09/03/2026
For many in Washington it's the first day of school! I hope you and your child have an easeful day filled with connection and joy.
I wanted to offer some suggestions for after the long day away....
I know it can be tempting to ask...“How was your day?”…and get the classic, “Fine.”
Instead, try reconnecting before asking questions. When your child gets home, see if you can exude unshakable positive regard in your smile and steadiness. Maybe something like, "I'm so glad to see you!" Then, notice what they need...
A snack?
A hug?
Some quiet time to decompress?
Connection with you?
Once they’ve had a chance to settle, I suggest trying a specific question like, “Who did you sit with at lunch?” or “What was something funny that happened today?” and maybe, “Was there anything that felt tricky?”
And my personal favorite meal time connection ritual is offering everyone an opportunity to share their Rose, Thorn, Bud or we like to make it silly with High, Low, Buffalo.
These little rituals don't have to be complicated. They create regular opportunities to connect, listen, and learn what’s happening. And we want our kids and teens to keep getting those reminders and hopefully know that we're here, we're listening, and we care.