10/13/2026
STEAL OUR CHRISTMAS MARRIAGE HACK 🎄
Because nothing says “Merry Christmas” like being broke, burnt out, and low-key irritated with your spouse.
(We shared this last year, but it was too good not to post again. If you missed it the first time, you're welcome. 😂)
For years, we just winged it from Thanksgiving to New Year’s.
We bought all the gifts. Said yes to all the invitations. Tried to see every human we love. Donated to every worthy cause. Kept traditions alive simply because, well… that’s what we’ve always done.
And by the time the season was over? We were overbooked, overspent, and emotionally clocked out. Love this for us right?! 🙃
Turns out, you can create an insta-perfect Christmas and still feel like absolute garbage by January 2.
One year, we decided to stop letting the holidays run our marriage and started making a plan together.
Enter: The 15-Minute Christmas Marriage Check-In.
We do it in OCTOBER. Yes, October. Before the money gets spent and we’re at full speed.
Here are some of the questions we ask each other:
🎄 What traditions do we genuinely LOVE, and which ones are we keeping alive out of guilt?
💸 What’s our ACTUAL budget for gifts and donations? How do we start putting away money away now?
📅 Who do we want to see, and how often?
🙅♀️ What are we saying NO to this year?
🤐 What conversations, decisions, or boundaries need to stay between US?
👀 Where do we end up resentful, overwhelmed, or stretched too thin every single year - and what are we changing this time?
🧦 And, of course… are matching Christmas pajamas mandatory or negotiable? We believe in asking the important questions.
We write down what we agree on and revisit it in November.
Here’s the thing, though. You can honor traditions, family, and generosity without sacrificing your peace and marriage.
So consider this your reminder to have the conversation BEFORE the chaos. Not in the middle of an argument in the car on the way to somebody's house. 😅
Save this. Send it to your spouse. Put 15 minutes on the calendar.
*dropping a photo of our Christmas adventure last year.