Abby Rodman Psychotherapist

10/18/2026

The narcissist is not your friend. They are not your confidante or soul mate or twin flame. They are luring you into a false sense of security so that sharing your deepest secrets with them feels safe. They will use these secrets against you — hard as that may be to believe. They need am******on from you to ready their flying monkeys who will jump to their defense when the narcissist discards or reverse discards you. Of course, they will also make s**t up — so why give them any additional am******on?

10/18/2026

This is a cautionary tale and there is so much more to this story than I am sharing here. But please be smarter than I was. Unharness yourself legally and logistically in any way you can as a written part of your divorce agreement. If your STBX is being difficult or uncooperative during the divorce, just imagine how they will be as an ex-spouse when they no longer have any skin in the game.

10/17/2026

If you want your relationship to last, you have to be willing to cut off anything that makes your partner uncomfortable or threatens the trust you've built together.
It's not about losing your freedom or being controlled. It's about respecting the person you claim to love and understanding that some things are simply not worth risking your relationship over.
When you genuinely love someone, you don't keep entertaining people, situations, or habits that make them question their place in your life.
That's not control. That's respect, loyalty, maturity, and prioritization.
A healthy relationship requires compromise, reassurance, and the willingness to protect what you have, even when it means letting go of things you once enjoyed. Because at the end of the day, you cannot keep choosing what hurts your partner and expect them to feel safe loving you.

10/17/2026

A man calling you “baby” means nothing if his actions don't match his words. A man calling you his girlfriend means nothing if he doesn't treat you like one. Even having a baby with you or marrying you doesn't automatically mean you're truly loved.
You know what actually means something? A man who recognizes his flaws, takes accountability, changes his behavior, and makes real efforts to become a better partner because he values you and doesn't want to lose you.
Love isn't proven by titles, promises, babies, or marriage. It's proven by consistency, accountability, respect, loyalty, and the willingness to change.
Because a man can give you his name and still break your heart, but a man who truly values you will make sure his actions give you reasons to stay

10/17/2026

But reporting him for sexual assault could ruin that young man’s future.”
Correct. And what about the woman whose life he traumatized?
I would rather a man who sexually assaults women face accountability than be given a career as a doctor, teacher, psychologist, paramedic, or any other profession that gives him power over or access to women and girls.
**His future is not more important than her safety.**
Stop worrying about the future of a man accused of causing harm and start caring about the women who deserve to live without fear. Accountability is not the destruction of a life; it is a necessary step toward protecting others and preventing further harm.

10/17/2026

10/17/2026

Narcissists struggle to self-reflect because admitting they are wrong means taking accountability for their actions.
They don't focus on the pain they caused you; they focus on how you reacted to it.
In their minds, they did nothing wrong until you finally got tired, spoke up, or stopped tolerating their behavior.
Suddenly, your reaction becomes the problem, your emotions become the issue, and somehow, they become the victim of the very situation they created.
They rewrite the story to protect their ego, avoid accountability, and make you question yourself.
**They want you to apologize for reacting to the disrespect they refuse to acknowledge.**
And that's how you end up defending your reaction instead of addressing what hurt you in the first place.

10/16/2026

The narcissist’s whole life is spent hiding who they really are from others. What did you eventually find out about their true nature?

10/16/2026

IN A NARCISSISTIC FAMILY, CHILDREN NEVER GET TO BE CHILDREN BECAUSE…
1. They’re raised to meet emotional needs, not to have them.
Instead of being nurtured, they’re expected to take care of the parent’s fragile ego — becoming the comforter, peacekeeper, or scapegoat.
2. Love is conditional.
They quickly learn that affection depends on performance, obedience, or how much they make the parent look good.
3. There’s no room for mistakes.
A simple error becomes a source of shame, mockery, or punishment — so the child grows up anxious and overly self-critical.
4. Their individuality is erased.
They’re not allowed to have opinions, boundaries, or preferences that differ from the narcissistic parent’s.
5. Emotional manipulation replaces safety.
Guilt, gaslighting, and favoritism teach the child to walk on eggshells rather than feel secure or loved.
6. They parent their own parents.
They become “little adults,” forced to soothe, manage, or defend the very people who should protect them.
7. Authentic joy feels unsafe.
Even happiness gets policed — if they laugh too loud or shine too bright, it threatens the narcissist’s control.
8. Childhood turns into survival.
Instead of memories filled with play and discovery, they carry memories of fear, confusion, and emotional exhaustion.