Attachment Nerd

Attachment Nerd Licensed therapist nerding out on the art and science of Connecting, Healing, and Hoping. Mom to 3.

We just found out that my father in law has a terminal illness. We are heartbroken and feeling all the things. It sounds...
09/11/2026

We just found out that my father in law has a terminal illness. We are heartbroken and feeling all the things. It sounds cliche but of course we assumed we would have more time. More time to navigate some tricky dynamics, more time to enjoy him and learn from him, and have him in our midst solving mechanical and technical problems as was his speciality.

It has been shocking and devastating on so many unique levels that we all have emotional motion sickness.

It’s not the first time tragic loss has visited my life and I would guess it’s also not the last.

Reminding myself of these anchoring truths so that I can stay upright and move thru this in changeable reality with as much depth and authenticity as possible.

Sending love to everyone who has known the complex terrain of tragic and unexpected loss.

Love on, and be gentle with yourself.

09/10/2026

Sensitivity is often just a nervous system that learned to protect itself.

Dr. Sasha Hamdani joined the How to Deal Podcast to talk about how repeated microaggressions shape the brain, and why what looks like "being too sensitive" is actually a defense mechanism doing exactly what it was built to do. She explains how this kind of protection gets misread as a personality flaw, and what it means to build safety instead of shame around it.

Comment "SASHA" and I'll send you the link to listen.

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09/10/2026

Gender based nurture differences BREAK MY HEART IN TWO. Every child needs secure attuned responses from their caregivers.

Every child deserves to have spaces where they can be tender and open and authentic.

Every child should have emotional mentoring and support throughout their whole developmental journey.

Boys need connection and support in the exact same human way that girls do. ALL children are wired for attachment.

For support in giving your son a space to process what he feels and to deepen his relationship with you comment the word JOURNAL below and I will send you a link to order my Mother-Son Journal Uniquely Us, out Sept 22nd!

(Mother daughter version is already out! Get it wherever you buy books…also titled Uniquely Us)

Love on.

09/10/2026

Many of us were taught growing up that toughness was the trait we needed to get thru hard things and abusive situations. But research on sensitivity is showing us something different.

When our nervous systems are keen to notice changes and nuances in the environment we are experiencing the protective gift of sensitivity.

Our sensitivity may make it harder to endure abuse which is actually the exact protection we need: because if we can’t tolerate it, we are more likely to recognize it, and remove ourselves from its grasp.

09/08/2026

Parenting is hard. Sometimes we need timeouts so that we don’t make it harder. That’s all.

Love on.

It's never too late to start again with your kids.Maybe you're looking back, wishing you'd done things differently. That...
09/08/2026

It's never too late to start again with your kids.

Maybe you're looking back, wishing you'd done things differently. That doesn't mean you've failed as a parent. It means you're noticing, and noticing gives you a chance to change the pattern.

Repair teaches our children something perfection never could: that relationships can survive mistakes, and we can always try again.

For those of you who are worried that it's too late... one of my favorite things about attachment research is this: our sense of security in ourselves, and in our relationships, can change at any point in our lives.

My mom made a U-turn when I was nine years old. I wouldn't be doing this without that.

You don't have to get parenting perfect. You just have to keep coming back.

Wendy Snyder joined me on How to Deal and we talked about "How to Make a Parenting U-Turn." Comment "PODCAST" for the link.

Parenting isn’t about getting it right all the time. It’s about building a relationship where both you and your child ca...
09/08/2026

Parenting isn’t about getting it right all the time. It’s about building a relationship where both you and your child can feel seen, heard, and cared for. 🤍

And sometimes, we need a little support along the way, too.

The Secure Parenting Program gives you practical tools, ongoing support, and a community to lean on as you navigate the messy, meaningful work of parenting.

You’ll get lifetime access to all of the program resources, and I never want finances to be the reason you can’t join us. That’s why we offer a pay-what-you-can option.

And there’s a little something extra for program members…
Swipe to see the exclusive per!

Want to join the Secure Parenting Program? Comment “PROGRAM” below or send us a DM.

Interested in the Secure Parent Retreat? Comment “RETREAT” and we’ll send you the details.

xoxo

Adding a new baby or child to the family is complicated to say the least. Logistics and finances and physical living spa...
09/07/2026

Adding a new baby or child to the family is complicated to say the least. Logistics and finances and physical living spaces all get turned upside down. But the hardest part for our children who are already with us, is the unexpectedness of so many of those changes and a lack of space to process them.

There is no way to removed emotion or confusion completely from their experience but we can put in place creative ways for them to process ahead of time in order to ease the emotional transition they go thru.

For help in giving all of your children an emotionally secure experience with you, comment the word SECURE below and I’ll send you a link to learn more about my lifetime access secure parent program.

Love on.

May our children feel seen, supported, soothed and secure with us, and may that mean less confusion and emotional toil o...
09/05/2026

May our children feel seen, supported, soothed and secure with us, and may that mean less confusion and emotional toil on their developmental journey forward. And may we rest in the truth that none of that happens without mistakes and flubs and seasons of struggle.

And may you be surrounded by community and support to keep your eyes on the prize that nothing matters more than the sacred relationship we have been given with our children.

For more community and help on this mission comment the word “RETREAT” below to snag a spot at my in person weekend Oct 23-25th in Morrison (Denver area), CO. Can’t wait to get a chance to see and support YOU there as you continue to see and support your kids all the other days of the year 😘

Love on.

09/05/2026

You don't have to feel worthy to be worthy.

Sometimes the part of us that feels unworthy isn't trying to hurt us—it's trying to protect us from experiencing the rejection, abandonment, or pain we've known before.

You can struggle with your sense of worth and still be worthy.

You don't have to become someone different to deserve love, care, and connection. ❤️

Comment MARISA to listen to the full podcast episode!

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