinking?

When life throws you a curveball, it’s easy to become fixated on a person or situation from our past.

If you find yourself hyper-focused on the past, try the skills of rumination time and thought stopping.

You have the power to manage your mind and live a healthier, more peaceful life.