Greg Kovacs, PhD

07/23/2026

"If I just explain it one more time..."
"If they would just listen to my advice..."

How much energy are you spending every day trying to "fix" the people you love most?

In my latest blog post, I break down why our well-intended efforts to fix our partners and kids can create the very distance, friction, and resentment we’re trying to prevent.

When you shift from trying to control outcomes to actually building connection, relationships change in big ways!

Ever find yourself jumping straight into "fix-it" mode when your partner is overwhelmed or your child is struggling? Behind that advice is a common psychological defense: intellectualization. Discover why the fear of "not knowing" drives us to treat emotional distress like a math

12/30/2025

In this episode, Dr. Greg Kovacs dives into the concept of relationship burnout. Discover why relationships in 2025 feel more intense and demanding and how e...

09/26/2025

Discipline is a misunderstood thing. There's discipline to control and discipline that teaches self-respect, introspection, critical thinking, and the ability to recognize mistakes as opportunities to problem-solve. Discipline to control leads to anxious compliance, and it's downright damaging!

Correction can change a child’s behavior for a moment, but connection shapes who they become for a lifetime. 🌱

When children feel understood, valued, and loved, they don’t just obey—they trust. They become more open to guidance, more willing to learn, and more secure in who they are.

A child who is constantly corrected without connection may behave outwardly, but inside they may feel unseen, unheard, and unloved. On the other hand, a child who feels deeply connected to their parent learns that discipline isn’t about punishment—it’s about growth, safety, and love.

Connection is the foundation that makes correction meaningful. It’s what turns lessons into lifelong values. 💕

So before you correct, pause to connect. Look into their eyes, listen to their heart, and let them know you are on their side. Because one day, they won’t remember every rule you enforced… but they will always remember how you made them feel.
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05/17/2025

Dear Younger Generations: It has recently come to my attention that "Netflix and Chill" does not mean what it once did. In the future, please inform the rest of us. It's important. Now, if you'll excuse me, I have a few things to clear up amongst friends.

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04/23/2025

03/06/2025

In the late 90s, I read Descartes' Error, and one point by Damasio stayed with me: emotional "gut instincts" are essential, helping us avoid being paralyzed by choices.

03/05/2025

"Can't you just get over it?" is an insidious, emotionally isolating statement. And emotional isolation primes a sense of helplessness, evokes a sense of danger, and is linked to the fear of death. "Fear of death?! You're exaggerating a bit, aren't you?" No, I'm not.

03/03/2025

Emotionally available partners are neurological handymen, rewiring crappy emotional circuits left by childhood’s “amateur electricians.”