David Lechnyr, LCSW

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David Lechnyr, LCSW I help couples identify the patterns keeping their relationship stuck, and replace them with skills that actually work.

This page represents the professional practice of David Lechnyr, LCSW, a licensed clinical social worker providing couples therapy and relationship counseling services.

10/08/2026

Why Your Relationship Isn’t Getting Better: Doing the work but nothing’s changing? A Gottman-certified therapist explains why good reasons block progress and the six hours a week couples need.

10/01/2026

Why We Can’t All Be Like Superman
When your partner is late, it’s a character flaw. When you’re late, it’s traffic. That gap quietly drives a lot of arguments. In this short video, I use Christopher Reeve’s Superman to show why we judge other people by character and ourselves by context, plus a three-second flip that stops the verdict before it starts.

09/23/2026

Gottman Method Couples Therapy is quite explicit about mind reading in relationships: Healthy partners are expected to know each other well, but they are not expected to mind-read. This brings up an important distinction between attunement and mind reading.

In this video:

* Gottman’s “Love Maps” support knowing your partner, but not predicting every need
* The “you should know without me telling you” expectation creates a paradox
* Important qualification: “I shouldn’t have to ask” can sometimes contain a legitimate complaint
* Why your partner’s reactive anger is often a side-effect of this process
* The clinically useful distinction I use with my couples

09/09/2026

Three simple ways to sabotage your relationship by playing it safe, trying to solve things quickly, and not going very deep below the surface

09/03/2026

The Gottman Institute's Sound Relationship House Theory, in simple language.

09/03/2026

If you’re not used to emotions, it’s helpful to have a partner who supports you and reinforces you. Even if you’re not perfect.

08/28/2026

Just like Star Trek: TNG’s episode, “Tapestry,” you too, can unravel the quality of your relationship if you’re not careful.

08/25/2026

Fixing problems in your partner’s life is sometimes more about your intolerance of emotions than it is about actually being present for your partner. Ahem… Don’t do that, please.

08/21/2026

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Most relationship books promise transformation if you just learn the right technique. This isn’t that kind of book.

What follows is a field guide to the ten most common ways couples erode their relationships, often without realizing it. By reverse-engineering these patterns, you can easily do the George Costanza method: Just do the opposite.

Each chapter names a specific pattern, explains the mechanism driving it, and gives you one concrete move to start changing it. The content is grounded in decades of relationship research, the same research that forms the foundation of the most empirically validated approach to couples therapy in existence.

It’s also bite-sized and designed to be easy to use. In other words, you don’t need to read this cover to cover. You can start with the pattern that’s costing you the most right now.

08/19/2026

The love, care, and feeding of relationships. It’s the small things often. How do you manage conflict. How you’re connected as friends. Relationship nutrition 101. 

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